A Truce On The C Section Wars
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 | djh - October 21 |
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There is a lot of hostile discussion regarding c-sections on these threads. Let's call a truce and validate ALL points of view on the subject. For those who had optimal c-sections and recoveries let's celebrate them, conversely, let's understand and validate those who had serious complications or severe pain from theirs. There are pros and cons to both styles of birth, va___al and c-section. Since I have been doing my OB rotation I have learned much on the pain of va___al DELIVERY ( I know all about 37.5 hours of hard LABOR) and its aftereffects, however, I still stand by my experiences and know that much has been done to improve anesthesia and 24 hour pain meds injected into the epis and spinal meds of women having c-sections today. With that said, not every woman gets the duramorph injection, or well managed pain relief and c-sections still are a hit or miss method of birth for many women, as are va___al deliveries. I think those who had positive experiences will want to share that and I think those who did not will naturally caution against them. I used to think that c-sections such as mine, with hemorrhages and excruciating pain afterwards were the worst case scenarios, but I now know that perfect, great epidural va___al deliveries are not always the norm either. Always keep in mind that just as va___al deliveries can have aftereffects for years so too can c-sections. So let's be supportive and understanding of all who share and/or lobby for one method or the other.
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Hey djh, I agree that the discussions have gotten hostile. I am still somewhat wounded by my experiences and the often thoughtless comments that were made to me. For example: "oh, you are lucky, you had your baby the easy way" or this from a friend who had a 6 hour first labor and 2 st_tches "I would rather have a c-section than endure 6 hours of labor pain". I was thinking 6 HOURS? How about weeks of pain, the first week (168 hours) of horrible pain. Djh didn't you have a hysterectomy due to all the side effects of c-sections if I recall correctly? Anyhow you are right, we all have our own experiences and while I will never recommend a c-section for conveinence or just because someone thinks they are somehow easier, I do agree a truce is in order. Especially for those like us who absolutely had no choice at all.
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Agreed completely...I think we should all be sensitive to good and bad experiences, it is both that helped me pray for the best, but prepare for the worst and it is that, that got me through my c section. There are complications that can happen no matter what way you give birth, planned or not planned. Good and bad experiences both ways as well. Which is not a bad thing, but definitally taking into concideration when about to give birth by any method, being as prepared as you can is the only thing you can do. It is important to post tasteful things, to help out those who will have an experience, whether good or bad to give a full view on the subject. Definitally a truce is in order. We as women need to stick together no matter the experiences! Good post!
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| vjr - October 24 |
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i also agree i think we are all bringing our personal experiances and opinions to the table which is good but also emotional, we want our points out there and want to be heard and should be able to do so without pa__sing judgement on the other women on here. I think we can all agree to disagree but continue to provide information to those who have question or concerns and not hurt each other for having different ideas. I personally apologize to both chem400 and djh for becoming upset at some of your post and for taking then personal, I hope we can all get along and continue a healthy forum for women by women...
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| djh - October 25 |
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Cheers, vjr, again, so very glad you had a good experience and that you and your family are enjoying premium health. How's baby? I just posted something fun, take a look and fill in a funny, anectdotal answer!
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Hi vjr, all is good, friends, eh? djh, this is an excellent thread, nice way to put it and as the other ladies said, we all have commonality, we are women first (sisters!), mothers, and we all are blessed enough to be able to sit here and debate the rare issues of any choice at all. Just think, in some parts of the world there isn't even a choice about whether one gets to eat or not. I wish I had good c-section memories, I don't, but the goodness of one's soul involves taking joy in another's personal triumph and so I shall.
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| vjr - October 25 |
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djh my daughter is doing well i think she is getting her first tooth and i'm now working on the weaning from my b___b hurdle (slowly but surely) i will check out the other thread now, chem400 yes friends, much easier and less painful huh!!
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This a good thread, everyone has had different experiences. I am lucky and have had good experiences.
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| djh - October 26 |
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Yes Lovemy3 and we are all pulling for you to have ONE MORE GOOD EXPERIENCE!!! *****Baby Dust****** to you, I have my fingers and toes crossed for you this next cycle. Just say NO to AUNT FRANNIE.
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I had 3 csections, I didnt by choice 1st one I was in labour for 33 hours and it was time to get ds and 2nd ds I started bleeding so he was an emergency. My 3rd of course had to be routine csection. I had pretty good memories of all my csections except after my 1st I started throwing up in surgery and couldnt even look at my baby also it hurt to cough, to sneez, to laugh, to do anything. my 2nd was the best but my 3rd I had some pain all the time and the night nurses, 2 nights in a row, forgot to give me pain medication so I felt major abdominal pain like nothing I have ever experienced; I am still thinking about sueing. But I am lokoing at this csection with hopes high that worst case scenario I will lose my uterus but this is my last baby so I dont really mind.
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