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Amanda...I haven't read all of your post, but I have got the basic gist. If you don't want people to comment on your choices and experience, if you feel it's inapproppriate for people to give their opinions on your choices...posting them on a forum isn't really the best thing to do. I know that you are fighting your corner, but in all honesty, the mature thing to do would be to just let people get on with it. If you keep posting messages with an aggressive tone, you will most likely receive aggressive sounding replies. If you are confident in your choices, just be confident quietly; there's no need to post your life story and your views over and over again. We all know that there are some confrontational people on these boards - it would be best to ignore these people. Posts such as yours are like a red rag to a bull...they simply make these people want to argue more. I hope you will understand what I'm trying to say here - stop fighting, be mature about this, and don't antagonise the people who want to argue with you. There's no need.

I have tried to let people get on with it and not post to anyone that was saying something that I didn't like but now I am just asking if we can move on from it. And if that doesn't work then maybe they can just do it on this post instead of everyone else's, so they can get the responses they need.

i don't think that it is inappropriate to give opinions but i do think that it is inappropriate to tell them continuously that they are wrong. and i am not trying to come off as aggressive, i am angry, i want people to get onto other things, but i do not know anyone who will not defend themselves when people will not quit talking about them. i should be able to post that i am married without everyone jumping all over me and telling me that I was wrong. If people taunt me constantly trying to get me to be rude then I am going to come back and defend myself, I am not going to let anyone talk about my marriage without saying something about it. I do know what you are trying to say, and your right but my self control only goes so far.

Hang on a moment,you are saying to people "stop this ridiculous behaviour".Just like a baby it takes two,as Kal says if you don't want people to keep on at you,then quit,move on,change the subject,funnily enough people will answer on a subject!!!!!!However,you want to keep on about marrying young,then rightly so,people will say how wrong it is,you are too young,too immature,did your boyfriend respect,why the rush,what an example,you are a kid....etc etc etc.All those points raised by me,Carrie,and others have a valid ponit,shame you cannot see it,if you want to change the subject,because frankly you are getting no-where,then feel free to do so.

i said can "we" not you. i want to change the subject because its really not your business, and that is not the point of this forum.and i made this post because you are the one that keeps taunting me, trying to get me to be rude, if you want to say something about me and not drop it then can you say it on this post so that other people can actually get answers? i don't want to keep on talking about getting married young but obviously you do so if you have to then please say it on here, you don't agree with me getting married then that's how you feel, i will not change your mind about it and i really don't want to but you talking c___p to me is not going to change how i feel about it. and i dont care if i am not getting anywhere on this forum because its my life and i wouldn't change it for anything. so continue on if you must, but try to remember that this is a pregnancy forum.

I have been reading your posts,having looked on this site 1st time today,you try to come across as mature,yet obviously is not,the way you talk,the way you jump back at people,the way you seem to think that your life is right,yet cannot see the countless replies back,which really is great advice.You would'nt change your life at the moment,because you are young,no worries,not yet had a baby,and think that you are deeply in love with your husband,however,your age,the way you will change when you get a tad older will,hopefully make you see sense.Both my mother and sister I think are slags,slappers,whatever you want to call them,my mother 18 when she had us,then dumped us,my sister 17,and that failed too.I'm not old,so don't write back and say I'm an older wiser women,just know what can happen in families that split because after all when the relationship changes from wanting s_x a lot,to being content with your man,in a grown up relationship you will funally understand how wrong you are,and its people like me from an unhappy family that it affects.Grow up.

Well, Susan I am sorry that you had a bad family, you can think that I am just a s_x crazed teenager but I am proud of my marriage, and the fact that I have only slept with one person. You think my marriage is a crock then that's fine, and we may end up getting divorced but that's something that 50% of people go through.

I hope to God you have only been sleeping with one person,given your age,I hope my father was my mothers 1st,however,that does'nt change the way she went on,or my father.maybe you are right 50% may get divorced,but at least some of these other give it a go for a few yrs longer before making a commitment.Its true what these women are saying,you change when you get older.Its not fair to bring a kid into the world when your life is changing,As I said I had a rotten childhood,and only now with my boyfriends family am I proud to fit in.I don't want to talk about my parents,my sister at 17 having her 1st,it gives an impression that I migt be like them,an easy lay.

If you do not want other people's opinions (and yes, stating you are immature and wrong IS an opinion) than stop putting your life story out there. You don't want your marriage discussed, then you should have never mentioned it in the first place. Telling people you met your husband at age 12 when he is 7 years older than you is GOING to get a response liek it or not. Telling people you got married at 14 is GOING to get a response. You may not like the responses you get. It would be wonderful if you could copmprehend that no one is attacking you, putting you down, or "taunting you" by saying you are immature. You keep starting these same threads over and over and yet never seem to understand that no one is taunting you. People are simply stating that at your age it is too immature to be trying to have children. If you can't accept that people will feel that way, then move on. Unless of course you are TRYING to fight for the fun of it. I'm beginning to wonder.

at my age my sister had 8 different partners, my cousin who had lost her virginity at 16 had 5 by the time she reached 18,all of my friends have had atleast 3, so that is something to be proud of.

And on the subject of divorce....do we think you are destined to get one? Of course not. I hope you have a wonderful happy marriage that lasts forever. But to a__sume you won't is living in a fantasy world, there is always that possibility for ANYONE. It is better to wait a while and make sure the relationship grows enough for the sake of the child. I waited 7 years with my hubby because I wanted to be sure things looked good for the future. DISCLAIMER: Just my opinion, not an attack!

i don't keep starting any posts, and Nicole and people like her are taunting me by posting on posts that i said i was done with to try to get me to post back and be rude. hum i guess that's not taunting, its just me being over sensitive. i don't care what you think about me because its not your life, you don't have to live it I do, I like it, its great and if people like you don't accept that then that's fine, I am not losing anything because you don't agree with my life style. And if I am so immature then why don't you be the mature one and stop debating with me?

Christ I thought my sister was a slag at getting pregnant then marrying at 17,she's now onto her 2nd husband,she had one boyfriend before the one who got her pregnant,if she had s_x with him,that makes 3,not as bad as your sister then!Or your cousin,think I'm getting to know your family background bit like mine,thinks nothing of sleeping about,maybe thats why you cannot understand and see sense.Easy girls..!

THERE U R AGAIN LIKE A BAD DISEASE ... EVERYONE STOP REPLYIN TO ONCE AGAIN ALL SHE DOES IS START TROUBLE ... SHE NEEDS TO GROW UP AND GET A LIFE.... I THINK THAT SHE THRIVES OFF EVERYONE FIGHTING .... SHES A SUPER FREAK SUPER FREAK SHES SUPER FREAKY

and i have said that i know that i may get a divorce over and over again. i dont live in a fantasy world.

You have started at least 4 posts like this. Why don;t I stop debating with you? This is a message board about the best age to get pregnant, I am here to post my views the same as you. If you do not like other people's views, then I'm sorry this is not the place to be. And yes, you are being overly sensitive. Just because you say you are done with a post, that means no one else can post on it? Wrong. It is not a bait to make you try to be rude. It is their view. Either handle it, or don;t.