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I am sorry for the situation you are in right now. After 6 months of marriage and he is acting like this?? Plus the fact that you have just been through a miscarriage just recently . This quite disturbing. He does not seem like the type of man that would get into deep conversations about the realationship either..but have you flat out asked him what the reasoning behind his actions are? Frankly, in my opinion there could be no excuse for the bad behavior. You seem like a lovely person, and do not deserve this treatment. He needs professional help..and so do you to put up with this type of abuse. I feel for you my friend...keep yourself busy..take care of yourself physically and mentally..and surround yourself with positive people like friends or family who will be supportive. Re-evaluate your own goals..you do not deserve this treatment and i think you should insist you will not put up with it either. You have to lay down to get walked on...Be strong..we are here for you..take care of number 1 and that is you..and hopefully he will turn his behavior around and smarten up otherwise i think you have other options like your health to take care of. Best of luck and keep your head up. You can do it! XO Kristin

Hi Kristin, I feel very happy to hear from you. I don't really have friends here to talk to,as I am not living in England very long. Me and my husband met in Grenada and six months after he sent for me.April this year is going to be 2 years now I am living in London. I ask him what have I done for him to act this way and he cannot give me an answer. You are right he does not like to go into deep conversations most of the time. All I want is to be a good and loving wife to him,and he does not appreciate that. I am taking care of myself anyway. Thank you.

Dear HomeGirl, I'm happy if I can be just a grain of help for you. I am glad you are taking care of yourself ..I hear your pain..but I sense your strength. Even if you can join a small group of some sort to get your mind off of this situation and build your self esteem back. ie. a health club, a dance cla__s, a reading group, a craft cla__s) whatever your interests may be...there are also groups for women to speak about miscarriage and things like that. You need more support right now..especially when your hormones have been all over the place. It seems he may be struggling with his own demons like pressure from work, or the pressures of a new marriage, or the miscarriage itself.. however there is no excuse for the way he has treated you. Many other men would e very caring a sweet in these situations. I wish you all the strength to move forward and do not let your husband weigh down your spirit. For a man that won't speak about what is wrong then how are we to know. Never blame yourself you are great..he just better realize it soon or he is going to lose a good person like yourself!!! Wishing you all the best..if you need advice I will be here..P.S. I don't know everything but I do know when someone is not being treated the way they deserve!! XO Kristin

Hi Kristin,things are a little bit better.On weekend he tells me to get ready to go and do the shopping.If I ask him to go any where with me, he goes,but that's just about it. We don't have no physical contact,and if I try to hug him, he pushes me away. I look at him all the time and he ask me why am I looking at him. I want us to get some councelling, but I am scared to tell him. He knows that I told his brother and sister-in-law about his behaviour and he was very upset with me for doing so and he still is because when I hug him, he told me I went and bad mouth him, and now the are against him.They talked to him about it and he told me I did not have to tell anybody,and that if I have aproblem I should come to him.I told him that I cannot talk to him so I have to talk to someone. I did not go to a stranger anyway.I am hoping that he would get better and agree to go councelling. Something is keeping him from reaching out to me as he should. We used to be really close to each other ,and I really do miss that.

Hi Homegirl: I'm not a professional but just hope to help: How is asking him to go to counseling with you ? His reaction may just be guilt and grief he has for the baby ... I hope that is the reason. I'm sorry for your loss !