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My problem is quite a complex one. Basically were in a situation where we live in the same house as my girlfriends mum and sister. The baby is happy and giggles when with mum (my girlfriend), her mum (the granny) and the sister.
However, with me, she looks at me, and then automatically bursts into tears. Now, my gf reckons its because i work a lot and my little one doesnt recognise me like the others, but the little one always looks scared around me.
I hold her, she cries. I look at her, she cries. I comfort her, she cries.
Its getting to me in quite an emotional way, feels like she is rejecting me.
The grandmother tells me it wont always be like this and my gf says the same.
However i feel like im missing out on my daughters life because of this. Im not sure what to do.
Can anyone help?
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stick your face right in the babies face and let your face show how cool you really think it is to be the babies dad . Become a baby hog get involved and take the baby in your arms . you are either unfamiliar to the child or guess what .... you could have something on your breath which might overwhealm the baby because what you are saying won't last long, either way , your baby will take to you . A Dad
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Maybe it's that you're uncomfortable around the baby, because you're not sure how to act yet because fatherhood is new to you and the baby senses this. Your concern shows that you really care and are a good father. The grandma and gf are right it won't always be like this.
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Yep Elle, i definately get nervous.
Will try the face in the babies face thing though, but no doubt she´ll get scared.
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Try taking off your shirt and undressing the baby down to the diaper, then hold the baby against your chest so she'll get used to the feel and smell and sound of you. Sing silly songs to her, if you can think of some, and make sure, no matter how much you're working, you take time to hold her for a little while each day. You can also try putting her in bed between you and your girlfriend, not to sleep, but just for a little "family cuddle time."
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Persistance is the key. If you are nervouse, the baby will sense that. Take a deep breath, pick her up and hold her. Talk to her - even if she is screaming her head off.. Walk with her. If you keep doing this every day - she'll get used to you and you will be forming a bond in no time... Besides, I know of a couple who had this happen - she turned into daddy's little girl and wouldn't have anything to do with mum as she got older... Good luck!
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I think the baby is sensing your lack of confidence. You just have to spend as much time with her as possible. Little girls love their daddies, just give it time and don't give up. She isn't rejecting you. She needs you. Also, remember to talk to her, soothingly and smile- she's more likely to smile back if you are smiling. Hang in there!
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Chris, do you happen to have facial hair? My niece and nephew both were TERRIFIED of men with facial hair, though men without it didn't bother them.
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