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did you get st_tches lisa?

yes i had a 2nd degree tear, can see the st_tches though they seem to be inside

but i torn backwards and i seem to be brused at the front where the bone is under the skin, dont want to go to the doc, the doctor who st_tched me up stuck his finger up my bum to check for tears and that was horrible, i didnt realise he was going to nasty man, makes me cringe thinking about it, im glad midwives are usually women

i tore and, while most of my pain is gone, i still ache and feel a little pressure every once in a while. i don't notice it so much when i walk a lot. of course, i've been pretty lazy lately hehe but i notice it sometimes after i go to the bathroom. i'm particularly sensitive near the um, well, most sensitive part of that area, if u get my drift. anyway, i can't wait until the st_tches fall out and the little trickle of blood/discharge finally stops because i really miss being with my husband.

well jasmin seems to be feeding all afternoon!! ive not been eating enough my midwife told me, i have to get more calories so my milk is richer, thank god my nipples are healing

lesley, thankyou for the recomendation for kamillosan, ive only been using it since this morning and my nipples are 100 x better and it doesnt hurt to feed, thanks its much better than lasinoh

When I was talking to my midwife she said it's what she recomends to everyone who asks. I sent my partner down the chemist and told him I don't care how much he spends or what kind he gets, anything had to be better than nothing. I'm glad he got it, it works brilliant. Only thing is I think it's makin Ben sick, so I'm going to have to wash my nipples before every feed, rather than rubbing them with clean warm water.

I feel so depressed. My son is 5 days old and noone has even bothered to visit. I got no cards congratulating me and nothing for baby, no presents or nowt. I am so hurt by this. Noone cares about my children except me and my partner. When I was in hospital I had no visitors and was sitting on my own for almost 8 hours. I sent my partner home cos he had been up all night with me. With the other kids on thier birthdays noone turns up to their partys. I know I shouldn't be letting this bother me but it hurts so much and I can't stop crying. When my brothers ex had her baby everyone was there with cards, flowers, teddies, chocolates and all sorts. I didn't even get a visit. :-(

lesley, mabie people feel you need some space and time with baby, so many people get too many vistors and moan people start to get the message, why not ask peopleif they want to visit? try not to let it get you down

That isn't it at all. It's not too much to pick up a phone and see if I'm up for visitors. They haven't bothered coming to the kids birthday partys for the last 2 years either. This is including my mum too. She was supposed to come into hospital on the Monday at 2pm but didn't turn up till 5 and then she told me to get dressed cos we were going home straight away. No time for the kids to bond with their new baby brother. When I got dropped off at home all I got was a see you later. She met with me on the Wednesday to go shopping but still no well done, congratulations. I met her again on Friday when I had to take my son for his 2nd appointment. Went to my auntys with her, and when my othey aunty went to pick her up to take her home she said "Well I wasn't expecting all this lot" and made me get a taxi home. I wouldn't of minded but my mam sat there and let her talk about me as though I wasnt there. I had £10 and thats it and I had to spend that on the taxi. Now I can't get through to register Ben on Monday like I was supposed to. Everything is getting on top of me. I find it ignorant they way I am being treat, better still the way noone cares about my baby. When I was carrying him I would get endless phone calls asking if I've had him, or if there is any sign. Now I know they only did that to p__s me off.

Sorry lisa, I've just read through my post and it seems like I'm having a go at you, but I'm not. I am just really upset.

Hola All! I was looking for ya'll. How's everything? How are your babies? Anyone else's baby growing huge? My boy gained 27 oz since delivery. He's a big one, and in case anyone was wondering, it's strickly b___st milk. He's just a chow hound.

If ya'll want to see, here's a pic of my boy - http://www.growingfamily.com/webnursery/babypage_view.asp?URLID=3L6W6N3O9J Just copy and paste

Hi! I am finally here! I made it! However, I have to say I am not sure how much I will be able to read and respond. Life here is chaotic i am suffering of sleep deprivation because Jaime does not sleep but on someone's arms. DH and I are taking turns with him while the other tries to sleep. Also he has been having problems b___stfeeding which has made the last couple of days a living nightmare - he is always hungry and cries and cries while my b___sts are destroyed from giving all all I have and having to supplement with formula given thru a tiny tube near my nipple. My b___sts have taken so much abuse! I think today I have some decent milk to give. Not being able to put Jaime on his crib to sleep has been so hard on us, and we have no idea how to do it. He was so good at the hospital. I am surviving on 2 hours of sleep per night.

mary, please keep comming on here, obviously get sleep first but we can all support each other through these hard times, Ive been chewed to shreads and have bleeding scabby nipples, the first week i swore gasped and cryed in aginy when she fed, you must get some help b___stfeeding, its made such a difference for me, and kamilosan cream is great. Mary i was told to put a hot water bottle in Jasmins cot to warm it up before she gets in, before she would scream and scream, with the bed warm she just gets in and goes to sleep (most of time) last night though i fed and fed her till 12 ock she kept just laying there without sucking, but each time i took her off she cried, so i out her in her cot and we let her cry herself to sleep like a hour but she did in the end, otherwise i feared id be there all night as a soother with my nipple in her mouth being sucked once in a while for confort and im not starting that, my nipples are blistered enough thanks

Lesley dont appologise, i wouldnt of thought you were having a go, we all need to vent sometimes and this is the place, what your saying sounds c___p, i think you should try get out to a group for mums and make some new friends who will care for you and your children, your family, what is their problem? is there some issues from the past that make them behave like this? i feel i have enough to deal with with one baby, a supportive family and great friends but with more kids uncareing family and friends i think your doing a fantastic job. can you not change your kids school, why would people not come to parties, do your children get bullied? keep your chin up, were here, keep talking, let it all out :-)