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if i have fed the baby and did everything else but he still cries because he wants to be held 24/7 is it okay to just put them in the crib & let them cry it out? I have been holding this little guy too much to where my shoulder is going to fall off. his dad held him alot when he was off work for 3 weeks. the boy is only 3.5 weeks old and i feel terrible that i have introduced him to the pacifier already. i am a first time mom and wondering if it is bad to let them have a pacifier at that age & if it is okay to let them cry it out a little to wean him off of being held all the time?
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Anjelica was like that too when she was that age, but she is 2 months now and she doesnt cry like that anymore, although teething is already starting so im getting prepared for it again. I remember reading that its ok to put them down for like 15 minutes after you been holding them for a while. We would do this sometimes with Anjelica. In my opinion, the most important thing with her was to respond quickly at the beginning of the crying so she knows that we care about her and that she is important. After that though, its too hard to hold a baby when they are crying for hours the whole time, and yes I think that its ok to let them cry for a little while on their own. Trust me, it will get easier! :-)
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oh and also you should try the infant care section, theres a lot of us new mommys over there too that might have more suggestions
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Evae - yes it is ok to let them cry it out a little and I haven't ever believed that it's too early to give them a pacifier - I take one to the hospital so they learn to use the ones I like and not the ones from the hospital. So long as they are nursing without trouble or even just feeding there is nothing wrong with a pacifier... You ARE NOT a bad mother for wanting a little freedom it's not realistic to carry around even a small infant all the time - you'll never get any rest or peace - like Margie said so long as when they start crying to are there it's fine - have you tried a swing of vibrating chair? they aren't too little for those so long as you keep an eye on them Good luck!
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There's absolutely nothing wrong with using a pacifier, at least in my opinion. Some people may talk about "nipple confusion" for the baby if b___stfeeding isn't well-established, but even with the problems we had I didn't find that having a soother interfered. In fact, it helped a lot because often she'd eat only because she wanted the comfort of sucking on something (so of course she'd spit up everything she ate shortly afterwards). You don't need to hold him all the time, but he is still adjusting to live on the outside which must be an awful scary experience especially now that his senses are starting to develop more. It is important that he is soothed when he's upset as he's making this difficult adjustment. Do you have a swing? I hear those are real life savers. I didn't get one, I would definitely rethink that if we are going to do this again. But definitely the soother saved us.
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swings are a life saver. you could try the baby einstein dvd to if you aren't against that anyway. you could try buying a front carrier. it won't hurt to let him cry it out a little but i wouldn't want to leave the baby crying for too long. I think letting them cry it out for a few minutes probably gets them used to being more independent. i don't let dd cry more then a few minutes though personally. i guess i just want her to be real attached to me lol. she is almost 3 months and still loves to be held quite a bit though.
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I think the paci is ok . My son is 4wks old and likes to suck his thumb for comfort. I give him the paci instead, because I don't like to see kids sucking on their fingers. I think letting baby cry a little after you make sure they are well feed, dry, and not sick is ok.
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