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it is strange but while i am very happy for colleen, it made me feel sad for me to read about such a perfect labor. did any other c-section moms feel like that or am i just too self absorbed?

to clarify, not sad that colleen had a perfect labor, I am very happy for you Colleen!, but sad that my labor could not have been so perfect. I keep thinking I'll just get over it one of these days, but instead I just keep thinking and wondering why I couldn't have been one of the easy birth stories. It doesn't matter much but it was just strange having a what-if post here that never was. I never would have thought to look up c-sections before I had one. So while I am naturally happy for women and babies who it all goes right for, it made me sad to come to the c-section board where I don't have to worry about someone saying "oh well I had 3 natural perfect births" -- which I hear everywhere I go when I tell people I had to have a section -- and I sort of got a sad for me. pathetic maybe but does anyone else get like that?

Hi olivia, I had an emergency c with my first and with this one I am having a planned c. For me, I am always glad to hear peoples stories of birth. But I am not upset about having to end up with a section-I am glad that my son made it through ok. I have also been present for my friends birth and they took her epideral away when she started pushing and I can tell you that I KNOW that that hurt! I have never had a v____al birth and have another friend who have had such "perfect painless" labors with all three of her kids due to epiderals. I don't see it as something to compare or be envious of-not to say that you are though-I just see it as certain things arise and labor is definitely something that you really can't predict how it will go. Every women is different. I know that I will have pain to deal with from the section and I know that women have natural births go through a lot-and are incredible for being able to maintain the pain and get through it. Unfortunately everyone is different and the most important thing is that you and your baby came through alright. :)

Olivia, I totally understand what you are saying! I don't think you are pathetic at all and you are going through exactly what I thought I would go through if I hadn't gotten so lucky. That's right, that's all it was, LUCKY. You are just as much a mother, just as great a woman and I hope I didn't sound like I was bragging. I meant it to be solace that even if you had one c-section, you could have a VBAC perhaps, and that most women don't have to settle for a c-section or even another c-section unless a very real and obvious medical situation exists. The baby is doing so well and I am truly lucky. The pushing was pretty dang hard and the burning bordered on "this has got to end soon" but I KNEW it wasn't going to last as long as the c-section scar pain and that got me through. I am sorry if I made you feel things you feel badly about, please don't. I was jealous before I had Matthew of women who had successfully had the "perfect delivery" and am just thanking God that now that it is over I got to be one of them. Bless your heart and feel good about yourself!

Congrats, Colleen! I must agree with Olivia, Colleen had the birth I wanted so badly, badly enough that I insisted on continuing a fruitless labor (1.5cm from hour one to hour 37.5...aaaggghhh) until the Chief of OB convinced me via x-ray that I was never going to get any baby out. I know what Olivia means when she says she feels "...sad for me..." I do too sometimes. I think Colleen brought up a good topic, though. When I was going to my first prenatals, I kinda rolled my eyes and listened halfheartedly to the doctor when he said I was almost certainly going to need a c-section and that I should read up on the experience. I didn't really read too much because I just knew I was going to be a champion pusher. I think more women should do what Colleen did, play the "what if" game so they can REALLY be prepared for what may happen. That definately includes the women who choose an elective C for their first birth...they probably need the "what if" game more than anyone in regards to complications from C's.