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Debra - your story brought tears to my eyes. I undertand your sadness. I do have a 4 year old son and I'm trying for my second with fertility drugs. My husband didn't believe me when I told him I was running out of time. I will be 39 in October. It may sound crazy to you, but I cry almost everyday about having baby #2. I'm grateful for my son, of course, but I always planned on two. Have you sought professional help. I know how hard you are greiving. Have you thought about adoption, donor eggs, or becoming a foster mother? You have so much love in your heart to give a child. There is a way for you to have a child. I don't know your fertility issues, but there is always a way. There are so many children that need a good home. I'm encouraging you to seek help. Wanting to ONLY live to 50 brought tears to my eyes because your pain is so deep that it has caused you not to want to live. And 50 is soooo young. Please seek professional help. My husband's aunt could never have children and adopted a boy and a girl who are full grown and have familes of their own. There is a child out there waiting for your love and it doesn't matter that you did not give birth to them. The child will love you just the same. Don't let money stop you - there is always a way around that. I wish you the best and please keep us posted.

Sue Z. 38- How sad! All of the complaining that we do here seem silly and selfish after reading this post. Thank you for bringing it to my attention. Debra- Like Sue said, bearing a child is not your only alternative to being a mom. There are many other ways. Please consider what Sue saud and good luck to you. I will say a prayer for you.

Dev... you DO have a family, a husband and a stepson, who, in not too long a time, will bring home a grandbaby for you. You are a part of his life, and will be a part of the grandchilds life. My husband is the stepdad of my oldest children, and while they have a close relationship with their birthfather, they also love my husband, and he will be a grandpa to their children one day... you can offer to babysit them, love them, and be a wonderful part of their lives. Definately get counseling, there is a bright future for you. Wishing you the best, Kris

Where did you find the above thread post me the orginal Q. I would like to see it.

This is the orginal question that Debra was answered. I was very concerned for Debra after reading her post. I hope a lot of people respond to her cry for help.----------------------------------------------Name: Dev Title of Question: pregnant at 37 - boyfriend doesn't want it Question: Need your insights... I'm pregnant for the first time at 37. My 39-year-old live-in boyfriend (we've been together 1+ years) doesn't want it. He has been less than supportive and has said some incredibly hurtful things. My eyes have really been widened. Since this was a topic I brought up early on in dating because having a child is that improtant to me, I'm struggling with his reaction. I've considered terminating because I cannot imagine being tied to him for the rest of my life anymore. I would leave him immediately after termination. However, I don't know if I can actually go through with it because what if this is my only chance? I'm pretty sure that he would leave eventually after the child was born and I cannot imagine doing this alone. Help! Any insights would be greatly appreciated.

It sounds as though you are manic depressive or have some sort of mental condition. If you can't have kids, then it's not meant to be. Children deserve being brought into the world with TWO loving parents and especially ones who are stable and mentally sound. You had 20 years to marry, conceive and have a family. I don't know what prevented you from this, but you make your path in life. Don't beat yourself up about not having children. Children are not meant for everyone. It's in God's hands too. There are other ways to enjoy life. I know many people who are happily married without kids, or single women who travel and have careers and don't feel incomplete and cry all the time because they don't have a child. I think you should see a psychologist. There are self-esteem issues here.

yes kids need to parents BUT sometimes its NOT possible. My husband died leaving me with young children and i raised them on MY own with NO support and they are healthy, smart and fun people that i enjoy. THEY are my family and with the help of GOD we survived and with alot of laughter due to the fact that i trusted he would take care of us and he has. im so proud. i know its hard for people who raise kids alone but it is possible and having a selfish man who doesnt want his kids doesnt deserve them and they are better off with out him.

Lee? What are you doing on pregnancy forums. Are you even pregnant right now?