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Mandy,you know you can always come on here for re-a__surance.I had a scheduled section and I loved it.Unlike some other comments,for you I feel its the right move too.You don't have to get stressed wondering when labour will start,and when it does go along with the increase in pain of tightening,you have a date,usually the week before,go in all calm,the doctors are supportive,you feel nothing during the delivery,just some prodding,but no pain.The recovery is fine,take the meds,again the nurses are supportive,the meds easy the pain,all the time you are in control,which is what you worry about don't you?

thanks charlotte,still reading,still learning,

Mandy: You do feel pain maybe not during surgery but some do not all but the pain Meds they give you afterwards don't always help I know I have been through 2 C's and soon to go throuh a 3rd on my first C they put me on a morphine pump and that didn't alleviate the pain I still felt pain and burning in my abs and sides and the Meds didn't touch it not even the Morphine Mandy if you can have a Vaginal do it don't put yourself at an unneeded risk for internal damage that is unnecessary gl 2u and the baby

A scheduled c/s sounds like you are in control...then things can go horribly wrong just like v____al births. Why or why aren't you looking at this as an adventure? There is much to be said for POSITIVE ANTICIPATION of when is the day? Will it be today? tonight? Women have been trained to expect everything to go like clock work, no one is even willing to "pencil in" their own baby....Why, Mandy, do you feel like YOU have any more control of a c/s than you would a v____al? Once you are in the operating theatre you have given up all control and no chance of controlling your next birth if you decide you don't like cesarean sections. Contrary to Charlotte and a few other posters, there are many, many women out there that would beg you NOT to have an elective c-section. I don't understand why your anxiety can't be turned into a positive, perhaps you should speak with someone about this?

Hi Mandy--This is an old thread, so I was wondering what you decided to do? I can relate to your situation. I was in the same position you were in when you originally posted. I thought it through, and I decided I wouldn't have any children. My husband is not thrilled with it, but he seems to be accepting it gradually. He asked me to be sure I am making the right decision, not just for him, but for me. I understand, though. I've read tons of material, and while there is no way I would be able to emotionally manage a v____al birth, after reading these great boards, I don't want to subject myself to a csection, either. It really is ok to not have children if you don't want to suffer through a childbirth. Although our society frowns upon it, you don't have to have a child and you don't have to explain or justify why you don' t have one. If you want one, have one. If you don't, don't. I'm perimenopausal now, so the end of the decision-making period is pretty much at hand. My sweetie will get over his disappointment and I've pretty much made peace with it. I'm glad I read these excellent boards about csection, though. The only way I would ever consider having a child would have been through a csection, and the frank answers from the other posters gave me enough information to know that I don't want an elective csection, either. I used to mourn not being able to handle childbirth, but as time has moved on I am becoming much better at dealing with it. I am not even upset anymore, and my life has changed and moved on in different directions. We can't all overcome our fears or phobias or whatever. I'ts ok to do what is right for you, it really is ok. Whatever you decide, or whatever you decided, I hope it was the right thing for you after you examined your options and your real desires. It will be ok, I promise, whatever you do or did. Good luck.

i was terrified of child birth. Have an epidural they're great but if you are truly that scared have a c-section i had one in the end (emergancy) i was awake cos i already had an epidrual and it was fine.it does take longer to recover but if you take it easy and take regular pain releaf its ok.