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Dear Debbie! Congratulations on your pregnancy! You probably have mixed feelings right now, but pretty soon they´ll be replaced by excitement for the wonderful gift you will receive in 9 months. Congratulations!

It's weird that you would reply to me so quick because I have been trying to get in touch with someone I thought was one of my best friends and her name is also Daniella!!! She just disappeared from my life and it's been a month now and she is the only one who I thought would support me at a time like this!! Thanks so much for your words!!!

You never know what life brings you. I'm 42 and 14 weeks pregnant. At first I was in the same boat as you. (I'm married though) But, I was thinking am I crazy. You never know how your significant other will act. He may change his behavior. Have you told him yet? I don't think he will let you go through this alone, he's been with you for 8 years. How could he possibly abandon the person who is carrying his child..... If he does, he is a real jerk and doesn't deserve you. Hang in there, things always work out for a reason. (at least that is what I'm beginning to think) Good luck, and keep us posted please.

Debbie,hugs and good-luck.

Vickie, Thanks so much for replying! I am so dumbfounded my my significant others reaction because he's been with me for 8 years, but has known me for 15! In the course of our relationship I have been pregnant 3 times, two abortions and the last time I decided enough was enough and accepted the fact that I have to live up to my responsibilities, I had a miscarrage at 15 weeks (it was more heartbreaking than I imagined and my family seemed relieved, not that I have ever asked them to help me with any of my kids, I have raised them being a single mother and I am proud of it!! I have told him and when I did all I could say (before showing him the home pregnancy test) was "don't freak out" and he didn't but all he could say was "how"? HELLO, who do you think!! I just hope God isn't going to punish me for the 2 abortions that I have had and will let me have a healthy and normal pregancy with or without this man in my life! Don't get me wrong, I would love the support both emotionally and financially, but if I don't get it, I know we will be okay. Woman do it every day right? And he knows me by now and knows that I won't let him off the hook that easy! He made a comment to me a couple of weeks ago when I had my Grandbaby (who is so in love with me), he said "aren't you glad you don't have to deal with that everyday"? I said "no, I would deal with it if I had to"!!

Don't be afraid and don't be ashamed. You have as much right (and many more skills) to be pregnant as the 20 somthings. Why do people a__sume that because you are 40 (I am 41) you are washed up? Hold your head up proudly. When your belly expands cradle it in your arms and smile at the pa__sersby. Be proud! My new hubby is 15 years younger than me. Try that one on for size and embarra__sment. However, after the first little while it did not matter anymore. Nor does pushing a baby carriage and letting everyone around you proudly know that yo uare mother not grandmother to this child. Congratulations on your baby. Be happy, be proud, and enjoy every single moment.

Congradulation on the little one,you sound like a strong women. Enjoy this pg it could be your last I for one would like to have another one but due to the fact I maybe going though perimenopause I may not be able too. I have a 3 and 5 year old boys. Please keep us posted on what ypur husband saysto the pg. Your story brought tears to my eyes. You can be resurred that you have moral support on this site,most people who post are regulars here. You never know maybe you might be able to help someone else out in the future. Blessing to you and the baby. Lisa*9

Debbie, just checking on ya. How are the hormones today? What about significant other...... Have you actually told him yet? You need to be strong, especially if you do plan on keeping this pregnancy. You have to love yourself before you can love others, so, remember that! Take care of yourself.....There is definately a moral support center here, but you also need the support at home. Have your told your son or daughter yet either? Once it is out in the open, all this stress will be lifted from you. Keep us posted :)

Congratulations on your pregnancy! Though this pregnancy wasn't planned you seem excited about your new addition and that is the most important thing. When you mother sees your excitement, she'll lose all inclinations that "you are crazy" Pregnancy is very personal and as long as you are happy with your decision, then that is all that really matters.

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I am 42 and pg with my 4th. My husband and I planned this but I know how you feel about what others will think. I almost wish I could tell others this was an oops because I'm afraid they will really think I am crazy when they find out it was planned. Just know that you are not alone....and try not to give a c___p about what other people think!! I plan on telling people "me too" when they say "I'm sure glad it's you and not me."