Pregnant And Confused Pg1294945605
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I am looking for advice not judgment. I am 29 years old and graduation from professional school is on the horizon. I just found out that I am 5 weeks pregnant. I was on the pill but I went out of town during my period and didnt bring them with me. When I got back home, my period was finished. I was only there for 2 days and I didnt have time to fill my prescription and didnt take the pill. My boyfriend and I obviously had s_x in those 2 days and I got pregnant. We were pregnant about a year ago and he more than myself wanted the abortion so I got it. It was, in the long run, best for both of us because I was still in school. Now he is very upset about me not telling him about not taking my pill. He still doesn't feel like we are ready for a baby. He is already dealing with a situation with his daughter's mom, and its about to become a legal battle. I DO NOT want an abortion again. I am sure it is going to be difficult. I am moving to a diffefent state about 5 hours away and he may not be coming so he can stay near his daughter. I still don't feel like thats a reason to have an abortion. He says that he may resent me for it in the long run because I didn't tell him so that he can use a condom. I definitely don't feel like now is the right time but I don't ever want to feel the misery that I felt after the last abortion. I don't know what to do. He wants an abortion and if I get one for him, I may never be able to forgive him for it. I want my baby but he may resent me for it. Any advice would be great. I know the decision is ultimately mine
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One daughter one mom may be as much as he feels he can handle - not anxious to double up. I understand the feelings from both sides, and I do not think it is fair of him to insinuate that you tricked him into this. It sounds like you will graduate very soon and already have a job offer 5 hours away. Stick with it! If he does not follow you, the relationship was not as solid as you imagined. Your solo income will allow you to get by as a single mom, and with your good job another relationship will present itself in no time!
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hello sorry to hear all that :/
Im a fellow christian not sure if you have faith in a god but my opinion is he's just using excuses he just doesn't want a baby with you I've been through the same in my younger years, truth is no one will ever be ready to be a parent you just gotta have faith in god cause everything has a sulotion except death & when you want a baby it will be hard for you to conceive if you want this baby have it babies are blessings & if he really sure about you he'll be with in good or bad if not you'll see his true colors
Hope this helps :)
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Have you thought of adoption? I am an adoptive parent & would love to adopt more..If you want some info on adoption feel free to ask! jadecoleman42 at yahoo dot com
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I believe that you should go to your job offer and continue with your pregnancy. I do not believe in abortion but i'm not judging you because every situation is different. If you do decide to have an another abortion i have always heard that this can mess up your fertility in the future. If you feel that you cant keep the baby look into adoption. Hope this helps you out some.
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Why was your abortion such a horrible experience. I only ask because I am considering one. I have an appointment scheduled for 3/4 at planned parenthood for the abortion pill. I have until then to decide. Very sorry for your situation but I believe that if you truly want this child, then you need to be prepared to raise it on your own. This guy sounds like he has commitment issues and if it's not the baby, it will be something else down the road. If you're successful and have a good income then why the hesitation to have this baby if he truly loves you?
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