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I feel the same way! My girl is 5 weeks, I'm looking into taking some at home school courses..I'm thinking about real estate. I had a friend who went through the same thing and she said doing some correspondence helped her big time.

We have all been there

Thanks Kris, I'm glad to know I'm not alone. I have been thinking of school too. I never finished my degree and have been out of school for 10 years, so I would like to do that. I feel the need to make improvements in my life. It is hard to see other people out living their lives, while I'm sitting around with an infant. I guess it's baby blues!

Well do something about it now b4 it gets worse. You need to make the most of weekends then cause u dont want to get into a baby rut if that makes sense. Once a fortnite someone would have my daughter so me and my now ex could have quality time. We just used to make the most of weekends together as a family or apart from baby. I felt like u too but i realise i am doing more than half my friends going to work or her dad going to work, much more and i realise that now, i am responsible for another human being. Don't let things go with ya partner either, talk to him cause my nice man didn't talk to me, he just walked out the door when she was 4 and a half mths old, babies bring lots of change and you need to collect urself and decide what you can do to make that change a brilliant one. Just remember take some time for you, work one or 2 days a week, study part time if you want, whatever it takes to make u feel better and act now with ya partner, get someone to babysit so u can go out for dinner, some ppl forget they had a life b4 baby came and occasionally its nice to rekindle that life with ya man.... Good luck

C, you're definitely not the only one feeling like that. I feel useless sometimes even though I know I'm doing plenty. I used to feel like my marriage was a partnership when my husband and I both worked. Now he has two jobs and is working 80 hours a week. I don't feel like it's a partnership anymore, more like he's the CEO and I'm the cleaning woman. I also worry that with the hours that my husband works, he'll wake up one day and decide he doesn't know me anymore and doesn't want to be married to a stranger, and then I'll be trying to find work and pay for daycare, at a disadvantage because of the time I spent not working. So if you're a whiner, I am too. Sometimes to cheer myself up I imagine what my husband would be doing if I were working and he was not...picturing piles of laundry, unwashed children, floors where the tile or carpet has vanished under a layer of toys or clothes, kraft mac and cheese for dinner seven days a week (because he can't cook anything more complicated and doesn't like to touch raw meat)...anyhow, I picture that and I realize just how much I do get done on a daily basis.

I feel the same. My husband works all day, then comes home and takes the baby, whilst I work from home. I carry on working til about 4 or 5 am in the morning, so we hardly speak to each other and I'm totally exhausted. Sometimes we eat togther, but that's it. I feel like my life has nowhere left to go, and apart from a few special moments with my daughter when she's awake, there's very little pleasure to be had. My old friends from work hardly ever call me now, and when they do, I hear about all the interesting work they've been doing and the great nights out they've had and I feel intensely jealous of them. I wish I could live two lives sometimes. One with a baby and one without.

You know we wont ever have this time again You have your whole life for school but these year are once in a lifetime enjoy the time with your kids being a mom is better than any degree out there If you feel like a loser remember that! Keep your goals at bay and know inside youll achive them some day if you really want them right now .....Be a mommy and love it!

I hear you all loud and clear. I had a meltdown at the 8 week pp mark and for months following. I felt saddest knowing that the most interesting part of my day was spent on a computer chit chatting with strangers, that I like, but really do not know. I have come to terms w/ this and realize that it's okay. I am who I am and if it's so awful, I am the only one w/ the power to do anything about it.

Thank you everyone, I feel a lot less alone right now. I have been doing my best to feel good about what I do accomplish by day. I really relate to everything you all have said. JBear, I have similar feelings regarding DH, like his life has recognized importance. And just the long hours alone without him are killers. I have plenty of time to sit on the computer or watch tv, but that leaves me feeling kind of detached. I teach piano, so at least I have the chance to socialize with others (and other mothers), but I am embarra__sed by how I seem to be struggling so much in front of them, and worried that their patience with my situation is wearing thin (since I have my baby present at the lessons). Thank you all for your kind remarks. It's rea__suring that you relate to me because it's sometimes so lonely to have an infant. I knew it would be hard, but the whole thing about friends not calling, not being able to leave the house easily, etc., can really make a person feel like a wastoid.

I also want to add that my daughter is the best gift I ever could have asked for, so in no way do I ever take for granted what a wonderful experience it is to have her. Lucy rules!

You're home raising your daughter! That should be gratifying. You're very lucky to stay home. I'm considering quitting my job and working from home even though I have a great job. I sometimes think that staying home and raising her would be more gratifying though. I'm 31 years old and I never imagined I'd be saying that. I thought maybe when she's 3-4 years old I could go back to school for something if I decide not to go back into the line of work I might be leaving.

Hell Yeah! I just graduated from undergrad when I was pregnant and is working in a job in my career. I would be on top of my game if I was not at home with my son. A few weeks ago I had a ephipany (sp) about my self-worth. I was real emotional, C. I told him that if he wanted to leave me and take our son bc I am a useless, horrible watse of space I will not protest. I also told him that I don't bring in any revenue and my value has decreased immensly (sp). Can you just imagine how pitiful I must of looked saying these things while crying a 2 yr old. (AF is was not even in town) My dh looked at me and started laughing hystericaly. He said, what are a piece of stock? I calmed down after that and realized that being a Mom is probably the best job around. Yes, it can be un-rewarding, but our worth can never be measured in numbers. Oh, yeah, dh did console me and made feel important. I like that guy!

thats crying LIKE a 2 yr old......

My only advice to you is to try to be cool with this now as it will all get better. I too felt like I was separated from my husband cos we sleep in different rooms for 2 months. He had to go to work and I did not want to baby cries to affect his sleeps. But he has been so understanding and constantly comforting me when he's at home. We're finally sleeping together now when the baby's learns to sleep through the night. You should try to go out sometimes.. Try taking a short walk with baby. If you're daring, go for a short shopping trip.

TC, I did the same thing! I told my husband he can go back to Russia and take Nadya with him, because I'm no good for her. I'm so lucky he doesn't take any notice of what I say when I'm depressed, because losing her would be the end for me!

TC UNrewarding??????Are you kidding I feel bad for you!