How To Help Husband With Birth
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My DH is thrilled we are preggers with our first child, but he has a fear of hospitals. Not only that, the sight of his own blood makes him faint. He is very supportive and waits on me hand and foot, but is not thrilled to be in the same roomwith me when I go into labor. He says it would be too painful for him to see me in pain and he just may faint! Any advice to help him overcome his fears? I really would like him to be there.
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Well...umm...my first husband had that same problem. He literally did faint when they pulled out the needle for my epidural. Just make sure he has some healthy snacks (and peanut b___ter and jelly sandwich on wheat bread is good...) Have a comfy chair for him, have him watch some birth DVD's so he will at least know what to "maybe" expect. He really doesn't have a choice - it is his baby and he has to be there, right? SHEEESH...MEN....(and I mean that in the very nicest of ways). Best wishes for a healthy pregnancy and birth!
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I agree with Cindy - point out although you dont want to go through labor, you dont have much choice, but are taking every step to make it as bearable as possible, and it WILL be worth it when that newborn child is placed in your arms, and he will MISS THAT MOMENT FOREVER if he takes the easy way out and sits it out in the waiting room. That first bond is unbelievable, and the love that flows from that moment will NEVER LEAVE YOU. He can sit in the corner and avoid looking at the "area" - as far as your labor pains - it is not fair to leave you vulnerable and without his support during that time. Rea__sure him it's both necessary and worth it... best of luck.
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This is going to sound mad but I would prefer my partner to leave me to it. We are expecting our 1st baby in a few days and I am not looking forward to the delivery one bit. It's not the pain that concerns me esp since 98.8% of women in labor have epidurals. It's the whole undignified process that gets me. I have tried to overcome this by watching births on Discovery Health but it has not helped. Anyway, back to your dilema! Many women say they their focus is so internal during the birth that it's just the baby and themselves that they think about. I imagine you'll have enough to handle without worrying about how DH is coping! I just hope I can somehow apply my this to my own concerns! Best of luck x
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You are right about birth process being internal, but at the moment of birth, right after the child is born - the first cry and the first moments of that baby's life - I immediately looked to my husband and saw the pride and grat_tude and joy in his eyes, and cant imagine not having him there for the experience. Your spouse will be missing sooooo much.
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