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Lol I searched for the answer to that same question after my emergency c-section in June. My doctor eventually told me 8 weeks at my 1 week check up, but I had already given into temptation. My s_x drive was unusually high. I kind of felt guilty because I was mouring my daughter AND HORNY. Sounds crazy, but we are humans, my it was those hormones or something. I had to convince my husband to have s_x with me because he wanted to make sure I would heal properly and that I was ok. He didn't keep that frame of mind for long. He hadn't had some since a couple days before I was admitted into the hospital. (I was on hospital bedrest for 7 days. Had my c section then stayed in for a couple more days. Then was at home for a week. Then had s_x.) He didn't mind of course. I searched the internet for when we could resume s_x after c section and the most popular was "whenever you feel comfortable" of course you have to be sensitve to your incision site, but its easy to avoid. I found out that the reason you should wait is the risk of infection is very high due to the fact that ur cervix and uterus are open and all that. If you afriad of that you should wait. Of course "other things" are ok to proceed with. As long as your not in pain I would a__sume.

Hahahah, no its not TMI I don't worry. Well it IS TMI but I'm not offended by it, I'd probably write something like that too. And you really cracked me up when you said you thought you ruined your uterus! Hahaha, I'm sure ur uterus is used to that. If contractions don't ruin it then I'm sure "a really intense O" won't either. Hehe. I'M ABOUT TO SAY SOMETHING GROSS SO I'M WARNING THE WOMEN WHO ARE READING THIS!!! Ok well my husband and I tried to hold off on s_xual intercourse so we didn't other things for a while but all of the sudden I wanted to do something I've never done before. I told him that we should just have a___l for the 8 weeks. I must have thought I was a p___n star are something because we tried it once and as soon as I felt THAT PAIN I screamed and have never wanted to do it again. I won't even let his fingers go near there anymore. I don't know if it was the crazy hormones or if my lost made me realize that life was short and that I should try new things. Whatever it was had me try that, highlight my hair, get a new job, and take all my piercings out for good. Maybe I just grew up for real now. Note: For those of you who are going to waste your time and tell me that I should have posted this comment on the "S_x and Pregnancy" bored can save your breath because I'm just responding to this post and it happens to be on this board. Sorry. Thanks.

LOL about your spontaneous desire to try "new things." I don't think that one will ever come to me. I was joking with my husband about that in the hospital because, I know this is TMI, but you know how you get REALLY BAD gas after the c-section and you have to pa__s it before you can go home? Well, I was in TONS of pain and they did this thing called a flush to help get the gas out. Needless to say, I was like, "You're in bad straights when they tell you they're going to put something up your b___t and it sounds like a relief." And you know what, it was for the gas, but I don't think I found it enjoyable. Hehe. I too got my hair done a little differently than I normally do. I needed something to make me feel s_xy. Trying to take this weight off is a B. I really haven't had much of an appet_te, but I'm eating well when I do and I just feel like this weight is not going to come off. I want clearance to do normal exercise since I was always that way before pregnancy. I looked hot before! :) I joke around and say that Brooke could at least been a big baby (8 lbs plus) considering I put on 50 lbs, but no, she was only 6 lbs 3 oz. How does that work? Hehe. Anyways, thanks for the response. I find it great to have other women to talk to.

Oh yes the gas sucked For a couple weeks my insides hurt it was crazy I find it comforting to talk with other women who or going through or have been through what Im going through I feel soooo much better talking to someone that knows excatly how I feel The best part of it is being able to come on here

and talk about my situation anytime I want and as much as I want I try not to talk about it at work or to my friends or family because I feel like they will be thinking d__n shes not over that yet they dont understand that Ill never be over it

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My c workers seem to enjoy pointing out newborns to me especially girls and asking me, aww isnt she soooo adorable. Either they are evil or they totally forgot what happened and why i was out of work for 9 freaking weeks! Anyways, ive lost only 5 pounds and thats nothing. i think ive lost more than that but have gained it back. oh well, i still look good. My stomach has went down from its big round pregnancy shape but i can still use a few hundred thousand sit ups, and maybe some cardio. hehe.My doctor said no excerise for 12 weeks but hopefully ill be pregnant excatly after that so i wont have to worry about working out for 3months after my next baby.

I guess this is just our board since we're the only two talking on it. Hehe. If you don't mind me asking, when did you deliver? It is great being able to talk to other women who have gone through this. I can talk openly about how I'm feeling with my mom and my husband. Do you sense awkwardness when people are around you? I can totally sense it. It's like, nobody wants to bring Brooke up, but I feel so much better when I talk about her. I can't pretend like she never existed. I understand that people don't want to make me cry, but it's like, I'll start crying even when I'm by myself. It's just good moments and bad ones, you know? Do you ever suffer from any anxiety? I notice that at times I do because I'm afraid I will run into someone who didn't know what happened and they will be like, "Oh you had the baby!" and then it's like I don't want to make them feel bad when I explain what happened. I don't know, all kinds of stuff. I would be mad at your co-workers for acting like that. I have times where I'm perfectly OK with seeing other babies (and I know what you mean about it being specifically girls, boys don't affect me as much). Hehe, this sounds bad, but when I do look at other babies I think none of them are as beautiful as mine. I guess that's just a mom thing. I just really hope I will be able to conceive again soon (well, after the doc gives me the green light). All of these thoughts start pouring into my head like, Well, you're uterus is different now that you've had a c-section, and the doctor said during it that it was a little bit heart shaped. I know the logical part of me says, come on, you're 22 and DH is 25, and you got preggos after being off the pill for only 2 months, but I don't know, it's just that fear of not having another one. I can't replace her, but I want to nurture a baby so badly right now. My disability will be up on October 6 and I'm not going to go back to work. Partly because I don't think I can emotionally handle it. I open new accounts at a credit union and a lot of our members knew I was expecting and I just don't think I can handle all of the, "So how's the baby" questions. Also, DH and I are planning to move to Arizona in October (that was planned before all this happened). It will be a nice change and a fresh start. Anyways, keep on chattin with me over any emotions you feel. I check the boards a lot. BTW, my name is Katie so you don't always have to refer to my forum name.

Well Katie, my name is Kimberly and I'm 21 and my hubbie is 22. We had our baby girl June 14th 2007 by emergeny c-section. I don't know if I told you (I probably did) but I was excatly 24 weeks and she lived 9 1/2 hours after the doctors tried to save her but said she wasn't responding and gave up then put her in my arms for her last 9 hours and 15 mins bascially. I was soooo upset with them for weeks until I came to the realization that no human especially a NICU doctor would give up on a preemies life. They would do and try anything they could. I believe that now but it took me a while. I really love talking on here also. It makes me feel so much better I don't know what I'd do with myself it the internet didn't exist. I just wish women on this particular site would chat a little more but I don't want anymore women to have to join the "pregnany loss and miscarriage" group. I'm a member of spals and its a wonderul private group so I'm either on here or there. No I don't think I get anxiety. The only time I was anxious was when I had to go back to work. I told one of my co workers what happened beforehand and told her to let everyone know what had happened so they wouldn't have to ask me a million questions. I was afriad of that. I didn't want people to be inconsiderate and I didn't want to be breaking down at work every second. Oh, I always worked part time at a maternity store but you can bet your bottom dollar that I didn't go back to that job. That would have been ridiculous. I wouldn't have lasted for 10 minutes. I start a new job on Tuesday and I'll happily leave the job I'm at now without looking back. I'm in need of a fresh start also. My husband and I started ttc 2 or 3 days ago I pray I get preggie this cycle. We got pregnant 2 weeks off of birth control when we concieved Victoria Brooke. Things like that run through my mind like that also. Stuff like what if the inside isn't healed yet? What if the embryo implants near the scar tissue and I have a miscarriage? What if my uterus ruptures when I grow too big? What if my cerclage doesn't work? What if inserting the cerclage puts me into labor? What if I make it to the "safe point" in the 2nd trimester and at my next doctors appointment the heartbeat can't be detected? What if my baby has some horribe cronic birth defect when we do the CVS testing? What if I make it to 40 weeks and theirs a cord accident? What if what if what if what if what if what if what if what if???????? The worries just go on forever and ever. Life is scary. Nothing is promised. And stressing doesn't help but i dont know how to stop. I wish they had a remedy or pill or something to take all my what if's away!!! I'm deathly afriad that I won't have ANY sucessful pregnancies. If the next one pregnancy doesn't work out I won't know what to do with myself. The logical part of me says a lot of good things but I was thinking logical my first pregnancy and look how that turned out! I guess I'm bitter. Bitter angry sad scared dissapointed hopefull nervous. Enough for now . . . What state do you live in now?

Hi, I'm sorry to interrupt but CodyKatie I am so glad to see you here. I read your original post about your little girl a while back and I have to say...I just can't forget about you or your story. I don't mean this in a hurtful way or anything but everytime I think of your story, I give my little girl a hug and kiss. You see...I had a prolonged labor and decided last minute to have a c-section. That decision may have saved my daughter's life. Her cord was also wrapped around her neck. I'm glad to see that you are doing better and that you and your husband are trying again. Good luck! xoxo, Mimi

Thanks Mimi! Don't ever feel like you're "interrupting." I'm glad that you treasure your little girl more because of my experience. I honestly would never ever wish what happened to us to happen to anyone else. I still have my angry moments with God, but I have for the most part come to peace with what has happened and we will try again in a few months. I have my doctor appointment in about 2 1/2 weeks now and they have been extra accomodating to my situation. I also requested my medical records to go over w/the doc. I'm glad your delivery went well, and I don't know about you, but taking this weight off is hard. I went shopping today for some new clothes because I'm tired of being stuck in maternity clothes when I'm not pregnant, yet none of my pre-preggie clothes fit! I was a size 6 before and today I had to buy jeans in a 14! And that's w/having already lost 30 of the 50 lbs I put on! Crazy. But congrats on your little girl. DH and I are hoping that if we are blessed with another baby it will be a girl, although we'd be equally as happy with a boy.

Hi CodyKatie! It seems like you are holding up well, you are such a strong woman! I was actually about to post the same question on this board, which is why I came here...you beat me to it! I had a c-section about 11 days ago... I have had a high s_x drive since a couple days after the section. I read somewhere you can start once you stop bleeding, I'm still bleeding though. Why do they say you can't have s_x too soon after a section, anyway? I too had a high weight gain, I dunno if you remember me talking about it...it totaled 70lbs by the time I got to 41 weeks (!!!!) I have lost 27 lbs and am nowhere near my old weight. I can't wait till I can start exersizing!

Thanks, CodyKatie. I'm there with you on the weight! I gained 52 lbs total and used to be a size 4 prepreggo. I had to go out and by some real clothes last weekend b/c my maternity clothes are getting too big and my prepreggo clothes too small. But I'm a size 10 now in pants and L in tops. Both look a little too big for me but I have to b/c of my jelly belly and my big b___bies. Its so frustrating. I'm 9 wks pp now and I've lost 39 lbs. The last 20 has been so hard. Good luck to you and keep us posted! :)

Im soooooooooo very glad someone posted this question. I as well as others had the same question. I delievered almost 4 weeks ago, and we just finally got to, and as many others i have a unusually high s_x drive. I think it carries into the whole missing the intimacy with your Dh. But i did want to say after reading all this that CodyKatie, im so very sorry to hear about the trouble times you have been going through. But i give you props for coming back her and letting everyone hear your story, and starting your life over again. Your an inspiration to all women out there in your same situation. Good luck with ttc as well, you sure do deserve a LO of your own. But i had another question for everyone who has "done the dirty' lol. Are you on birth control, i know thats an odd question but did you use anything or were you on anything. Because we werent and i have that uneasyness of getting preggo again. It wouldnt be the end of the world, but im still recovering and enjoying our baby. I know what some may think, i should have thought about that before we did anything without protection but you know. I guess im just looking for someone to relate lol. Anyone out there that can?

WEll good news, although noone had responded to my last post, my dr just called and they called me in a bc pill until i can get my IUD, so thats a huge relief!

Hey Angela. It's been so long since anyone has posted on this thread! Thanks for your kind words. Well, I am now almost 7 weeks post partum and I am feeling very good. I went to my doctor on Monday and I didn't get any birth control. DH and I are using condoms for now, which I don't like. My situation is different than yours though. I don't want any kind of hormonal birth control because doc gave us the green light to TTC after 2 periods,so I don't want anything to mess me up. Hehe, I was only off of the pill (after being on it for 5 years) one month when we conceived Brooke, so my body is probably all out of whack. I still haven't gotten my period, but I think it might come within the next week. Who knows? I think it's very unlikely that you could have gotten pregnant. Are you b___stfeeding? I heard that that suppresses ovulation. Well, glad to know that you got something to ease your mind and congrats on your LO.