Pregnancy Info HOME

I agree, your MIL is doing you a HUGE favor. I don't understand why you are so hostile. If you want to have absolute control of your child every min of the day then you should take care of him yourself.

She'll be in daycare for 7.5 hours next door and when she's around two my mom said she'd be able to watch her. Yes I would rather be home with her but like I said, we'd barely make ends meet. I told my boyfriend if I go back to work and can't handle being away from her, I will quit and work from home as I have another job transcribing on the side but it's one of those jobs that could end as soon as it started as I contract out to local law enforcement and has no benefits and I have to pay all the taxes myself.

Your MIL is doing you a favor, but you're right, she should respect your wishes. She at least ask you before giving your child something new! I'd be furious if someone did that to me. I also think there are advantages and disadvantages to either staying at home or being a working mum, and which ever people chose, is nobody's buisness but their own. I can't afford not to work either, but I'm lucky in that I have the advantage of working from home at the moment.

Is this your first child JB? If it is I totally understand what you are going through. You want to make all the choices for your baby. But since he spends so much time with your MIL she automatically thinks she has as much rights to him as you do. I am not saying that she is right, but since she is doing it for free and being nice to him. I wouldn't make a big deal about it. That is when I started to give my kids baby cereal. As long as it isn't thick and is mixed with formula or juice it's a good thing. You should tell her thank you for trying so hard helping me raise my baby. But next time I would prefer if you told me before introducing him to new foods. Good Luck.

I agree with the other person, why are u providing a baby with health insurance is beyond me cuz i dont even have it. You know kids have a good time riding the bus with their friends and whats the difference with a pri school, all the artsy fartsy glam or the expensive fees, in the end if your child is going to mould and be intelligent or on the other side be a dud higher fees won't help. You plan on spoiling her rotten, you think designer labels and lots of toys make up for quality time. Wake up! You can afford full time care but can't stay home, do the math, whats wrong with you? I struggle to stay home with my baby but thats the thing she will only be a baby/toddler once and i would rather spoil her with love that she needs than designer fancy clothes.

Who said anything about designer clothes??? I'm totally not into that c___p and my kid won't be either. As far as private school, it's a catholic school that my entire family went to and it's close to our house. Our public school is out in the middle of nowhere which isn't a big deal but I like the idea of being able to walk her to school and walk over to pick her up when she's done. Why wouldn't I provide her with health insurance?!?!?!

hey, some of you are being really mean...this is her baby and she dosen't want mil to give anything that dosen't go by her first. this is normal and loving! As you should know in this day and age people cannot afford to stay home and she stated she would if she could! Whether or not she is with baby every minute of the day or not is no reason for someone to go against her rules.

health insurance is a croc?? We'd be paying an arm and a leg without insurance!! We're blessed enough that I am able to stay home, but if my hubby didn't have insurance, I would have to work. And I don't believe in using public aid if you really don't need it--that's why it's in the mess it is today!

I am pro SAHM's, but health insurance is NOT a croc, it is absolutely necessary. Who will pay if your child ends up in the hospital?

My mom does the same things. I don't get mad because she had 6 of us and we are all ok. I get mad at my hubbies famila for giving my baby REGULAR cereal, like Fruitloops. But as far as soft things, like mashed patatoes and stage 2 or 3 babyfood and baby cereal I don't mind. I do hate it when she tries to give him Koolaide or something, and tell her no. But if you really don't want her giving him cereal, I would say stand your ground. Otherwise if you think THIS is bad, she may be the type to come over one day and say she enrolled your son in some kind of sport without your permission. Very annoying. Good luck though, you may need it.

Hey, I am all for everyone having their own opinions but I think some of you people are extremely mean. There is a such thing as tact. JB asked a very clear question and all of you SAHM advocates came out swinging. How dare you people accuse JB of not being a good mom just bc she is working. You have no idea how much time she spends at home with her son. I am so sick and tired of people feeling the need to preach everytime a question is asked. So since everyone is preaching, let me do some. For starters, bc I am an infant and toddler teacher I would like to say to the poster that said daycares do not do anything but ignore the children, let me let you know that all daycares and/or childcare centers do not ignore the children. There are curriculum plans that are set up and implemented. The key to finding a good daycare is to take a look at the curriculum. Second, health care is not a croc. How do you take care of your child? Do you have a free doctor in your town? Are you a doctor? Do you have some get well card that we all don't have? If you do not have to pay for your doctor visits then who does? And, do you really think that your child will never get sick? Thirdly, I am staying at home with my 11wk son and my husband said that he needs me to go back into the work force. I am going to back bc I like to give my son the finer things in life, like... food, shelter or how about something called security. It is no fun at all living from check to check, and that is what a lot of people have to do. And last but not least, this is JB's child, not her MIL. If she says not to feed him cereal then she needs to obey. Who the hell cares how many children she raised. Those were her children and she had full jurisdiction to raise them the way that she did. Now it is JB's turn. Maybe giving her son cereal is not that bad but that is not what JB desires. Her son is not going to starve or suffer at all. JB, I say have a firm conversation with your MIL and if she cannot agree to your wishes then take him to your best daycare. You are his mother and it does not matter who watches him while you are at work, you still hold parenting control.

I would freak out. Juice and cereal at 3 1/2 months that is unbelieveable. Even the cereal companies who make millions of dollars every year selling the stuff say not to give until around 6 months. If it was healthy for babies to eat it sooner, you better believe they would advertise it! That's big bucks for them. Pediatric allergists recommend waiting until 6 months because babies intestines don't secrete enough digestive enzymes until 6 months. Feeding before 6 months greatly increases allergies later in life. As for juice - what nutritional purpose does juice serve? Sure it has vitamin C. Serving whole fruit(pureed) is so much better for baby then giving just the sugary juice. Juice should not be given before 6 months that's for sure. Perhaps diluted after that if you have to give it. JB you have to do what you feel is right. Mabye you should print out some info for your MIL on why it is best to wait. Hope this helps.

well i think that cereal is ok. i may not agree with the juice thought, i would tell her that youde prefer to hole on that for another couple of months. i think you are lucky to have your mil babysite him as you know he will be safe their, not everyone gets to be that lucky. Consider yourself as my MIL. was always offering my toddlers chocolate cookies and all that junk food !!!! i would always say no, but she would continue, i told her one day, keep on giving my kids chocolate, sugar juice and other junk food, and you can pick up the dentist tab (as we have no coverage) she got the message LOL she dosent do that anymore.

TC, very true. My mother works for Head Start and has worked for CDS as well. Not everyone can stay home with their kids...My husband is a Senior Airman in the AirForce and he needs help financially...He is young and has made some rough decisions with his money and he needs my help in providing for our family. When Asjani is one years old, she will be in daycare...My mom says the same thing as you...to review the curriculum of the daycare and to even come in unexpectedly sometimes to see what goes on. Those bad kids on Nanny 911 have stay at home moms...so it's not how much time you spend with your kids, it's what you're doing with the time you have. Btw, one thing that I have noticed about this forum is that when people have something "smart" to say to me, they always hide under a different name...Unless the post is extremely sensitive and personal, I have more respect for people who can post whatever they have to say using their regular names than for people who try to get smart with you under weird names...

I just wanted to thank everyone for their response. I do feel better today about the situation and we do appreciate what my MIL is doing for us.

Glad you feel better. My mom gets really p__sed off with me if I tell her not to do something with Nadya. She also reminds me that she brought up 3 kids, and we're all fine. I can cope with the little disagreements, but what p__ses me off, is she doesn't just give me the cold shoulder, she does it to Nadya too. Completely ignores her, even though she's just a 2 month old baby, and hasn't done anything wrong. Fortunately, she's too young to care at the moment, but my mom and I are going to fall out, if she does it when she's older.