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I'm not speaking from experience (I have only one child, a 1 year old boy, I'm 40)but just want to give you some encouragement. You have legitimate concerns although the stress from the concerns might be exacerbated by hormones.No one is ever truly completely ready for a child because life throws curve b___s, I know it sounds corny and pat but it's true. Your concern over being a good mother shows that you have the desire and the will to be the best you can. I'm sure another baby will be trying and hard and you'll be tired alot and sometimes broke. But there isn't anything that can take the place of a child of your own and you know how that feels from having the first one.If your partner wants you to keep the baby you know you'll have support there and that's where it counts. Another baby will bring even more love into your world and if you had planned to have another, the age difference is nice, they will play together.You'll make it through and will be glad you did, I'm sure. Try to eat well (that's important for depression and your tiredness), protein and not too much sugar and drink lots of water. Good luck and keep us posted.

ALOT of it maybe hormones...I am not a "depressed" person, but betwn 6-15wks I was really down and doubtful. My fatigue was keeping me down ..the winter weather...i had the blahs. But around 15-16wks, I did start to feel more like myself...Im still quite tired, but my appet_te is normal and spring, thank GOD is right around the corner. Im very optimistic!!! I hope your cloud lifts as well!!

Hi WP, I am having my first ongoing preg at 35 (36 next month) and I have a total case of pregnancy brain, too. I have also been working on a 2nd degree, but I had to quit 2 out of 3 cla__ses because, like you, I can barely string 2 thoughts together. The way I look at it, I can always go back to school/work after the baby is born, but I can't take for granted that I can always have a baby later. It took 2 years and 3 IVF cycles to get this one. Even though I went through so much trouble to get preg, I felt depressed and screwed-up in my 1st trimester, when I realized I couldn't function like I normally do. The common portrayal of super moms in the media, who hold demanding jobs with ease while preg, is not realistic! At least not in my case and in the case of many women I know, especially those who are preg over 35. So, give yourself a break! You've got pregnancy brain, just like the rest of us. :) I'm sure you wlll be able to get everything back on track soon enough. Just wait tll your 2nd tri and you'll probably feel better physically and emotionally, although based on my experience I can't guarantee you'll be any less spaced-out.

Thanks to all who wrote. I was fortunate to have some time off work and I slept and slept and slept for days. I am beginning to come around to my old self. I don't remember being so cloudy in my first pregnancy, but I was probably too excited to notice (or care). I was particularly comforted when hearing that even after IVF cycles Sonia felt a bit dismayed too. Thanks again for the support and good luck to all of you.