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i get annoyed about the same sort of thing.i have a neighbour with two kids aged 3 and 4, although my problem with them isnt germs on the toys(although i completely understand that too)its that they are so rough with my kids and hit them all the time(my kids are aged 2 and 3)it has got to the point where i feel as tho they have no respect for my house or property but also dont want to offend my neighbour by telling her coz she is a nice person and has become a good friend!....well sorry for going on bout myself and in response 2 ur question yes i think it is ok to be annoyed by this altho hopefully someone can give us both advise on what to do coz i dont know either i just grin and bare it!!!

it is normal and okay to be annoyed by this. i used to get very annoyed when stuff like this would happen when my kids were younger. i would usually sit quietly and grin and bear it as well. silently furious! but not anymore. if people's kids don't have respect for my kids or my house, i have no patience! what i do is just pull the kids aside (if they are old enough of course) and tell them what it is i don't want them to do. i think this is the best way to get your point across without looking like a jerk. the kids are usually more willing to listen to someone who's not a parent, and you're not confronting the parent/friend directly. you need to say something, before you get too fed up! it's funny how people who aren't in the wrong always feel like the bad guy, and the ones doing the annoying stuff never even pay any attention!

Maybe it would work to say that you just sterilized everything and that the children need to wash their hands before touching everything. It might at least help out a little. Also, if the children are being rough with the baby, just say that he or she is tired and sleepy and doesn't need to be played with right now. I have a 5 month old and a 3 year old, and believe me, you have the same feelings even though it's your own children. I think that kids that age just don't realize how rough and loud they are. I must tell my 3 year old about 50 times a day to leave the baby alone. It's an attention thing. Good Luck...

I hear you.... but there is not much you can do except to put the toys away and provide some type of entertainment for them when they are over. Maybe you could put in a movie for them and make a snack? Children of that age have no insight as to what is theirs to play with and what is off limits, unless they are told in advance, or reminded each time.

Also, T is right, you could ask them to wash their hands when they come over. Most germs are airborne and there is no way you can control that if you let them in your home. The positive side of this is that if your child is exposed now, he will have quite the immune sytem by the time school is a part of his day. That means missing less school:)

just a thought...I'm sure the baby is gonna LOVE the idea of missing less school...lol...

I know what you mean, my daughter is almost 8 mo. and she has a 20 mo. old cousin who puts toys in her mouth and then tries to put it in my baby's mouth. What I do is that if she puts toys in her mouth i just wash the toys before my daughter touches it. I also have a problem with her hiting my daughter. I SWEAR infront of her parents she is very very nice to my daughter, she is gentle and kisses her on her forehead. As soon as her parents leave she hits her, and shoves her head to the floor. I told her parents but they dont think its true and so they think im an over-protective b___h.

Read the post over again. She said that WHEN he gets to school he will have a quite well immune system due to being exposed to germs...because kids NEED to be exposed to germs, over sterlization of toys constantly is not good for kids....their bodies need to learn how to fight of various germs and bacterias.

I got that. I was thinking from the KID'S point of view - last time I checked, most KIDS WANT to miss school. But, you and I obviously don't have similar senses of humor.

All i can suggest is have the kids wash their hands when they walk in the door (and at obvious times like before/after they eat, go to the bathroom ect..) Any toys not washable, just put away, and leave your child with one or two toys that are "off limits" to them. Just tell the kids "these are the baby's toys, she's too young to share, so you can play with these toys" and give them whatever you have that is washable that you don't mind them playing with. I would just use soapy water to clean the toys.. As for the kids being too rough with the baby, show them how you would like them to treat and hold him/her.. most kids will be all over a baby no matter what you do, so atleast you can teach them the correct way (and their mom will think it's the sweetest thing). In the end, no matter what you do, it's still your house, your baby, your rules and you have every right to bypa__s the parents all together and tell the children if they can not behave properly they can not come back.

Thank you all for your responses. I think I will do all of these things :)

Actually, my daughter does not like to miss school...and I don't find humor in uneducated children missing school for no particular reason.

Shut up! You are retarded

Dont pay attention to the negative comments. We understood your humor!!

"To Jamie" - man, you need to chill out...go get laid or something.

Why be negative? This is not for stupid cat fights. Grow up "to jaime". no one finds humor in uneducated kids!!!!! Yikes.