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You have a long way to go, still before you really have to worry about this. Your son is just going through a phase (my daughter is 19 mos old, and to everything she says "mine"). You don't really have to worry too much because by the time your new baby is born, your son will be well onto the way of being 3. He'll be at that age when he's almost forming complete sentences, and will be almost too helpful. By the time this one that you are pregnant with is crawling, he will be about 4. You should be able to rationalize a bit with him. 4 year olds have a good understanding of cause and effect. By this time, you could have him go to pre-preschool, which may help. Be aware that you may have some jealousy problems when the new baby is born, but if you include your son as much as you can in the daily care of the new baby, I'm sure everything will be alright.

thanks so much for the fast repond, here another one, he bets up everyone, he pushes all his cousin, even if there bigger then him? what to do about that??

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I think it's normal. Again, its a phase. He may feel threatened by them, or he may feel insecure around other kids. Have you socialized him much with other children? It might be a good thing to do since you have the baby on the way. Also, make sure you reinforce the fact that that sort of behavior is not acceptable. Try speaking to him in a firm voice, "No, that is NOT okay" and try a short "time out". My daughter knows exactly what "Go to your room" means. Of course, she cries and pouts the whole way there, but after a few minutes she calms down. Not too long of a time out for a child this age, though. 5 minutes or so is usually ok. It's not going to change overnight, but eventually if you are consistent, it will. This will also help you when you have the new baby. The only one who can really discipline him is you, and you have to be consistent or you may as well not discipline him at all. Make sure everything you do is not negative. Praise him for good stuff that he does, like playing nice with other kids, and sharing his toys, by hugging or kissing, telling him what a good job he is doing (kids understand what we say pretty well, even though they aren't very fluent with words at this age). This will make him want to do good stuff rather than bad. Good luck with your little one.

thanks for the helpful advice, i think that it will come in hand.