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I tried to talk to her all it resulted in was her cussing me.and she said i dont need to hold any female but her.my wife wont even let me look at the baby.i cant even mention the baby to her.im really hurt by her behavior.how can she treat me this way?our daughter wont even be able to know me and i live in the same house as them.i cant even go into the babies bedroom.i need more advice.

steven,im sorry for your wifes behavior.is she mental or something?why on earth would she be jealous of you guys baby?how old is your wife?i would divorce her and get custody of your daughter.dose anyone else reading this agree with me?

Steven, Your wifes behavior is very bizzarre. You really need to speak to a professional about this. Does she expect you to leave the room when she's with the baby? My advice would be to call her OB-GYN and explain the situation, he/she may be able to guide you in the right direction. Remind your wife that this is, after all, YOUR baby too!!!!

Steven, I agree with Sarah you need to seek professional help. It is not normal how your wife is actingl. I heard from good friends that in postpardom depression woman don't want anything to do with the baby and that doesn't sound like your wife she just doesn't want you to have anything to do with the baby. That sounds really strange. Talk to her doctor maybe he/she can give you insite on what is going on.

my wife spends alot of time at her sisters house.she never did before the baby was born.she is 29and extremely jealous.i cant watch tv if theres any pretty weman on the show.i cant have any friends.she wont even let me talk to my own mom or sister.but that stuff i can handle.its the part that i cant even be a daddy that gets to me.no i cant even be in the same room as the baby.shes even mad because the baby looks like me.i cant talk to her doctor if i did that she would probably leave me.she would leave me if she knew i was on this computer.i cant even remember what it was like to hold madison.my wife wants me to pretend like we dont have a daughter.she was upset she had a girl she wanted a boy.i havent done anything to make her act this way.i work i am faithful i dont deserve this.i dont know what to do.she just dosent want me to love my little girl.my wife said if the baby would have been a boy things would have been different.but the way things are now i cant even say one word to her about the baby.all i know is madison is off limits to me.right now it sucks to be a guy.thank you ladies for giving me advice i just wish she could see things from my point of view.

Steven, With all do respect, you really do need for you and more importantly, Madison's sake get out of this relationship. Your wife has you on such a lock down that I don't think you understand the severity of this situation. Your wife undoubtly needs professional help. She is very insecure in your relationship and NOTHING you do is giong to change that. Know this, NOTHING YOU'VE DONE (from what you've said) IS YOUR FAULT!!!!! Do not take this as a personal defeat, it is nothing you did, said or any way you've acted. If this continues, your daughter will suffer immense mental consequences. You need to tell your wife if you don't start councling, you'll leave. There is light at the end of the tunnel, and while it might not seem like it, there is life after divorce.

Steven, My best friend had a similar situation- she only wanted boys because she feared that a girl would be "compet_tion" for her husbands affection. Much of this was due to her own parents bad relationship - she has worked it out now, but perhaps this is what is wrong with your wife. She may be terrified that you will love Madison more than her - I would seek professional help for Madison's safety.

I lost my baby girl Lauren at 10 days old 8-2-05 due to a rare chromosome disorder her left ventricle was under developed in heart. She was so beautiful and I desperately want another baby. I had a c-section so I think I will wait 3 mos. What do you all think? I read a reply to the same question a Prof. ob-gyn doctor said that 3 mos was fine as long as you get good antenatal care and plan for an elective c-section.

michelle you have a good point.maybe that is her fear.but love for your spouse and love for children is different.why cant she see that.she dosent want me to love the baby thats what i cant understand.i cant be around madison at all and i already know my wife would not get any type of help.and she thinks shes pregnant again.i hope this ones a boy.she leaves madison in her room most of the time especially if im home.but how can you get help for a waman that dont want help?i just to be a daddy to my kid but to my wife its all wrong to her.sometimes i just want to leave but not without my daughter but at the same time i dont want to take her away from her mamma.

Steven honey listen to me.apparently your wife dose"nt love your little girl to much or else she would want madison to know her dad.its not good if shes pregnant again what if its another girl?she will be the same way.take the baby leave go get temporary custody then file for divorce.your wife must be crazy how can she be so cruel when it comes to a little tiny baby.take my advice leave her and take the baby with you.and steven good luck!

Steven, it sounds like your wife has some deep rooted issues. How was her childhood with her mom? Was she wanted by her mother. If a child is not wanted they can sense it. It affects them later in life. A lot of times things from our childhood that affect us and we are too young to remember. Maybe something like that has affected your wife, maybe her father wasn't allowed to pay any attention to her so it seems somewhat normal to her. Who knows. Your wife knows what she is thinking and feeling and if she won't talk to you about it then you can't help her. You guys should be talking this all out and trying to work it out. There is always hope if you want it. I will pray that God will reveal to you what is going on with your wife so you can find out where this is coming from.

Hi I have a 7 month old baby and i'm 8 weeks pregnant !! Is it dangerous i'm really nervous! Does anyone know what is the wrost that can happen?

This is to Steven what the heck is wrong with your wife!!!!! I think she is psycho!!! she really needs to seek some help!!! she did'nt make the baby herself !!! it does take TWO!!! i 22 and married I would never do that to my husband EVER!!! we have a 9 mos. old boy and i'm more than happy to let him hold our son especially when I need a break. you should'nt have to deal with this nobody should. she should be ashamed of herself cussing around a baby!! not to be mean but your wife is MENTAL!!!!!!!

Steven... Joanne is right your wife seems to have some deep rooted issues but I think the question would be.... what was her relationship with her DAD???!!! Maybe something bad, like s_xual abuse, occured and maybe she is trying to unecessarily "protect" the baby girl from you. I was abused as a child and I don't ever think that my husband would ever do anything to hurt my 3 year old daughter but, on rare occa__sions I get very protective of her. Maybe, Maybe not but either way your wife needs counseling...or you need family counseling together to get to the root of this problem.... people don't just act that way for no reason... Good Luck Steven.

To Steven your wife obviously has a problem she should help seriously, how is she? im 22 and i would never EVER deprieve my husband of are children, this might sound crazy but are you sure your the father???? is there something your wife isn't telling you.... sorry but thats the only thing i can think of or she totally gone NUTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

my wife came from a good family.she has a good relationship with her parents.i dont think there was any type of abuse.my daughter looks just like me im positive im the father.my wife has always been jealous of me im surprised she even lets me work.but ever since she had the baby shes been a nightmare to live with.i cant even sit in the living room she says its to close to the babys room i either stay in the kitchen or in my bedroom.if my wife goes any where with me she has her sister to come over and stay with the baby.i dont understand why in the hell my wife is so jealous of our daughter.she said well if the kid would have been a boy then you could have held him and helped take care of him.but you dont need to hold any other female but me.hell i cant talk to her about anything she flies off the handle to eaisly.she will either cuss in my face or hit me.and i dont beleive in hitting women but sometimes i want to hit her so bad.i thank you folks for taking time to try to help me figure her out.but i dont want to be a nussiance to anyone.i just dont know what to do about this woman.i cant beleive shes so angry because our daughter looks like me.at least thats what everyone says.well thank you all very much for your time.