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At your age, I say go for it. I know it's not the ideal situation, but it's like you said, you think it may be the only opportunity you'll have. At my age (37) if I got pregnant by accident etc....I would choose to keep it too. Don't expect the father to be happy about it, or to even be around, that way you won't get disappointed if you really do end up going it alone. Do this for you, not to snag him. If this is something you think will tie the father to you, then you are doing it for the wrong reasons. I wish you the best and good luck!

Thank you for your post Tracy. I am thinking along the same lines. I know he won't be happy about it and I have no unrealistic expectations. I would never get pregnant to tie someone to me. I am an honest person and would never want someone to be with me on those terms.

I didn't think you would, I just wanted to put that out there because sometimes we women tend to think that we can make someone love us, etc.... I got PG once and wanted the baby so badly, but truth be told, my boyfriend wanted nothing to do with fatherhood at that time. I had a choice. I could've had the baby depite his wishes and done it without him, or I could have an abortion and stay with him. I chose the abortion, and we ended up breaking up anyway 6 months later. My point is, that if anything like that happened to me now, at this age, I would have the baby regardless of what any man decides. I wish you tons of luck, and hope you are pregnant because it really is a wonderful thing. You will enjoy the entire process.

Me too! I'm 36, and got pregnant the first weekend I was with a guy who lives on the other side of the Atlantic. He is fairly positive about the prospect of having a baby, but it's not real to him yet. I told my parents last week (at about 10 weeks) and I think it will be a long time before he tells his family. I figure, what the heck, how many more chances am I going to get? It's a bonus that the relationship with the guy is turning out to be very nice (though very long-distance) so far.

hi janey - my best girlfriend was in a similar situation to yours at 40, had the baby who is now a beautiful 5-year-old. her parents are aging, so she doesn't get much real help from them any more, but has a good network of neighbors and friends who help her out when she has to work late or work weekends. don't miss out on this chance to have a child, you don't know when it will come again. i am 44 and finally pg with my first, am currently living an ocean apart from my boyfriend, so am going through much alone as well. hang in there, and know that there will be people who will step up to the plate and be there for you.

jazzbunny, i would like to be pg but am having problems getting af. I just turned 43 on Sat., any words of wisdom for us older women? What is your secret? lol Janey I'm will all the other women. Don't have any regrets, just enjo your pg and congratulations...Sam

hi!! i may be in the same situation, i too am 36 3 weeks late, on day 5 6 and 7 late i had that pink spotting that turned to brown my b___bs are killing me have had some nausea andi have the cramps that are hitting like af then they go away, have left side pain then sometimes right side pain. mostly left though. im very tired too. and moody. i had a neg blood and urine test, so i dont know what the heck is going on. i am single too, the possible father is a jerk and acted bad when i said i was late at7 weeks, i wont allow him to be in my life if i am. not that he would want to anyway. but i know what you are going through.

At Your Age I second "Tracy88" comment, go for it. I got pregnant at 35 this past December and I had a Molar Pregnancy it was very sad. Enjoy your pregnancy you might not get another chance. Children are the joy of the world and this child will change your ways. Its not easy being by yourself but you will do fine. Before this relationship I have I was alone with three kids and having two jobs not having enough time to spend with them. Nothing is easy in this world and the only thing thats yours forever are your kids. God has blessed you for a reason. Keep the baby. Happy Mothers day Sweety !