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A week ago we found out about our unplanned pregnancy between my partner and I. The situation has turned both our lives around. Specially hers she already has an 8 year old son. We are both scared, lost and confused and those are just a few words to describe our emotions and we need advice on how to deal with this. Our relationship is good, however, we hardly know eachother. we met last summer and only have hung out about a dozen times that makes it even harder. Our views on whether to abort, adopt or keep the child are very difficult at the time. what advice can you give us?
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Hi Turkey,
I am currently dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and I will be 40 this year. My first unplanned pregnancy was with my husband of ten years 14 years ago. I had only known him for 3 months when we found out. First, is she a good mother and does she want to have this baby? My husband-boyfriend at the time was terrified and insisted that if I had it he would leave. Once he saw our son who is now 14 he has never left my side. Now our 14 year old is truly his best friend.
I know its a hard decision but allow her to make it and let her know that you will support her either way. Of course you will have to let her know what you are feeling and thinking and leaning towards ,but always acknowledge that this is her decision since it is her body. If she appears to be a good mother, at least you know that if she were to have it that your child will be taken care of too. Give her space and be supportive. Good luck!
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I think it's cool you're here asking for advice, turkey. I don't have any to give, but what feels right for you? Sometimes when you ask for advice, you know what you want to do and are just looking for permission...
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