Hopeful Father Seeking Advice
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Hi everyone. I just turned 31 earlier this month. I am completely in love with my bride who turned 35 in March. We are getting married on July 28th, 2007.
My fiance and I are going to start trying in July of this year. She has been taking folic acid and materna for some time. We are hoping to have two childern. I know that time is ticking but am very hopeful and have educated myself as much as possible.
I am extremely active and have had a physical completed with good results. My fiance is not as active but naturally lean. She does play sports in the summer and is starting to excercise more regularly.
She has also never been on birth control.
She is a vegetarian but eats seafood. I was very impressed with the candid and encouraging messages left on this site. I am hoping someone may be able to give me some advice on any precautions to take.
Also ,I would appreciate any experiences others can relate to let us know that we have hope to draw from. I know that I may appear a bit over eager to some, but I just want to do everything I can to ensure a bright future for my family. Thanks.
Any advice that would be provided would be greatly appreciated.
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Dude you guys should have NO difficulty. 35 and 31 are NOT old! My husband had a vasectomy leftover from his first marriage that was 10 years out. He got it reversed and I have been pregnant twice. One early m/c last summer but now am currently 22 weeks. We both turned 40 in May and the odds for successful pregnancy in a couple with V-reversal with the female being over age 35 is only about 30%. So....some odds there but we have apparently prevailed thus far. From your description the both of you sound very healthy and should run into few problems becoming pregnant. Yes even twice. Just my opinion. You have a lot to look forward to! Don't think otherwise regardless of what ppl tell you! And I am also a registered nurse so I have seen my share. Good luck
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Just fyi the reversal only happened 1/06 and I got pregnanct almost the first time we had s_x. Took a little while for the second pregnancy to happen...but there was a great deal of stress in our lives and we were not really having much in the way of relations either. Still...twice in 9 mos is very good. Your odds should even be better!
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Thanks so much docbytch. I appreciate your encouragment. With some of the stuff you hear from people who may not be educated on the subject you begin to have worries. However, I was glad to hear such postive thoughts from someone in the medical field who has is expecting a newborn. Congratulations on your pregnacy. My fiance and I both wish you and your family the best of luck. Take care and thanks agian !
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You are still very young. my husband will turn 47 this september. I am 26 and we are 31 weeks pregnant. Most of your future will probably depend on your wife's health. But as long as she has regular period you shouldn't have problems. Timing and patience is important as well. And of course your encouragement if it doesn't go just like you want it. Many women usually blame themselves for not being able to get pregnant. Looks like you are a very nice man and I wish you and your wife good luck.
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Paul,
You two should have no problems. Your wife is still young, even if she is considered of advance maternal age (I hate that term). I had my first child at 39 and am trying for a second now. Best wishes!
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Thanks Kristina and Karyn for your encouraging insight. I feel a lot better about the journey ahead after hearing about your successess. Kristina, good luck with your pregnancy. I am sure you will be overjoyed with your newborn!Karyn, congratulations on having your first child ! I am sure you will be excited when you are expecting your second child. Thanks to both of you for sharing your experiences. They have brightned my day.
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As she is of the "magical age of 35", when "statistics" change...I would make sure you hook up with a good OB/GYN early, make sure they know your concerns. They can test her progesterone levels and things like that and give recommendations. It is not UNCOMMON to have low progesterone which is needed during the 1st trimester, until baby makes its own.
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