Anxiety Ridden First Pregnancy
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Hi, I'm 34 years old and will deliver in March when I am 35. I was just wondering if anyone else is as anxiety ridden as I am. I have had many complications with this pregnancy like bleeding and hypertension, and the baby isn't moving as much as he used to. I've been to the doctor regularly and everything is normal, but I can't shake the feeling that something bad is going to happen. At every appointment he just tells me all of the worst possible outcomes and I spend every day in tears wondering if the baby is moving and okay, why it isn't as strong as it used to be, if the baby would survive now (I'm 23 weeks) and so on. I can't seem to concentrate. I feel like this is my only and last chance to have a baby. Does anyone else feel this way?
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Firstly - MANY CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR PREGNANCY!! Fantastic news - that is what you need to remember all the time. Secondly - I can totally relate to your worries and fears and I know I'm not the only one on this forum who feels the same way. All I can say to you is that, although it's relatively normal to feel like this, it's not good for your baby (or you for that matter) to worry unnecessarily and you said yourself that "everything is normal". Personally I think your doctor sounds like a complete arse if he's worrying you like that everytime you go to see him. I would change doctors if you can - even if it means travelling a bit further. Nothing is worth that kind of so-called "care". Lastly, we all really have very little control over how our pregnancies will progress. By that I mean that, of course, we eat well and stay fit but ultimately mother nature will decide whether the baby is well enough to come into this world. With this in mind, you must try and relax - be HAPPY that you are pregnant and enjoy it while you can. (Have a look at the November Moms board where MellyMel is expressing her sadness at no longer being pregnant even though she has a healthy and beautiful baby to hold! She misses it and I'm sure we will too when it comes to it.) Re. your last chance - I don't think so!!!!!!!!! There are plenty of women on this board who have successfully conceived well into their 40s! ------------------------- I hope I haven't sounded too harsh. I DO understand what you're feeling but I don't want you to miss out on the joy of being pregnant. It's more than likely that everything will be absolutely fine and then you'll wonder what you were so worried about. Change doctors and only worry when he or she tells you to! Big Hugs to you and your belly!!
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Its so important to try and enjoy this time!
You will only have your first child ONCE..its very unique time.
And after your healthy baby is born and youre ready, you CAN try to have another baby...its far from a last chance.
Im 42 and expecting my 2nd.
So relax, be happy all is well. And do something fun, like shop!
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Hi Sarah, I can read the anxiety and fear in your words! Since this is your first baby naturally you are concerned but believe me if this was your 2nd or 3rd PG your would be telling the doctors what to do!! With experience comes confidence! This is advice my mother gave me! Trust yourself and above all find another doctor if at all possible. Remember most OB/GYN's are concerned with malpractice so they just cover all the "possible outcomes." Your emotions are of utmost importance right now, just like the foods you eat! It's good to be informed but not fearful. This is not your "only and last chance"... this is just the beginning of a beautiful gift! Enjoy it!
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Thanks for the answers! I am mostly concerned because of all of the complications I've been having and I've been so worried that I haven't enjoyed the pregnancy much, which is a shame. I will try harder to just enjoy being pregnant. Thank you for the advice, and I will tell the doc he's scaring me!
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