TTC 37 Yrs Old No Luck Help
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Hi Everyone,
I am new to this forum - found you all today. Here's my situation.
I am 37 yrs old, turning 38 in a few months. I have been TTC for 5 months now. I know that's not long, but our TTC journey has been difficult and will continue to be. The reasons for that are that I am in the military and was deployed and returned home 5 months ago. Now, my husband is moving away as his job is transferring him. I will do my best to try to visit during optimum ovulation times, but I won't be moving with him until I retire in about another year.
I have a 2 year old, thank goodness, so I know pregnancy was at one time possible and viable. My husband's sperm test came back normal.
This past month I took Clomid and have had some strange symptoms since then. I am hoping you all can chime in on these:
Clomid was taken cd5-9, my period is normally 22 days. I did not start testing for ovulation until day 11 (screwed that up, I think). Anywho, after 7 days of testing, I had no indication of ovulation. Could I have ovulated earlier that day 11? Around cd15 I developed cramps. On cd 16, I also developed a backache. This continued for 2 days and on cd18, in addition to cramps and a backache, I also developed gassiness and bloating. Cd19 and cd20 (today) I have had a milder backache and the cramps have diminished. I took a HPT on Cd17 and it was negative. Now, that may have been entirely too early to detect any HCG, but now at cd20, I am fearful to test again. I want to badly to be pregnant that I'd rather live with the possibilty that I may be, rather than face the reality that I'm not. Sound silly?
As far as symptoms, I did not experience any of these (the cramping, bloating, gassiness) with my first pregnancy except I did have an excruciating backache within the first couple weeks. This recent backache was very painful, but it has pretty much gone away whereas my pregnancy backache did not.
Could I be pregnant? Could I be experiencing side effects of Clomid? Could I have had that hyper ovarian condition? I would talk to my ER or OB, but I don't have one right now (don't ask - long story, except to say that I've been told Fertility consults and pregnancy aren't exactly conducive to the army's mission). I've given almost 19 years to the military and do not believe I should have to forgo or foresake a child due to the mission. I'm retiring soon and won't be redeploying anyway. Nonetheless, I was able to squeeze a consult out of my PCM and hopefully, they will approve my request - that is still up in the air right now.
LONG story, I know, but needed to vent and would love to hear everyone's advice and experience.
Thanks so much!
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Reddackel - Welcome to the group. I am 41 and I have been trying now for 28 months to have my last child and so far no luck. I am going to be having the laparocopy and hystecopy surgery done on Nov 24 to see what is going on. Wow you have short cycles. I think I would wait a few more days and then retest. Don't give up yet. How far away will your dh be moving? Hang in there and don't give up. How often did you bd this time? Krissy
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Krissy,
Hi! Wishing you goo dluck on your surgery and that you will be given some answers! Sending hopeful thoughts your way!
As far as my cycles, they've only been this short (22 days) for about 4 months. Not sure what's going on there. Hopefully, if my consult gets approved, I'll be able to investigate it more. Hubby is moving about 14 hours away - no such luck, right! We'll work it out though. Where there is a will, there is a way. By the way, you asked how often I "bd". Is that bleed? If so, it is usually about 4 days.
All the best and good luck! You hang in there, too!
Kris
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Reddackel - How are you doing? Thank you for wishing me luck I just be so glad when the day come so I can get it over with and find out what is wrong.
I hope you can get your consult approved and they can tell you what is up with you have short cycles. Wow 14 hours away but you are right you all can work it out and make it work us girls always do. bd means baby dancing sorry AF means your period. Talk to you soon. Krissy
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Krissy, thanks for the "bd" explanation,,haha. I get it now! Funny. Well, hubby and I did the bd starting on day 11 through 19 every other day. We also bd'd on 5 or 7, too. So.....who knows! I'm crossing my fingers. Keep in touch!
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