Who S Last Name Should My Baby Have
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I am 38 and I have 2 children from my previous marriage in which I still share the same last name with. I have found myself pregnant with a man I've been seeing. He is gladly acknowledging that the baby is his, however, neither one of us want to get married and we even live in seperate cities. I will be raising this child pretty much by myself. Should I give my child my maiden name? Or if the father insists, should the baby rightfully have his name?
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 | L - March 17 |
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There is no right or wrong answer to your question. The baby can have either your last name or its father's last name. In many cultures the child is given the mother's last name and for situations like your, it may make more sense for your child to share your last name. Since you live in separate cities and have no plans to cohabitate, it sounds like you'll be the primary care provider for your child and that your child will spend more time with you than its father. As your child ages, s/he might feel "different" or "left out" because 3 other people share a last name that is different from his/her own. With woman becoming older moms, not changing their names at marriage, etc, its actually pretty common for a baby to be given its mother's last name and not its fathers last name. In my own crowd, I'd say 50% of my friend's children have their mother's last name and not their father's.
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If not married, baby should have the mothers last name.....but the decision is up to you. Since you , your other children and the new baby will be living together, I think it fair to all have the same name.
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Thank you so much for ya'lls input. I am definately leaning toward giving my baby my maiden name. Either way, the baby will not have the same last name as me or my other children (unless I go back to my maiden name) but in my situation I think it makes more sence then for the baby to have his/her's father's name.
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