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My husband was like that during my second pregnancy. It really hurt my feelings. He wouldn't touch me, and he didn't want to hear anything about the baby. When I would mention the baby he said, "That's your project." I was afraid that he would keep being strange and distant after the baby was born, but he's back to his usual self and very happy to have another daughter. I asked him why he was like that during the pregnancy. We've been married eight years and that's the only time he's ever closed himself off emotionally from me. He said he was worried that there would be something wrong with the baby, or something would happen to me, because we were so lucky with our first baby. While I was pregnant I didn't think I'd ever forgive him for treating me this way-pregnancy is scary and stressful enough without worrying about why my husband was so distant. I was afraid that he was going to leave me. Half my hair turned gray during this pregnancy, and I think it's from stress. Now that the baby's here, I'm just so glad to have my husband back to his normal self.

Jbear, your response is comforting to me.I am pg with our first baby (I'm 39,dh is 40) and we've been together since ours teens. My hubby is supportive in the ways he believes are the most important, like IS and various Dr.s app'ts and buying me maternity clothes for presents. But he is not over the moon about the baby and he expresses this, verbally and also by being very remote sometimes. He does not smile or act at all enthusiastic about the baby's arrival and it's making me sad. It's like that song from the 80's..."Being alone together". I guess like your behavior John, maybe he is depressed.He doesn't talk much about his feling usually and I know this about him, but it's difficult to be out here by yourself, even though we live in the same house.It's good to see things returned to normal for you Jbear, after you had the baby.I wish my dh was more "into" computers, maybe this forum could help him.

Would you be the same john who posted (today) "you make a very good point back on one of your posts when you said that men arent included in the pregnancy, you are 100% correct, women could care less what their men are going through during pregnancy. Ive tried talking to my girl about my concerns and what not. and she could really careless, she basically tells me to go screw off, she doesnt want to hear a thing i have to say, is that really fair? I feel completely left out of this pregnancy and i am pretty darn miserable let me tell you. Women claim that men "need to be apart of the pregnancy" well you know what, make us part of it, stop yelling at us every 5 seconds and not caring about anything that goes on with us, we have concerns and worries to, if you dont let us be apart of the pregnancy then how can we be part of it? sure i go to the appointments and what not, but her mom and her have already picked out the name, guess what, i wasnt included and when i tried giving my opinion i was shut out. All i do is work and get yelled at, i guess thats the mans roll during the pregnancy, to work and get screamed at for leaving the cap off the toothpaste, thats been my roll so far. Bill is correct when he says that, just because women are pregnant gives them no right to treat us like trash, like garbage and not let us take part in the babys life. Face it, women exclude men from the pregnancy, and its a real shame, because this should be a happy time for both parties, instead im miserable and depressed, just like many other to be dads that have gf's or wives that could give two c___ps less." ???