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Jm, I guess the decision is yours and yours alone. I am 38 and have a 5 yr old, I have tried and tried for number two but have had 4 mc's. I would love another especially for my son but i understand and respect your satisfaction with just the one, sometmes I wish I could be satisfird with one but for some reason i am not. We are all different. I am sure this baby will be a welcome addition to your family you just don't know it yet, you will be doing your a daughter a huge favour, your Mother, your Husband and most of all yourself!

Jm, when you say this will completely turn your world upside down... can't that mean for the best.. I am 38 and have begged my husband for a second child for 7 years.. we are finally pg and expecting in Aug. I am 37 and I, my daughter and my husband are so excited about our new addition. We found out today we are having a girl.. Madison (my 7 yr. old daughter) is so happy she is going to be a big sister and not an only child.. I think this was the absolute best decision we have ever made for her and our family. Like densieb said it is a choice that only you can decide but think about the joy of your first and what she added to your life.. then multiply that by 2.. best wishes.. my thoughts and prayers are with you. Cissy

I too was shocked to find out was pregnant at 37 with number 4. Got over the shock and then miscarried. Got over the sadness of it all and now a bit confused. But as far as advice goes, God gave you this gift and it is a blessing that only he can give. God chose you to be this babies Mom and would not give you more than you can handle. 39 is not that old and if you talked to a doctor would probably tell you that you and the baby will be fine. So second piece of advice, talk to a doctor and he/she will probably tell you that you have nothing to fear. God Bless you and your husband!

Jm-I completely understand your situation. I am 38 and have a 3 1/2 yo daughter and was COMPLETELY satisfied with having the one child (although I also have an 11 yo step-son). I found out I was pregnant last July and was PO'd!!! I had just applied for a really great job that would require travel and there was NO WAY I could accept it and have a newborn to take care of. My husband was excited (so that is one difference) because he had always wanted to have one more and I was always like "NO THANKS!". However, I adjusted and got used to the idea and then miscarried. My husband and I had a long talk and agreed that we would try again and see what happened. Well, we did and got pregnant the first time trying. I ended up getting an even better job with great flexible hours that lets me spend time with my kids and not have to travel. I truly believe everything happens for a reason, but you always have to do what is best for YOU. I discovered after I miscarried that I actually did want another child (my husband and I made a really cute one the first time! ;-) ) . As far as the weight goes, I was 15 lbs heavier when I got pregnant this time than I was when I delivered my first one. I am due 8wks and 1 day from today (yea!) and have only gained 9 lbs. I feel good, the baby is healthy, and I am glad I made the decision I made. However, do what is best for you and don't feel like you have to justify it to anyone - they aren't in your shoes. I wish you the best of luck with your decision and also with your career in nursing ( I also work in healthcare). Take Care

Go see a doctor to be rea__sured that your weight isn't an issue - you may not even be "expected" to gain during your pg or may even lose. My SIL is 40, pg, and extremely overweight...surprise pg. She is due soon and everything has gone great for them. She was diagnosed with gestational diabetes, but is controlling it with diet (cutting out soft drinks, duh!). :-) Your daughter is of an age she will probably LOVE being a big sister.

Hi there, I am going to be 38 next month and have been ttc #4 for almost a year. I am also overweight. Your dr can help you control that issue and I believe you will be just fine from a health stand point. This baby will be such a blessing and your daughter will love have a sibling. I urge you to carry on, I don't think you'd ever regret it. Hugs!

JM, plz try to accept this gift as a blessing! I know its a shock, and you may have to make changes as a result, but a child is a miracle! As far as your weight, mothers far more overweight have had healthy children. And your daughter is going to be your #1 babysitter!! What better job than nursing--my friend w/4 kids is a nurse, and has such flexibility...she works evenings, a few 10hr shifts and makes great money, and needed no daycare. As as far as your age, I am 42 with a DS4 and expecting another in July. I have had 2 healthy pregnancys, age has not been a factor at all. I hope you find peace w/this pregnancy.

hi jm, im 39 and just found out im 3 months pregnant im so happy i never thought it would happen, my husband and i have been trying for so long this will be my 1st baby. good luck with your decision.

Have been thinking about you and wondering if these postings have helped you make some decision. I hope so, I will keep thinking about you. As for myself, we have decided to go for that baby #4. I really believe that God has a bigger hand than we do in when it comes to creation. You know? Let us know how you are doing

Im on the same boat as you. I look at all of the increased complications and become very scared (down syndrome spina bifida) the list for defects is huge. Already have an 11 year old we love dearly. We were done. just took on huge mortgage and have no health insurance. make to much for medicaid and too little to afford out of pocket. gonna have to read some books on home delivery.

oh wow am not the only one going threw this. I had a abortion set for 24 april I did this cause I have been thinking am way to old to start all over again. But I went to go look at abortion pictures online I suddenly changed my mind real fast. I have a 17,11,10 I have been single 10 years and met and fell in love with the father who is 47 so it wasnt easy to make the choice to keep this baby but I am now looking forward to the baby we both are. The best thing is I am MUCH OLDER AND SO MUCH WISER been there done it and I know what I can appove on. I guess its better been then being a teen mom whitch is so much worse cause they have NO idea what they are getting their selfes into At least i do. I guess when your blessed with a baby its NOT about you anymore.