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I think that marriage truly is one of the most wonderful experiences one can have in life. And in my opinion.. age really shouldn't hinder ones decision to have a wedding. Now maturity and financial position.. that is what needs to be addressed. I was 20 years old when I got married. I was in my 2nd year of college.. my boyfriend was a senior in college. At the beginnign of our relationship he was very direct and he told me what he wanted out of our relationship. He didn't want just a fling.. he wanted someone to share his life with. At that point, I was a little nervous about taking on such a serious relationship.. but I loved him so I stayed with him. And within a year we were engaged. We moved intogether just prior to his graduation and after that he was offered a job in Cleveland OH (we are originally from upstate NY). BEcuase we had already lived together I moved with him to Cleveland just 7 months before our wedding. We have been married since 2005 and we are just now trying to conceive our first baby. I am only 21 (my hubby is 23) and I still can't belive that I am married. We just bought our own house. And yes it is a lot of responsibility and a lot of work for someone my age.. but I am so happy with my life and I couldn't ask for anything better. I think that the issue of marriage completely depends on the individual .. not al 20 year olds are ready for a life like mine.. but some are! And the ones that are truly committed and truly devoted to making it work.. well I give those people all the credit in the world... Those are the lucky people. They have found happiness and I wish them all the luck in the world :)

My husband and I met when I was 14 and he was 17, we got together when I was 15 he was 17. Almost 3 years later to the day I married him. I had my high school diploma and am planning on attending an online school once my new son is born and my husband is in the Navy. I will also be the first to admit that my childhood was NOT normal. I have a set of biological parents and a set of adopted parents. I did not marry my husband to prove a point. I married him because I was madly in love with him and he was my best friend. We got pregnant within two weeks of getting married because we WANTED a baby! not for any other reason. I think what people do is their own decision. I hate it when people look down on us because they think we are too young to have children but you know what we don't care. We know we did it the "correct" way with the wedding first and then the baby. Now, we have been married for 20 months our son is almost a year old and I am pregnant with another son due pretty much any day now. I did not get married and pregnant young becuase I thought it would bring me stability because obviously anybody married and who has kids knows that its not always stable to begin with. I think people are becoming ignorant that 50 years ago it was normal to get married young and have babies young. Times have changed where it is more normal to get married in your late twenties to mid-thirties and then wait several more years to have kids. Being an "older mom" (not trying to offend anybody) is not for everybody. It is a personal choice and I don't think we should judge people one way or the other.

well i met my husband when i was in 8th grade but started dating in 10th grade, we graduated from high school and for 1 year when on our different ways. we got together and got married in 2004 cause i got pg but had a miscarriage at 13 weeks 1 week after the wedding. we had the big wedding in dec 31 2005. now we have no kids cause we're scare to have a miscarriage again. for example my sis had her 1st kid at 17 and now she a divorce at age 26. But she knows she had to wait but know is late she has three kids and cant go to school. But in your position everything will go great save alot of money for your big weeding. Good luck!!!!!!

I totally understand the urge to get married young, especially when you're idealistic enough to believe that the person you love right now will be the same person you love in 10 years. However, I firmly believe that you need to be with someone for a least a few years and experience hardship and low times, as well as high times with them. Otherwise, you're view of them is entirely superficial. I met my husband when we were juniors in high school. We were both 17 and still living at home. In the 7 years that we were together before we got married we went through 4 deaths in our families, a stabbing, 1 miscarriage, 1 abortion, 2 apartments, 2 lay-offs, 1 instance where my husband (boyfriend at the time) got hurt on the job and couldn't work, and college graduations. Only after all this did we decide to get married, and I couldn't be happier that we waited. Don't get me wrong, I would have married him at 17, but I wouldn't have known what he was capable of, and what we were capable of together. I now know that NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, he wll ALWAYS be there for me, and I him. We learned how to overcome the strife and sadness together and we've learned how to enjoy the success and happiness together. We sowed our royal oats with very little responsibility and we screwed alot of things up. But, we made it. cut to 7 years later, and we had the most beautiful wedding of our lives. Now, almost a year and a half later, we've purchased our first home and are expecting our first baby. I'm d__n proud of what we've accomplished together and I'm confident that with him by my side, we can do anything. It's he and I against the world, and I"m enjoying every second of it. So, young girls, I was in your position years ago, and while waiting was hard, if I hadn't done, I never would have graduated from college, gotten a good job and been able to significantly contribute to the family life that he and I want and deserve. Wait it out, as tough as it may seem, beucase in the long run, you'll look back and say, "Yeah, we made the right decision."

JENN-jenn-- I dont really understand what you mean so your saying no one can be ready for marrige unless they have had alot of c___p thrown at them whys that i kind of see what u could be getting at but still you can still be ready before no matter what you have been through i lost my dad 6 months ago had a still born lost my home i could go on but i wont just because all that has happend dosent mean im ready and it doesnt mean im not !!!