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Hi little t so sad to hear of your loss but inspired to hear of your later successful pregnancy! 2 weeks ago my husband and i suffered the heartbreaking loss of our baby, ben at 19 weeks and 6 days. Like so many of you the shock of losing our baby along with the hopes and plans for the future gives a new meaning to pain. We dont know the reasons yet and will meet with our gyneacologist before Xmas. In the meantime we are taking all the help going, counselling, time of work, church and friends and family. It's so inspiring and humbling to hear of the courage and perserverance of sisters who push through the pain and unknowing in the faith that they will be mummies again. I salute you all and thank you. You are truly an inspiration and have taught me to have faith and be stronger than I ever could have imagined. Me and my husband had ben through ivf and know that the journey ahead us uncertain but we will try again if possible thanks to the bravery of the women on this forum. Has anyone been in a similar position regarding ivf and late miscarriage and had a succesful pregnancy? Much love x x

I have a similar story to all of you ladies. although mine happened very recently infact. about 2 days ago. i was 17+3 and had ma__sive abdominal pains and i just shrugged it off thinking it was just growing pains, a couple of my friends said it was just the baby leaning on my bladder. after a while i knew something wasnt right so when to hospital and had to have an emergency scan. the scan showed that by this point (18+2) there was no heartbeat and the doctor didnt even have to tell me! I KNEW! i had to deliver my baby boy yesterday and after reading all of your comments i wish i had held him. i feel selfish at myself because i havent really confided in my partner and im going back to work tomorrow to get back to reality. Do you think its to soon to go back to work?

I have a similar story except mine happen to me twice. In 2010 I had ruptured my membranes at 18 weeks they wanted me to abort but i said no because she always found a way to make fluid. I also had a blood clot on my placenta. I went into the hospital on Halloween and at 25 weeks and 5 days i delivered a 1lb 3 oz beautiful baby girl. She was in the NICU for a month and started getting sick they did test after test but could not find out was she had pa__sed from. now in 2012 i got pregnant everything was going great no problems no infections baby was growing everything was just right then out of no were at 18 weeks again i ruptured my membranes i never had any bleeding, every ultrasound out of 4 were great, i had to deliver a beautiful baby boy but he was a stillborn baby just 2 days ago with no answers as to why this keeps happening. So if anyone has a similar situation please i am curious to know if you know why this happened to me 2 times. Im letting my body heal but i wanna try again but i wanna know if anyone has had this happen then had a healthy pregnancy after this.

I have a similar story except mine happen to me twice. In 2010 I had ruptured my membranes at 18 weeks they wanted me to abort but i said no because she always found a way to make fluid. I also had a blood clot on my placenta. I went into the hospital on Halloween and at 25 weeks and 5 days i delivered a 1lb 3 oz beautiful baby girl. She was in the NICU for a month and started getting sick they did test after test but could not find out was she had pa__sed from. now in 2012 i got pregnant everything was going great no problems no infections baby was growing everything was just right then out of no were at 18 weeks again i ruptured my membranes i never had any bleeding, every ultrasound out of 4 were great, i had to deliver a beautiful baby boy but he was a stillborn baby just 2 days ago with no answers as to why this keeps happening. So if anyone has a similar situation please i am curious to know if you know why this happened to me 2 times. Im letting my body heal but i wanna try again but i wanna know if anyone has had this happen then had a healthy pregnancy after this.

April 10, 2012 I gave birth to a precious baby boy at 17 weeks. I never ever imagined something like this would happen. My pregnancy seemed to be going great, i was eating healthy and doing light exercising almost daily. I went to the doctor for my routine check up April 6th and they were unable to detect a heartbeat. The nurse practioner then took us into the ultrasound room, when i saw the screen i knew something was wrong. My baby was still and lifeless. My world fell apart. I was scheduled to go back to the doctor the following Monday so that the sonographer could do measurements. I walked out of the doctor's office knowing that i would have to carry my deceased baby all weekend long. That tore me up emotionally. Monday i went back into the doctor's office and they did the baby's measurements and said that he probably pa__sed around 16 weeks. She asked me whether i wanted to go through labor and delivery or have the D&C. I chose the D&C because i knew that it would be heartbreaking to give birth to him and then have to walk out of the hospital with my arms empty. The procedure was scheduled for the next morning at 7am. Her office called me shorly after i left and said that neither hospital she was affiliated with had the appropriate instruments to do this procedure since i was so far along. How could a hospital in the Dallas/Fort Worth metroplex not be equipped to handle this? She then referred me to a clinic in Dallas and a__sured me that they would be able to take care of me. When i walked into that office and found out it was an abortion clinic, i broke down. The entire waiting room was full of girls voluntarily terminating their pregnancies. They looked as if it didnt bother them at all. It just seemed so unfair, I had no choice, my baby was taken from me. I walked out of there and called the doctor and told her that i was not going through with the D&C and decided that the labor and delivery was going to best for me. I went to the hospital straight from that clinic and they started the induction. My son was born at 8:38pm that evening. He weighed 3 oz and was 6 1/2 inches long. My boyfriend and I agreed that we needed to see him and hold him to give us some form of closure. He was beautiful, so tiny. He had a perfect nose and lips and had ten fingers and ten toes. The nurse did hand and foot prints for us that i will always cherish. Leaving the hospital the next morning was excruciating. I felt as though i was leaving him behind, all alone. My heart goes out to all of you who have endured this. Its been two weeks as of today and i still cry daily but i am getting stronger.

Stormy_leverett, your story broke my heart. I'm 16 weeks pregnant, but suffered a miscarriage 6 months ago....throughout this entire pregnancy, I have been dreading bad news when I go to the doct office...I'm staying positive and trying not to be nervous all the time. I wish you a healthy pregnancy should you wish to TTC again after this devestating event.

Thank you beautifulpackage I'm sorry for your loss as well. Stay strong and positive. I wish you the best with this pregnancy.

I came across this thread while doing research for a writing project and wanted to express my condolences. I wasn't intending to read the thread, and when I started reading I wasn't intending to write anything. But I am really moved by your stories. Ten years ago (when I was fourteen) I found out that I would never be able to have biological children. It's probably for that reason that I've been interested in writing about children and childbirth. It's also probably for that reason that I work in a preschool. Even though I've never experienced losing a child like this and will never have this experience, reading about your losses (and accomplishments) has stirred something inside of me. I know that we aren't grieving for the same thing, but reading your stories has really touched me. You are such brave women. Thank your for sharing your stories.

I came across this thread while doing research for a writing project and wanted to express my condolences. I wasn't intending to read the thread, and when I started reading I wasn't intending to write anything. But I am really moved by your stories. Ten years ago (when I was fourteen) I found out that I would never be able to have biological children. It's probably for that reason that I've been interested in writing about children and childbirth. It's also probably for that reason that I work in a preschool. Even though I've never experienced losing a child like this and will never have this experience, reading about your losses (and accomplishments) has stirred something inside of me. I know that we aren't grieving for the same thing, but reading your stories has really touched me. You are such brave women. Thank your for sharing your stories.

I came across this thread while doing research for a writing project and wanted to express my condolences. I wasn't intending to read the thread, and when I started reading I wasn't intending to write anything. But I am really moved by your stories. Ten years ago (when I was fourteen) I found out that I would never be able to have biological children. It's probably for that reason that I've been interested in writing about children and childbirth. It's also probably for that reason that I work in a preschool. Even though I've never experienced losing a child like this and will never have this experience, reading about your losses (and accomplishments) has stirred something inside of me. I know that we aren't grieving for the same thing, but reading your stories has really touched me. You are such brave women. Thank your for sharing your stories.

First, I would like to send out my sympathy and prayers to all the mom's of angels... I had a miscarriage 9/29 at just over 19 weeks. I had gone to my level 2 ultrasound on Tuesdayto find out baby's gender and found out that our sweet baby was a girl, and also that she was sick with what appeared to be skeletal dysplasia(a lethal form of dwarfism) and she had even gone into heart failure due to this.Our high risk doctor then informed us that her case was lethal and she would not survive the pregnancy, and if so would pa__s shortly after birth. Obviously, we were beyond devastated. It did not matter to us that our baby would be "different", we would love her unconditionally regardless. We just did not want her to suffer...Two days later, I had a follow up with my regular OB and were told there was no longer a heartbeat and I would have to deliver my daughter. My angel was born a day and a half later. Amnio came back normal... Since then, we have gone to a geneticist, who does not believe she had SD. Her xrays have been sent to a specialty group to basically confirm that she does not have SD. We are so confused, if her lungs/heart wasn't constricted due to SD, then why did she pa__s? we are awaiting results and hoping that one day, we can have children and this is not a genetic mutism. Has anyone experienced anything like this?We are scared that this will repeat its self, and as all you know, mentally it is hard for one miscarrage. We miss our baby girl SO much, words can not explain. Thank you all for sharing your stories, it gives me hope.

First, I would like to send out my sympathy and prayers to all the mom's of angels... I had a miscarriage 9/29 at just over 19 weeks. I had gone to my level 2 ultrasound on Tuesdayto find out baby's gender and found out that our sweet baby was a girl, and also that she was sick with what appeared to be skeletal dysplasia(a lethal form of dwarfism) and she had even gone into heart failure due to this.Our high risk doctor then informed us that her case was lethal and she would not survive the pregnancy, and if so would pa__s shortly after birth. Obviously, we were beyond devastated. It did not matter to us that our baby would be "different", we would love her unconditionally regardless. We just did not want her to suffer...Two days later, I had a follow up with my regular OB and were told there was no longer a heartbeat and I would have to deliver my daughter. My angel was born a day and a half later. Amnio came back normal... Since then, we have gone to a geneticist, who does not believe she had SD. Her xrays have been sent to a specialty group to basically confirm that she does not have SD. We are so confused, if her lungs/heart wasn't constricted due to SD, then why did she pa__s? we are awaiting results and hoping that one day, we can have children and this is not a genetic mutism. Has anyone experienced anything like this?We are scared that this will repeat its self, and as all you know, mentally it is hard for one miscarrage. We miss our baby girl SO much, words can not explain. Thank you all for sharing your stories, it gives me hope.

First, I would like to thank you all for sharing your story. I experienced a miscarriage on 9/29/19. We went in for our level 2 ultrasound to find out our baby’s gender. After a ..less than perfect pregnancy (hyperemesis causing me to lose 26 pounds, anxiety, etc) we felt like finally we had a positive, we could focus our energy to painting baby’s room. As first time parents, we didn’t find it odd that the ultrasound tech spent over an hour looking at our baby, we thought she just couldn’t find baby’s gender. It wasn’t until the high risk doctor came in and told us he had bad new that it hit us. We found out that our baby was a sweet little girl, and also that she apparently had skeletal dysphasia (a form of dwarfism), and that she was in heart failure due to this (her rib cages weren’t growing, which in turn was not allowing her heart & lungs room to grow). At this time, we were hoping for a miracle, knowing that it didn’t matter to us what our sweet baby looked like, we would love her unconditionally regardless. The doctor suggested an amnio, which we did at that time. The doctor then told us that the condition was lethal and our baby had no chance of survival. If our sweet girl survived the pregnancy, she would pa__s within hours of birth due to her not being able to breathe. We were beyond devastated, how could this happen to us? I spent the next 2 days crying, wanting our sweet baby to survive so we could meet her, but knowing that if she did, she would suffer for the short time she was with us. 2 days after the ultrasound, we went in for a follow up appointment with regular OB and they could not find her heartbeat, an ultrasound confirmed that our baby went to heaven. I had to deliver her, and we spent hours holding her, remembering her every feature. I would strongly suggest this to mom’s of angels.. I will never forget her hands, feet, ears, nose, mouth, etc… She was truly perfect and I think about her little features constantly. Moving forward, the amnio came back normal. We went to a Geneticist. She shared that in her opinion, our sweet girl does not have skeletal dysphasia, her bones are normal sized. Just to be certain, her xrays were sent to California to a SD specialty group. The results will not be in for at least two months. We are scared of the results. What are the chances that this will happen again? We would love to be parents. To make our sweet baby a big sister, but mentally, don’t feel like we could handle not being able to keep another baby. I cherish every moment we had with her and we love her so much… has anyone been through anything like this?

First, I would like to thank you all for sharing your story. I experienced a miscarriage on 9/29/19. We went in for our level 2 ultrasound to find out our baby’s gender. After a ..less than perfect pregnancy (hyperemesis causing me to lose 26 pounds, anxiety, etc) we felt like finally we had a positive, we could focus our energy to painting baby’s room. As first time parents, we didn’t find it odd that the ultrasound tech spent over an hour looking at our baby, we thought she just couldn’t find baby’s gender. It wasn’t until the high risk doctor came in and told us he had bad new that it hit us. We found out that our baby was a sweet little girl, and also that she apparently had skeletal dysphasia (a form of dwarfism), and that she was in heart failure due to this (her rib cages weren’t growing, which in turn was not allowing her heart & lungs room to grow). At this time, we were hoping for a miracle, knowing that it didn’t matter to us what our sweet baby looked like, we would love her unconditionally regardless. The doctor suggested an amnio, which we did at that time. The doctor then told us that the condition was lethal and our baby had no chance of survival. If our sweet girl survived the pregnancy, she would pa__s within hours of birth due to her not being able to breathe. We were beyond devastated, how could this happen to us? I spent the next 2 days crying, wanting our sweet baby to survive so we could meet her, but knowing that if she did, she would suffer for the short time she was with us. 2 days after the ultrasound, we went in for a follow up appointment with regular OB and they could not find her heartbeat, an ultrasound confirmed that our baby went to heaven. I had to deliver her, and we spent hours holding her, remembering her every feature. I would strongly suggest this to mom’s of angels.. I will never forget her hands, feet, ears, nose, mouth, etc… She was truly perfect and I think about her little features constantly. Moving forward, the amnio came back normal. We went to a Geneticist. She shared that in her opinion, our sweet girl does not have skeletal dysphasia, her bones are normal sized. Just to be certain, her xrays were sent to California to a SD specialty group. The results will not be in for at least two months. We are scared of the results. What are the chances that this will happen again? We would love to be parents. To make our sweet baby a big sister, but mentally, don’t feel like we could handle not being able to keep another baby. I cherish every moment we had with her and we love her so much… has anyone been through anything like this?

First, I would like to thank you all for sharing your story. I experienced a miscarriage on 9/29/19. We went in for our level 2 ultrasound to find out our baby’s gender. After a ..less than perfect pregnancy (hyperemesis causing me to lose 26 pounds, anxiety, etc) we felt like finally we had a positive, we could focus our energy to painting baby’s room. As first time parents, we didn’t find it odd that the ultrasound tech spent over an hour looking at our baby, we thought she just couldn’t find baby’s gender. It wasn’t until the high risk doctor came in and told us he had bad new that it hit us. We found out that our baby was a sweet little girl, and also that she apparently had skeletal dysphasia (a form of dwarfism), and that she was in heart failure due to this (her rib cages weren’t growing, which in turn was not allowing her heart & lungs room to grow). At this time, we were hoping for a miracle, knowing that it didn’t matter to us what our sweet baby looked like, we would love her unconditionally regardless. The doctor suggested an amnio, which we did at that time. The doctor then told us that the condition was lethal and our baby had no chance of survival. If our sweet girl survived the pregnancy, she would pa__s within hours of birth due to her not being able to breathe. We were beyond devastated, how could this happen to us? I spent the next 2 days crying, wanting our sweet baby to survive so we could meet her, but knowing that if she did, she would suffer for the short time she was with us. 2 days after the ultrasound, we went in for a follow up appointment with regular OB and they could not find her heartbeat, an ultrasound confirmed that our baby went to heaven. I had to deliver her, and we spent hours holding her, remembering her every feature. I would strongly suggest this to mom’s of angels.. I will never forget her hands, feet, ears, nose, mouth, etc… She was truly perfect and I think about her little features constantly. Moving forward, the amnio came back normal. We went to a Geneticist. She shared that in her opinion, our sweet girl does not have skeletal dysphasia, her bones are normal sized. Just to be certain, her xrays were sent to California to a SD specialty group. The results will not be in for at least two months. We are scared of the results. What are the chances that this will happen again? We would love to be parents. To make our sweet baby a big sister, but mentally, don’t feel like we could handle not being able to keep another baby. I cherish every moment we had with her and we love her so much… has anyone been through anything like this?

Hello Ladies, I recently just lost my baby boy. I have never been on one of these sites before and I feel so alone right now. My husband and I flew to PHX to find out the gender of our baby, because the town we live in doesn't have a gender ultrasound place, you have to go to your doctor. Anyway we get to the appointmentt and the tech was talking and laughing with us because at first we team green but as time went on I was team blue and my husband was team pink. we were excited this was out first child, been high school sweethearts, married 2 years ago, moved across the country from Florida to Colorado. WE WERE VERY HAPPY ABOUT THIS BABY. then the tech stop laughing and smiling, she couldn't find a heartbeat and baby wasn't moving. she tried to calm us by saying it could be here machine but to go to the local hospital anyway. we wnt to Banner ER, filled out paperwork, wait an hour, called to the back, the nurse use the Doppler and thought she found a heartbeat. then we went for ultrasound, tech said she couldn't tell us anything that the doctor has too. In my heart I already knew, my baby was gone. An hour and half later the DR. confirmed. My world stopped my heart dropped to the bottom of my stomach, I couldn't understand the doctor saying it could have happen yesterday or that day. My husband was trying to be strong for me and it was so hard on him. we fly back home at midnight call the on call dr. the next day they schedule my delivery this past Monday for 7:15am, 19 hours of labor, 400mg of meds to induce me that had to be inserted into my cervix. an epidural that was stronger on my right side then left side then my they had to give me something to sleep since I refuse to sleep. at 2:58am I felt a gush of something coming from me it was dark but I looked down and there was my baby boy laying there in the bed covered in blood and me screaming for a nurse and my husband is in shock. they had him so gently, so careful, it took another 2 hours for my placenta to p naturally. hours p the ambien they gave me again didn't work my nightmares made sure I relived the delivery. when it was time for the burial services it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do. Then the question did I want to see my darling son again, of course! he was so little so handsome, eyes, ears, fingers, just perfect only thing he was cold... I sung to him and cry to him. I miss Aaron... this hurts...