 | q - November 17 |
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my dh's cousin's 5 year old daughter has been diagnosed as bi-polar and every time she sees my daughter she wants to hold her. sometimes this girl can be extreamly rough other times a perfect angel. i dont really like the idea of her being around my daughter how can i let her down with out making her mad and trying to hurt the baby? we dont see her often usually once in the summer and on holidays
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That is a tough one. I have a neice like that too. I let her hold my son, providing I am right there and she is sitting down. She is 6, BTW. I would say to do whatever you have to to make sure your little one is safe. If you decide to let her hold your daughter, make sure to let her know to be easy with the baby. Of course you probably know that lol. I am just very used to it because I am considered young myself and I have 2 kids. I also have little relative who like to hold my youngest. Just let her down nicely and tell her why you are worried. She may get mad, but since she is young she will get over it quickly I'm sure. Oh and make sure you or your dh is around the baby when she or other little ones are around. I have an autistic nephew, so I am also used to keeping watch. Hope all goes well.
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It probably will not be as big of a problem as you think especially since you only see them a couple of times a year. How old is your baby? You will probably see her at Thanksgiving and/or Christmas right? Just sit with her while she is holding your baby, then in the summer, there is a chance her diagnosis can change or she could have some meds that make her "moodswings" less noticable. Then after that your little one will be running around, talking and will either learn to play with her or will have her own thing to do! I know its not your fault that she is bipolar but remember that if you make her mad by telling her she cant hold the baby, it might make her a little jealous and she might want to hurt her so just let her play with her and keep reminding her that she has to be gentle.
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I dont know if this will help in anyway but with Jadyns half brother, we tell him that baby sister is SOOOO heavy that we have to hold her with him. That way he thinks its her fault that we are there too.
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 | d - November 18 |
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If you let her hold for a bit with your supervision is good. Then she''ll get that over with, be bored or you can distract by bringing an activity for her. Colouring/ playdough/ pretend food and pots..... Something a 5 year old would rather play with.
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