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I am a 21year old who is pregnant and there are two possable men who are the father. Both really want to have a child but somehow I'v missled one man and he belives it's his. And I dont want to do this.
Now heres where it gets tricky...I'v had a blood test and it pretty much said that its not him... Im so confused I just told the father it wasn't his so I can make my own choices on my own, but really I can't because this man who isn't the father thinks he has a say in whats going on... I dont know what I should do...
Do I tell him it's not his and tell the father it is his? But then now I'v lied to him and trust will be broken
I'm so confused eather way I go the trust will fall apart
I already have a son and this man has two kids of his own. Should I just keep my mouth shut and not go through with it
Please I need some advice
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the longer you delay honesty, the worse the situation will get. Do what is right and you will feel good about it. Think about it from the mens' perspectives. They DEFINITELY have a right to know.
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If you don't want to speak to him face to face, why don't you write him a letter, saying you've just had a blood test and unfortunetly the dates don't match up so he cannot be the father. As for the ACTUAL father, you should tell him. You could say you read the blood test wrong. It's wrong to deny him knowing his child. If you tell him now, before the baby is even born, it will be no big deal. But what if in 6 years time he "accidently" finds out? He will be crushed that he didn't get to see his kid grow up. You can still make your own choices and decisions Heather, him knowing isn't going to change that. Technically, he has no say anyway. Your not married or anything!
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