Pacifier World S Worst Mother
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I know it doesn't, but I have started trying to get my 2.5 week old to take a pacifier. She nurses well, but before bed, stops sucking to eat and sucks on just the nipple to pacify herself. This HURTS! So, I decided to go with the pacifier. She is lukewarm about it. But, just seeing it in her mouth makes me feel so horrible. Why? I don't know! My first daughter took a pacifier, starting around six months and ending with major drama at about 2.5 years. She loved it, though, and I loved that she loved it and swore that #2 would also have a paci, if she wanted it. Now, though, I feel horrible, like I'm failing my kid, or something. Am I nuts or is this normal?
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 | KH - August 23 |
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no, some babies have high sucking needs and it sounds like your daughter does. My son is the same but is sooo iffy with the pacifier. He maybe takes it 2 out of 10 times. You are not a horrible mother :)
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I think I have said this in every post about a paci. THEY ARE GREAT! Doctors recommend them. They help prevent SIDS. Do not worry, if you dont like the paci thing, just give it to her when she goes to sleep. (I guess at 2.5 weeks that all the time lol) Anyway, just think of it as saving her life (and yourself)
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I don't think it should be a problem. With your daughter I think you might have introduced it too late. With my daughter, I gave it to her right from the beginning and she naturally gave it up around 5 or 6 months. Newborns need to suck, it's not going to spoil them to have something to suck on. Good luck!
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I give my baby boy a paci, but like KH's son he doesn't always take it. Sometimes he prefers his fist. My lactation consultant taught us to ball his fist and hold it to his mouth, it avoids confusion because they have to open wider plus she said when his teeth come in it will teach him not to bite. Also I was told that a baby that is allowed to suck on both paci and hand/fingers/thumb is less likely to become dependant on either. Anyhow, you are not failing your kid. Your baby girl needs to suck for comfort. However since you are nursing her you might want to limit paci use for the first month or so. Good luck!
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I always said I'd never use one as I thought it was for mothers with no patience. Also my mother and m-i-l both said that they never used them. But guess what?? Tahlia goes to sleep with one every nap and night time. Sometimes she'll spit it out, but most times she has a bit of a suck and drifts off. It doesn't mean you are a bad mother. Its just someone's great invention to help out :o)
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Thanks! She hasn't really been taking it lately, but I suppose I'll keep offering it!
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 | t - August 24 |
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i've been using a pacifer for my 3 week old baby. i felt bad too, but it soothes her and relaxes her. she also uses her thumb and fingers. i researched and i found that it is ok to give them a pacifer. i just hope when she's 6 months to a year she'll let it go. for now, we're ok.
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 | CEM - August 26 |
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you are nuts, no offence!! some babies just love to suck. so give your baby that soother with a good conscience! babies know if they want it or not, and if she really doesn't, then she'll just spitt it out. no harm done :)
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