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Cherie, like I said I never had the bloodwork. When you say with your fourth you did not have the bw just the nuchial and the result was the same does that mean the nuchial alone with the 4th put you in a high risk group?

With the 4th they didn't even suggest bw. The nuchal put me in the low risk with the 4th. It was around the same result as this time with just the nuchal and not putting the bw in the result.

Hi Carly67 - I don't come on here often anymore as my kids are past babies, I had them as 39 and 41. I'm 43. I think that is why this board is a bit under-represented on the encouraging stories - there happen more often than they are represented here - but they move past the pregnancy board.... My concerns are way beyond now... like "sibling rivalry" etc. LOL Life goes on... I would not mind having more kids, I have no doubts I would be able to, but it depends on other factors. I have a peek at times at this website with thousands of stories of pregnancy over 44 - there you'd find encouraging news - pregnancyover44y.blogspot.com

Thanks In The Woods. Ithunk you responded to another post of mine earlier in my pregnancy. it is encouraging. i lost my mother almost 2 yrs ago and would love to speak with her about this as she had me 2 weeks shy of 44 and I was her 5th, I will definitely check out that board as my husband and I could definitely use encouragement.

hi gals - i have been on the pregnantover35 thread (which is pretty positive and also supportive), and tonite was looking to see what else has shown up. i am 44, week 13, and this is my first. i have had an amazingly easy time so far, and am being positive about the next 6 months, even though i know there are hurdles ahead. biggest concern is the amnio, and i am interested to hear some of you not choosing to do it. many of my girlfriends had their first babies in their late 30s and early 40s, and they are all healthy and thriving. i can't wait to check out the over44 blog, too - thanks for sharing that!

carly, I am 42 and 29wks w/my second child. I too was on this board alot in the beginning and also on the first tri board and the problems board, all of which have very candid and sometimes scary info, but also very supportive. I think its very natural for woman in the early part of their pregnancy to have alot of doubts, worries, and scary thoughts.... As my pregnancy progressed I moved on to the 2nd and now 3rd tri board and by then most of us are pretty confident things will be okay...I also had 2 m/c btwn my DS4 and this one...so far so good. All I can say, is follow your heart, be thankful for what God has put before you AND if you get spooked by forums, then its best to stay away, at least until you are ready to face all the info, good, the bad and the ugly! :).

I agree many women have babies later in life and do great...most often they do. but life is what it is and bad things do happen. you can't change that. these forums ar a great place for women to turn who have things going on with their pregnancies. Since difficulties are often rare, they turn here and thats why it appears there are so many. I understand your fear when reading them, but I guess its just the way it is. maybe its best for you to stick to happier boards like the April one, so you don't worry too much. Life is what it is, and we can't change that, we can only change the way we handle our feelings. Congrats and best of luck deciding on your 5th.

Hi Carly...Yes, I agree with you %100 on this. I am 36 y/o and 27w with first baby and I came to these forums to get some insight to the various aches and pains of pregnancy as well as helpful insight. I too have noticed that there is a lot of negative stuff to read and it is quite scary. I too am an admitted worrier so I try really hard not to read the horror stories bc I know all I will do is absorb it and begin to fill myself with worry about having the same issues. I think that these forums are a great tool for ma__s dispersal of not only information and advice, but also a great place for women to vent and reach out to one another during one of the most stressful (but wonderful) times in our lives...BUT it is also a very dangerous place if you read too much of the negative stuff. I have found that I just skim the t_tles of these threads and try to find either what is oertinent for me or things that sound positive and try to just stay away from the scary stuff. I found that ivillage.com has a nice and positive forum for pregnant after 35....only a cpl horror stories and the rest inspiring. :-) Hope that helps and congrats on your new baby :-)

Nature of the beast. We are what we are-- over 35. None of us are guaranteed a risk free pregnancy but the medical evidence points to increased problems across the 35+ population of pregnant women. If an event occurs to you in the future that is similar to the depressing stories you rail about...we'll be here for you, we'll give you a shoulder to cry on when you are driven to the boards for comfort.

The word depressing is just so insulting when describing peoples ill fortune or Bad Luck on here, especially from one woman to another...one Mother to another. Misfortune may be more appropriate the word to describe what you read that upsets those of you who are more fortunate or NORMAL. To openely discuss on a 35 and over board how depressing it is to listen to another woman talk about the loss of her pregnancy or not being able to concieve. It is as if we do not want to have a trouble free journey in Motherhood, that we beckon the depressing journey instead. maybe the t_tle of this header should have been "anyone need stories of hope" and maybe describe your success to inspire those who need the hope and inspiration.

Denise, I never meant the t_tle to be insulting to anyone and I am aware that I am blessed to have had the children I do. I am an extremely compa__sionate person and if you read some of my replies to those having troubles you would see that. Again I am sorry if the post t_tle upset you and I will keep your alternate t_tles in mind if I ever post asimilar thread. I wysh you and all women the best in acheving a happy and healthy pregnancy and a happy and healthy baby.

Carly I don't know you and I do not doubt that you are a compa__sionate person, you are just a woman who has never experienced the loss of a pregnancy, baby or difficulty getting pregnant. You are lucky and you deserve everything you have as we all do in life. As you see you recieved many responses that agreed with you. I just felt it was in poor taste and I still do, I had to defend what I know from experience.

I have to add my 2cents as well...life does happen. I have enjoyed this forum for information and compa__sion, through 2 miscarriages, and 1 wonderful pregnancy. Now...I am talking with other moms I have met here and sharing good stories as well as "challenges" (my brother 41, his wife 41, now has newborn with DS). So...life does happen. With our latest challenge, it is scary to decide if we should try again (me at 37, my dh at 41).

Trying did your brother and sister-in-law know before birth that the child had ds? Is this their first child? How are they coping? I met a woman almost 44 yesterday in the store who just had her fourth child at 41 and fifth at 43 and I asked her about all of what we are discussing here. She said yes she felt she was scared out of her mind with the last 2 pregnancies and actually had a meltdown in labor with her 5th I believe. She did have 2 healthy children but she feels she was forced to have amnios even when she would not have aborted. We both connected in Target and could not stop talking but that is a positive story for us all who want to try again. As I told her the majority of ds babies are born to women in their 20s and the reason the statistics are so dreary for us over 35 is that you have to remember that not as many women are having babies over 35 as they are under 35 and so the results are not truly accurate when they tell you your risk by age.

Carly- Wow!! I had no idea that the majority of DS babies are born to women in their 20's. They really should put that info out there more so that those of us 35 and older can stop walking around worrying about that as much.