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I am 29 and in a committed relationship with a wonderful man. I am currently in the throws of a tumultous divorce which won't finalize until July due to CA law. My ex is still in love with me and trying desperately to win me back. But after years of mental, emotional, and even s_xual abuse, I cannot go back to him. Even though we have a beautiful 10 year old son together (who happens to have ADHD and Aspergers Syndrome). I have been in this relationship now for 3 months and we now find ourselves pregnant. This was completely unplanned. I have been unable to get pregnant and have used no BC since my 10 year old was born. He also has been careless with BC and has a 9 year old. I don't know how, but we're expecting. I am still on my exes insurance until the divorce finalizes in July and then I'll have to get on my work plan which has a huuuuge deductible. I'm due in October. My new guy, despite being wonderful, doesn't make much money. And though I am gainfully employed full time and make enough to sustain myself, it's not enough to cover what will surely be an inexorbitant amount of medical debt, not to mention the costs of caring for a child. He really wants to keep it. But I just don't see how we can do it :'( Our families are really excited, but none are in a financial situation to offer much help. I also do not like the idea of working full time and leaving my baby to be cared for by others. Any advice? I'm so torn. It's early enough to where I can abort with the pill and maybe try again when we're "ready" but he's convinced that this is a sign and that we shouldn't for the sake of convenience. Any imput would be most welcome. Thanks.
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