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I left my daughter who is 6 months old with some friends last week and one told me today that the other one cut her hair. Her hair is one of her lovely features cause it was all one length and kinda stuck up. Somehow i hadn't noticed it was cut but i can see now short bits when it was once one nice length. I said my piece about 'going too far; you dont do that sorta thing without asking the mum first. Her first hair cut was gonna be at the hairdresser and special, but most importanly i didn't want her damn hair cut cause its growing still. How mad would u all be? I spoke really civil cause i have had issues before with my friend who isn't a mum but still tells me many times that i should buy cream for her skin, her dress seems too tight, list goes on and on. I remain calm cause she doesn't understand me i think as she isn't a mum.. The next issue is xmas eve, i said i wont stay late cause she needs a bath and bed, (xmas eve is at her house) she thinks i overreact too much and live too much by a schedule and should be more flexible...I wish she would understand more that she is a baby, is tired after 3 to 4 hrs and needs to be in bed at a certain time. Am i being over the top or should i be more flexible cause she wont sleep when we go out so i have no choice but to always come home earlyish.... Sorry to have dragged on
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oooooo.....I would be furious if someone cut my little ones' hair. Your friend has a lot of nerve. I don't know why you care what she thinks, she obviously doesn't respect your wishes.
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Well about the hair thing... I would of been p__sed as hell! I would of not been able to keep my cool, but that's just me. Why would she cut a 6 month olds hair? What would even provoke her to do that without your consent? Just wondering, if you already have issues with this lady, why leave your baby with her? About the xmas thing, I'm in the same situation and you just have to do what feels right for you. I personally am going to stay out late that night with my 7 month old (then will be 8 months) because its a one time thing and my hubby's family doesn't really see our daughter that much, so I figure why not. However, if I see my daughter is getting annoyed or cranky then we'll leave, I guess we'll just see and decide on that evening. You're probably right about your friend, she can't and won't see where your coming from until she has children of her own, at least that's what I
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oops, pressed submit by mistake (I ALWAYS DO THAT!!!) anyhow to continue, at least thats what I noticed with my friends!
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It was for probably an hour while i headed to do some xmas shopping. I don't really leave her with these ppl generally cause of past issues but i thought for an hour what is the harm cause they do genuinely love her and she wasnt due for a sleep... Also my partner left us so i needed some time to get out on my own and an hr lately is alot for me to get some me time. I do agree belle i don't know why i care so much, sometimes i am just not sure in myself if i am being too much, talking about the xmas eve thing. Well yea i guess i cant leave her there anymore, not even an hr which i thought would be safe to do....I am fuming about the hair thing, again her hair really made her and it would be one of the things ppl would compliment, now its been tarnished in my eyes and i blame myself a bit for leaving her there.
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Ally, don't blame yourself. I'm sure that didn't even cross your mind. Listen, know you now, and your little munchkin's hair will grow back faster then you know! I'm sure she's adorable even with a little trim. Look at the bright side, her hair may even grow back faster now. lol.
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Thanks ashley, it just amazes me i guess the cheek some people have. I didn't notice i agree cause ur not expecting her hair to have been cut after a play at my friend's hah
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For real, I can't believe some people, they have no respect! Have you decided what your going to do for xmas?
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Well my friend is having dinner etc so thats my xmas eve issue. Just hard with a baby sometimes. Xmas day lunch at my mums and in the evening i'm sure her dad will come visit her with a pressie and you.
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Well, looks like we're going to my hubby's family for christmas eve. They always have a big thing at their house every year. His family doesn't really see our daughter that much so they're all really excited. I just got some holiday christmas cards done with her pic on it, she looks so adorable. Now, we gotta start our christmas shopping. Haven't even started, how about you?
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That's a horrible thing to do! Firstly, she should have asked you, and secondly, I know what you mean about her first haircut being special. I want to be there when my daughter has her first cut. Parent's get sentimental about these things and your friend should understand that! Be very angry!
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I am angry lissi... I loved the fact she had heaps of hair from birth, dark brown and huge blue eyes still, i had no probs with the length, she looked like a cool baby but as ashley says it will grow back but i am pretty shattered about it. Noone has any right to do things to ur baby. They should have used those scissors to cut her nails cause they are outta control, i wouldnt mind that, not her hair though
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I would be p__sed too. Your friend seems to disrespect you big time. Maybe she is jealous that you have a baby and she doesen't so she tries to control and critisize you. (spel?) I don't know but she doesen't sound like someone you has much respect for you.
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How can you sill call her a friend! If someone had cut my kids' hair without my say so I'd never speak to them again. How on earth didn't you notice?
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I would be LIVID if someone cut my daughter's hair! WHAT possessed her do to that???? I'd be so mad I'd be spitting nails and unable to see straight. Oh, and Christmas Eve...you could always stay just long enough for your 6 month old to start getting mad that she's not in bed yet. Unfair to your daughter, but it would show your friend why you HAVE to be on a schedule with an infant.
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Lesley the how on earth didn't u notice question makes me seem like an idiot. You leave ya daughter for an hr, u aren't expecting a hair cut to have occured in the meantime because she still has lots of hair on her head, just not something i was looking for. It isn't that noticeable obviously but now i have been told i can see it. I do agree it showed no respect whatsoever and jamie you do make a good point of letting them see night time events with a baby aren't really an option. I do agree lesley i still dont know how i am calling her a friend though. Thanks jamie for ur comment, i agree the only way some ppl believe you is to see it. Do any of you ppl have friends that just dont understand it changes drastically when a baby comes? When she was a newborn we could be at friends houses as she just slept but now its a different ball game.
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When I had my first child I lost touch with all my friends. They just didn't understand that babies need constant attention and they must of seen me as a baby bore. It didn't bother me in the slightest. If they were true friends they would of understood. Now I have a couple of friends who I talk with regularly, but none that I go visiting, or that visits me. I can't stand people in my house.
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