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I just posted a thread called Not a pg Q but need to ASK today in general pregnancy questions . I do understand how you feel and the emotions which go with our bodies getting old. Sorry I can't help.

MY FSH IS 40 AND I AM 39 YEARS OLD, SOMETIMES 20 AND AT 36 FSH WAS 70 AND GUESS WHAT I HAD A BABY, NEVER GIVE UP TRY SOY I THINK IT HELPED ME

Kim - were you going through infertility treatments? I'm starting my 2nd cycle with injectables and IUI.

Im 43 with an hfs level of 5. They say that is excellent for my age. I am a newlywed and neither one of us have kids. We have only been trying a few cycles and we have been urged to go to Invitro. I am taking folliun and meopur now. But the odds say we have only a 7% chance at delivering a baby. This scares me! I keep telling myself not to belive those statistics because they are made up of alot of 40is women who have had infertility for years. I have no problem but a ticking clock- no signs of fertility problems and not enough time having unprotected s_x to know if I am fertile. I am praying for luck......

I have a friend who had an fsh level of 9 and she is 37. She had fertility drugs and an iui and is pregant with twins. This was her 8th IUI, but it is worth it. Keep trying. Never give up hope as long as you are still producing eggs. Are you doing Invitro? They say that is our best chance. Im 43 with a lower FSH- but they say that might not help much. The quality of the eggs are the most important thing. I won't know if the quality of my eggs are good until the pregancy test. I wish you the best. I know how it is to feel you may have waited too long. But it aint over til it's over...

I'm almost 40, no kids yet. ttc since jan and a newlywed. My fsh is 12.36 and was told today by the clinic anything 14 and under is doc_mented as an acceptable range. GOOD NEWS is my doctor at the clinic has just read this past week a new study that fsh may not matter as much as has been thought in the past. Hope this sets your mind of ease.

Don't worry about your FSH level. We had miscarried 10/04 and had to wait 3 months before trying again. We started using an ovulation monitor and then after I turned 40 in May I decided to pursue the invitro. I was told I had an FSH of 14 and that I might not even be a candidate. To come back the following month for another day 3 test. I was devastated to think I wouldn't even qualify. My DH and I were so upset we started bikeriding every night after work just to try to keep our minds off of it. I started acupuncture and then we decided to get rid of the ovualtion kit and just do it 2 times a day from day 12 to day 18. We were do to go back for the another FSH test on the 15th but I never got Aunt Flo. Instead I took a pregnancy test and viola we were pregnant. I was happy to report to that dr. (who was so cruel) for a sonogram and we had a heart beat. Today I am 19 weeks and 1 day pregnant. I know how hard it is, even more so 'cause this is my first and we're newlyweds but we were together a long time before marrying and I was thinking the same as you. Why did we wait and now look, etc. etc. But don't be discouraged try to distract yourself with another activity that makes you feel good. It takes the pressure off and who knows you could end up like us after a short while. Good luck and baby dust to you.

http://dev.cogenttechnology.com/epl/csovucalcresult.html Go to this website to determine the 5 days you ovulate. I have a 6 yr old daughter I had when I was 39. I am now 45 and I begged my husband since before she was 2 to get pregnant again as I was running out of time. He wouldn't cooperate until I threatened to leave him. That was 21/2 years ago and we've been having sx maybe 1-2 times during ovulation the mnths. he'll do it. It hasn't worked. You must have more sx. Every 2nd day during 5 day period. I don't care how forced it is! I just came from my 1st and last appt. w/ a Fertility Specialist and she basically said it was too late for me. She said due to my age, I had a 1-2% chance of getting pregnant and did not offer any magic pill. Thank god we each have our one child. I am so sad she's going to be alone, but I came away from the appt. today sad but determined to love her more than ever. Good Luck...and get to 'bed'!!!

Were you upset with your husband for not listenting to you? I think that that is the worst thing about my situtation. My husband just blew me off as if he knew anything about a women's body. It was the way he handled it. What I said had no value and he controlled the entire thing. So there are other issues going on in my life. One of the most important things in my life is now not possible at all because my husband chose to ignore me and give me worthless excuses for not having a second child. It has just taken the life out of me. I haven't been the same since March when I was told by my doctor that I waited too long. If only my husband cared enough about me. I had fertility problems to begin with (ANA). He didn't think it was that big of a deal. I told him over and over again I was too high risk and too scare to wait, and that I couldn't take adding one more fertility problem. It was all about what he wanted. This will haunt me forever and I can't ever see myself forgiving him for it either. This wasn't about the baby, it was about control.

I think about my unborn 2nd child every day...and every day I blame my husband. I try not to hate him, but every time I pa__s a Maternity Clothing Store (everyday on my way to work) I get a tear in my eye and I think of what he denied my daughter and I. The pure joy of being pregnant, the sibling my girl will never have. I see his sneering face when I cried and begged for another baby when she was 18 mnths. I know I have to get rid of the hate that is eating me up, but with every month that pa__ses and I get my period, it only increases. I know I need help and this is no helping you. At my appt. w/ the Fert. Specialist, she said for Artificial Insemination, my husband would have to mast. for 2 days before. I didn't even ask him because of his att_tude. It seems your husband was willing as you stated you had an IUI and will be having another. I pray it works for you so you do not live with the resentment I have. I guess I need to talk to Dr. Phil!! (ha, ha) I don't know if I'll ever get over this and be happy with my husband. I will pray for you as it's all I have for either of us. Sorry this is such a downer, but I want you to know I feel for you. Try to have a Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays. I'm just going to make it as pleasant as possible for my daughter. I hope you get your gift from God as the best Christmas Present ever!

Finally, I found someone that is in exactly the same boat as I am. My husband and I are in marriage counseling right now. In the midst of fertility problems he has been verbally and emotionally abusive to me for the past 6 years and it finally took it's toal on our marriage. The abuse started slowly and got worse, and I disconnected my emotions to survive. It's a normal reaction to emotional abuse. I blame him for my fertility problems because he controlled the whole thing. He would tell me if I didn't start working out we weren't going to have another baby. He said because we lived in an apartment there was no room for another baby (he couldn't find a house that suited him so we lived in an apartment for 6 years and finally I told him my son and I were leaving by last summer if we didn't move so now we have a house). If he really cared about me he would have cared enough to listen to what I told him about my fertility. I wasn't pulling the information out of thin air. I told him at 35 you have to hurry! But it was all about what he wanted. I feel he fought me just because it meant so much to me, and he could control it. Because really, there was no reason not have have another baby. I feel I was toyed with in the worst of ways. All my life I wanted 2 children and I wanted them close together. My brother and I are 4 years apart and I always hated the age difference and thought it was too much. Now I know it really never mattered what I wanted because it never does matter what I want. He has always controlled every big decision in our marriage. He told our counselor that he has no interest in adoption. Well, if that is the only way I can have another child and give my son a little sister then that's what I want to do. I feel I'm making the best out of this tragedy. If I could give a little girl a mommy she would otherwise never have then I feel that is a close second. It's not like I didn't tell my husband hundrends of times that we can't wait. I told him it's harder to get pregnant after 35, I already had infertiltiy problems and I couldn't risk taking on any more (something he should have cared about), and as women gets older their egg quality goes down. He didn't take one word I said serious. Not a question, nothing. I might as well have talked to the wall. I remember everything I said to him like it was yesterday. I have cried so much and lost a ton of sleep about this. I haven't been the same since I was told by my RE that my chances were slim of having children without fert_tlity drugs and that's even if they worked. This has taken the life out of me. It's not about the infertility so much as it's about the fact that the person who is suppose to love and care about me the most didn't care enough about me to listen to me, and minimized my other fertility problems that were do to age (ANA disorder). He just didn't care. So I don't know if we are going to make it. He has not even come to the realization that his verbal and emotional abuse has hurt me deeply. So deeply I disconnected myself from him. After all of our counseling he has never said "I had no idea I was hurting you so much and I'm so sorry." Believe me, he needs me more than I need him. My husband's employment history sad and he's out of work again. I've been in my career for 12 steady years. So as far as getting a little present on Christmas is highly, highly unlikely. I'm upset beyond words about my 2nd child. If my husband only cared that much about me I wouldn't be in this position. My son is 4 and should have a little brother or sister right now. My son asks me almost every single day for a brother or a sister. It totally breaks my heart. I just say I know honey and I want you to have a brother or sister too. I say to him "Why don't you tell your father that" He says no, I tell you. Please keep in touch.