It S All So Sad To Me

9 Replies
:o( - September 21

Babies are not disposable. I keep seeing posts where women say they have already aborted 2, 3, or more pregnancies for one reason or another. Usually because its just an inconvenience, or because a boyfriend told them to. Ladies, how about getting your tubes tied instead of continuing to abort babies? It infuriates me how casually its talked about, like "oh well, I wasn't attached to it anyway". That's not an excuse. If you were more responsible with your s_xual behavior, you wouldn't keep getting pregnant in the first place. Stop letting your bfs control your lives and decisions, its your body after all. It might be just a little more understandable if these were husbands you were in conflict with, but bfs come and go and have no real comittments holding them there no matter what you decide. So many couples try to get pregnant and want children but have no such luck, while others are throwing them away like yesterday's newspaper. It's all so sad to me. Babies are gifts and treasures, and opportunities to experience such a more meaningful, richer life watching them grow and guiding them along the way. Please stop being irresponsible and being so careless and unconcerned about aborting one after the other. Get yourself fixed, or stop getting into the situation to begin with. Think about it.

 

to To lamenter - September 22

I agree with you except for the part about get a life and loser because I don't think we should be beating people down for their heartbreak .

 

MommyAgain - September 22

I don't understand why "To lamenter" is so offended and lashing out at the poster. She has a right to her opinion and doesn't seem to be attacking anyone. She never states that she is perfect, just how this subject makes her feel. I think she makes a good point, and honestly some of the carefree att_tudes of these people having numerous abortions bothers me as well. Maybe others agree too, but don't wish to be attacked over it by the likes of "To lamenter".

 

Lisa - September 23

I agree with the original post, so flame me if you want to. I would like to offer another suggestion. Before you become freely involved with a BF, pregnancy and babies should be discussed at length. Then you would know how he felt and could take precautions not to get pregnant. Either partner can get tubes tied, which can be reversed later, and either partner or both can use birth control. Why create a problem that can easily be prevented? It really is about being responsible, especially if you know your partner doesn't want children to start with.

 

Sorry for To lamenter - September 23

Sure we are not perfect ...... Perhaps you will think otherwise if you are trying to get pregnant and can't .... multiple abortions will affect your uterus lining. By the way, every baby is god sent ..! Have you had a miscarriage .... that's a thought for you.

 

- - September 23

Everyone is ent_tled to their own opinion. It is not the pregnant person's fault that other women are unable to conceive. Quite frankly, many of these "mothers" who abort would NOT have looked at the babies as bringing a richer, more meaningful life and probably would not be very good at guiding them along the way. Their body, their (poor) choice. It is not their responsibility to give someone else a baby.

 

Jasmine - September 23

Hey ladies we have come a long way to get the choice to be able to choose!! I really think lamenter is exagerating when she says she sees many women being casual about abortion. There may be a handful but that is it, that are carefree about abortion. Thankfully we have the choice to do what we need to do when the time comes. Many women who have abortions do so with putting in a lot of thought and deciding what is best for them and the people in their lives. The pro-lifers think that when a woman get an abortion they are partying right after. This is a life decision that these women make and probably do regret down the line. We should be lucky we have the choice and to all you pro-lifers out there, try and think as if the shoe was on the other foot. Yes we are all pregnant right now and happy about it but there are many reasons why someone might opt for an abortion. I am a pro-choice person and think that they should put more restrictions on far into the pregnancy can one abort. I think past 10 weeks is too long but again we all have our opinions. Please keep in mind, it is a very few that actually have no remorse about it.

 

Susan - September 23

I think the underlying point in all this is being responsible enough not to get pregnant time and time again if you have no desire or intentions to have a baby, and to know your partner well enough to know where he stands on the issue before letting a pregnancy happen. Whether you are pro choice or not, responsibility should come first. There's no reason for a woman to have one abortion after another when its so easy to keep from getting pregnant in the first place. For the record, I am pro choice to an extent. There are some circ_mstances such as rape, or life or death situations for either the mother or baby. I do not think having a choice is an excuse for irresponsible behavior and to terminate time after time.

 

Bonnie - September 23

Well put Jasmine. I get so sick of people acting like some use abortion as birth control. Please. Anyone have any kind of clue what abortion costs? It's a lot mroe than a condem. Don't get me wrong, plenty of people are irresponsible and don't use protection. Then again, there are many "idiots" in the world and I generally ignore them. People to stupid to use protection are liable to find themselves in a much worse state with all the diseases you can get........As for telling people to be responsible and use birth control, birth control is not 100% effective. I became pregnant at 18 due to a broken condem. And I know of course there are extremists out there who will say, "You're old enough to have s_x, you're old enough to be a mother." But let's have a dose of reality, how many 18 year-olds do you expect to be that virgins. I take my hat off to anyone who is willing to wait for marriage, but do I really expect every 18 year-old to abstain? Umm, no. Do I regret that I had an abortion? No way! Best decision I ever made...it was also the hardest decision I ever made. But here I am now with a very wanted baby and very happy in my life. In my own opinion, I also agree that abortion should have tighter regulations. I do not agree with second trimester abortions. But you know what? That's just my opinion, and I do not make the law. This topic has been fought in court and decided. As for people who are pro-life...Hey, I totally respect your opinion! We are all ent_tled to them. But keep in mind ladies, this forum is here for support. There is nothing stating we cannot voice our opinions and we do not always agree with each other. But to be such an extremist that you have to attack someone for their choice (and they LEGALLY have a RIGHT to that choice) and call them a murderer and some of the other horrid things I've read on here is totally wrong. It is one thing to tell someone you are against abortion and to offer support and alternative options, it is another to be abusive. It's a shame people aren't forced to register for these forums.

 

sm - September 27

I can't say i agree with the original post but one thing i have come across time and time again is 'my boyfriend wants me to do it'. This is just beyond me, i think a boyfriend or husband is there to support. If your boyfriend wants you to rob a bank or jump off a cliff, are women going to do it? Do these men think their partners are incapable of making a decision without their permission? Pro abortion people say it is the 'womans body and her right to make the decision'.... but who is really making the decision? If a woman wants to have a child then her partner should support. If he is deadset against it there are condoms or a vasectomy. Even the stupidest of men realises that unprotectected s_x can equal pregnancy, they have NO excuse to pressure someone into abortion. I am not for or against abortion, just wish it did not exist full stop.

 

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