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You wanted the child? You were going to do everyhting it takes to have one? THIS is what it takes. Tough? You bet! But were you going to be gentle with her only if she is as peaceful as a lamb??? Get your b___t back home and be as patient with her as you can. She needs it EXACTLY at this time. It's hard for her to deal with hormones, plus you, the closest friend, desert her (even if it's only emotionally). WTF???

What happened to the kind, compa__sionate person who was so concerned about wife being so very sick and tired all the time just a few days ago? You yourself said it on your previous post, she's very sick and has no energy. That can make a person cranky, not to mention the hormones are fluctuating wildly in the first trimester. Be extremely patient. I know that pregnancy is not easy on the significant other either and it's natural for you to want to vent, but don't lose your cool, especially not in front of her, it's nowhere near as difficult on you as it is on your wife. You're not allowed to have any mood swings right now because someone has to remain cool headed, calm and stable and it sure as heck is not going to be your pregnant wife. The way I see it, the two of you made a choice to conceive a child together so you both need to put up with all the c___p that goes along wtih it. She's putting up with tiredness, nausea, sickness, possibly vomiting, diarrhea, indigestion dizziness and mood swings oh and of course havinge her belly and b___bs and pelvis sore and stretched out. You have it easy compared to her, you just need to put up with the emotional stuff the way she has to put up with the emotional AND physical effects. She has no choice in walking away from the pregnancy and it would be totally unfair for you to walk away when you have it so much easier than she does. Grin and bear it and lose the thin skin!! You can't take things too personally if you know that it's her hormones causing her to act out. Her energy should come back and her hormones will get a little more in balance in a month or so. Even though she may seem like a demon or a monster right now, she's totally vulnerable and she really needs you to stick beside her right now.

Very diplomatically said, Perl. I just hit it on the head LOL Soooo hypocritical it is to promise "in sickness and in health, for better or for worse", oh I am such concerned dad-to-be and the next thing "What's wrong with her?????"

OH and GIRLS...Let's try and cut Dad to be here some slack too...remember this is all new to him and I bet he feels totally out of control too. My guess is he has seen all the women who gush and are miss rosey pants pregnant and now here is his wife Sybil not acting as expected or a__sumed. My DH was pretty p__sed off at me for not being ecstatic that he was able to hit the bullseye after all those years of trying. He couldn;t understand my fears and panic and woe either...I ended up not talking to him about them and went to a counselor and voiced by concerns...I was also even thinking about having a secret termination and claiming m/c I was so bad!

Sorry