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Hi Perl. I am finding myself crying over my little bean right now - from reading your story and a poem I just posted. You should read it... Anyway, It has been 5 months since my m/c and I am too pg again. 11w1d today. I'm so glad you posted this question b/c I was just having the same feelings myself. I'm proud of you - and you should be proud of youself - for standing up to be prayed for!! Of course you are a mother. Not only to the one you lost but to the one growing inside you right now! You'll never forget about the little bean you lost but it is of course going to get a bit easier and you'll cry a little less... don't feel guilty. If you do, then I should too. Hang in there. Good luck in your pregnancy. {{{HUGS}}}

Hey, I just posted a similar thread. I miscarried last july as well and I'm still very sad about it sometimes. I feel like I shouldn't be. Gradually, I've become less depressed, but things still constantly remind me of my loss. I'm sorry for your loss too and hope that time will continue to heal you. But it is also helpful for me to hear that I'm not the only one still grieving after so long. I hope that your new pregnancy will be a healthy one and bring you the blessing of a beautiful baby!

I had 1st m/c last June and I'm still sad about it. After my 1st m/c, i had 2 more m/c in November and December last year. The pain and sorrow of losses will never go away, but I guess I'm learning how to live with them. I will start trying next month and very anxious about it, but belive I and my husband will be blessed with a beautiful baby soon. Pearl and Jennifer, Congratulations and good luck!!!

Hi Jennifer, akm and peacekey. I'm sorry for your losses too. Thanks for responding and allowing me to feel a little more normal. akm: I'm sorry if I overlooked your post before. I tried to find a similar discussion but all I kept seeing was "trying to conceive" discussions and it frustrated me so I started this thread. It looks like we were thinking the same thing at almost the same time. Yes, it appears that feeling the grief even after this much time is normal.

I mentioned the Natalie Grant song (Held) before, well I was inspired by the beautiful poem that Jennifer posted elsewhere to save you time and do a copy/paste of just a few of the lyrics from the song off of one of various websites which has the lyrics. They lyrics are beautiful but the singer's voice and the music makes it even more beautiful to listen to. Many blessings and best wishes to each of you. HELD by Natalie Grant: "Two months is too little. They let him go. They had no sudden healing. To think that providence would take a child from his mother while she prays, is apalling. Who told us we'd be rescued? What has changed and why should we be saved from nightmares? To us who have died to live? It's unfair. This hand is bitterness. We want to taste it, let the hatred numb our sorrow. The wise hands open slowly to lillies of the valley and tomorrow. This is what it means to be held, how it feels when the sacred is torn from your life but you survive. This is what it means to be loved and to know that the promise was when everything fell, we would be held."

Hi there everyone! It is nice to know that I'm not the only one still sad about my m/c. We found out we were pregnant in October 2005 and on the 3rd of November I started to miscarriage, I was supose to write and exam that morning and rushed through to the hospital only to discover that it was a blighted ovum. I had a d&c the same day. It all happened so fast and it was just horrible having to tell everyone that we're not pregnant anymore. It was our 1st time falling pregnant and going through the d&c and the pain of the loss I've decided to wait a while before we try again. But it hurts when you see other women having perfectly fine pregnancies/babies and you do ask why me?? Thanks for listening, knowing that there is other out there that knows my pain help! Good luck to all of you!!

I don't really cry too much over it anymore. I am not numb to it. I still feel pain over it, but considerably less than a few months ago. I am now almost 9 weeks. I do not take this for granted, I know that something bad can happen at any moment. But I just try to be thankful that we were able to get pregnant again without any real difficulty. I used to feel terrible, especially around Christmas, that was a very hard time for me. Also when my sister told me that she is pregnant, that was very hard. I never really found myself wonderwing why it seemed so many women were capable of having babies with no problems, because honestly, how do I know the pregnant woman I see on the street hasn't had multiple miscarraiges before? Everyone has pain in life. Everyone. I consider my miscarraige one of those painful moments in my life, but I try not to dwell on it too much, especially now. I won't forget that pregnancy, it was my first. And it will always be my first pregnancy and when I die, I'll meet my child at that time. But for now I am just trying to deal with what is on my plate today.

Hi Perl, I know exactly how you are feeling. I, too, suffered a loss in July 05 and Dec 05 and am currently 22 weeks pregnant. I still find myself bawling over the fact that my baby should have been born in Feb and my son would have a sibling so close in age. I miss them so much and don't think I can ever fill that empty void. I am so blessed to have this lovely baby growing inside of me, but I do miss the other babies often. May you be given the strength to continue each day as you have been. You will never forget your little love, but I cannot tell you if you will ever feel "normal" again. Good luck to you and your little one!

Hi Perl. I completely understand how you feel. My last m/c was on November 05 and I still cry. Everytime I see my cousin with her 2 month old baby, makes me feel very sad. Keep strong. we are here 4 u.

I had a miscarriage last July. I never really was able to cope since I had soo much going in from my dad passing away to finding out my boyfriend was cheating. It is not hurting more than ever. 

I am so sorry about your loss. I understand what you are talking about. I'm 32 and all my friends and all people I know are pregnant or having children. I was born without a uterus. There is no way for me to get pregnant. I chose surrogacy as an option. But this is not a short process. I'm happy now because I have something which gives me hope. At the same time each birthday announcement, each baby shower is very hard for me. When I see photos of my friends’ children on Facebook I feel like depression hugs me tightly. I really have no idea how to cope with it when you ttc for a long time or facing infertility. I really hope to start my journey after holidays. Maybe next year I will have a baby. I'm sure motherhood will change my life.

Sorry for your loss. The emotional impact takes longer to heal than physical recovery. It is important to understand that miscarriage is situation beyond your control. We cannot stop miscarriage once happen. But keep hope and have faith, because miscarriage is not the end. You can conceive after miscarriage. 

Hey there. I am so sorry for your loss. It is very painful and crucial time which you are going through. I can feel your pain what miscarriage has done to you. But this was not your fault my dear. This was all by luck and you can do nothing when it comes to luck. You should have to remain calm and have a positive attitude towards life. Getting upset and hopeless will affect your health and life badly. You have many other options which you can chose to have a baby. The life has not ended yet my dear. You can go for surrogacy it will help you a lot. Surrogacy has much higher and guaranteed results. There are many couples who got benefit from surrogacy and are blessed with a baby by it. I suggest that you must go for surrogacy rather than repenting and cursing yourself. You have to take care of yourself and your family so please control yourself and set a positive attitude towards life. I hope that you got my point. All my best wishes and compliments are with you my dear. May you and your family be blessed with good and healthy life.

Hi. How are you?. I felt very sorry to know about your miscarriage. Its a part of life. There is no fault of you in it. Everyone has to face difficulties. You have to let that thing go. If you did not let that thing go you will never be able to think about your future. Don't let your past destroy your future. That incident will always be in your heart because this kind of incident can never be forgotten. But you can try for it.  In order to forget you may try to conceive again. Hope so my suggestion will help you.

Hey. I am so sorry for your loss. Don't lose hope, nor be sad. I know it is hard to wait but this is the reality. Be patient. You will be a mommy soon don't worry. I can understand your pain. It is hard to deal with this situation. I tried to conceive for almost 12 years. I tried again and again but all in vain. It was so hard for me but it was in my fate. I was facing infertility due to cervical incompetence disease. I started searching some other ways and then I found about surrogacy I went for it. After that, I became a mother given birth by someone else. I am happy that I have my baby now. I am planning to have another baby soon.I am so happy and it is all because of Surrogacy.

Hi! I Hope you are doing fine. Sorry to hear about your MC. As a mother, I can feel your pain. We are in the same boat. I had faced MC for 4 times. I was fed up with my life. My husband was about to leave me. Then I looked for the alternatives.  I choose surrogacy to complete my family. It was very hard to decide. But I had to decide to complete my family. I went for it. I got a surrogate baby. It proved a blessing for me. I suggest you think about it. Stay blessed.