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Don't be ashamed.... they should be ashamed... your feelings are most likely caused by hormones... you and your husband are having a baby together... he is happy and proud, you are too, but are just letting other peoples petty and negative sayings get to you. Hold your chin up and show them you have nothing to be ashamed of.... the best defensive is a good offense... so let them see they can't get to you.. I am 41 and having my 5th... and me and my bf are very happy.... and if anyone every said those things to me, I would just smile more broader and rub my belly... LOL Hugs

I am sorry you have had to hear such negative comments. Maybe those people are jealous of you. More and more women are having babies over the age of 35. I am one of them. I am 37 and 18 weeks pregnant with my first child. It is a good thing you have such a supportive husband. Keep your feelings to yourself when you are around "those" people, or you can just stay away from "those" people. Embrace your belly. Pregnancy is so s_xy these days. Show it off and be proud. You are beautiful. Good luck to you. workfromhomeplan@yahoo.com www.iboplus.com/40245084 www.deliveringonthepromise.com/40245084

hey ladies, thanks for all the positive things- i have been on bed rest,had to quit my job because little one was trying to come early well now I am almost 38 weeks and has dialated to 4cm but hardly no contractions.........any advice how to bring them on????????????? PLEASE I'm so tired

Hi..I don't know what it is about people thinking they have a right to but into a pregnant woman's life! I noticed it with my first two and now with my third. with my first two it was all about giving me advise. This one, my third, is different - I am 36 and all I get is "what were you thinking?" I HATE IT. Honestly, I really have not figured out how to handle it, but when I read your post, Mom35, I felt your pain, because ever since I found out I am pregnant (7 weeks), I have been really self conscious and uncomfortable telling people because everytime I do I get a little remark! "But your life was getting so easy" (My girls are 4 and 7) or "what were you thinking" These comments suddenly put me in a place where I feel like I have to explain myself and that upsets me too - I guess I just want you to know, you are not alone - and I say to you Don't feel ashamed, feel proud and excited for the miracle that you will experience. God Bless.

Hello. I am 37, have two sons ages 16 and 12, married for the second time to a man 10 years younger. I am going off the pill in July and hope, after a couple of months, to start trying to get pregnant. A baby is a blessing and no one has the right to make you feel bad or question your decision to have a baby over 35!

Don't hide it be proud.That is your baby.If your friends and family truly care about you they will be supportive.I am 38 and trying to get pregnant.I have a 14 and a 18 year old.I would never be ashamed of any of my children unborn or not.That baby deserves parents who are just as proud of him / her as you were of your other children.You can replace your friends.Your kids you can't.

Well, I am not 35, but 30 and having my first and I know that is a big difference when others say you are getting too old to have a child. I think it is actually ridiculous for others to push their views into someone else's life at such a joyous time for a pregnant mom at that age of 35 or older. Just think when it seemed so impossible and really old several decades ago. At least the world is seeing that older than average age women to get pregnant the first time has certainly risen. I had planned to wait into my 30's to even start trying to have a family and do not even know when I will plan the next, which I am sure will be after 35 for my second. I think it shows maturity on a woman's part to wait til they have had time for their careers to get that going and to be more financially stable than say in their earlier 20 years when for me was such a growing time in learning who the heck I am. I am still trying to figure that one out. I also know what I want for my children and know I can give that to them than just hoping I would have the funds as if I was a twenty-something year old. I had my free time in my twenties and would not trade it for the world. It has made me who I am and I now know what I can and want to offer my child/children. Also, my mother had me at 20 but my younger brother when I was a teenager. I thought as an older sister it was so great. I had always wanted a younger sibling and was very close to him when he was younger. I loved taking him with me to the local fairs to ride the rides and taking care of him when he was picked on so the other kids respected me more as an older sister than if an adult had to get involved. I loved the age difference and it taught me what it took to have a child without me being the responsible one as a teenager. It was a deterent for me to try to have a child so young. There are so many great aspects of having a child when a little older. For one I have noticed older parents are much more patient and understanding with that child and give a little more space for them to grow up without suffocating them. To each his own, but don't ever let someone elses's view impose on your own. You know you have what it takes to raise a child the right way and hopefully better finances than a younger couple. But just know that consisten discipline is the key. My parents did make a bit of a mistake with my little brother who just graduated from high school get away too easily with things he should have been more harshly disciplined to show him out in the real world that kind of c___p is not exceptable and that everything is not handed to you once you get out into the real world. I hope yall know what I mean. Hope this helps. No one should feel shameful or guilty of waiting til their 30's or even 40's if that is what it takes. As long as we or you are not a lazy parent that does not want to deal with the child and give in to everything without teaching the child he/she needs to earn some thing in life.

You're only 35! I can't believe you have friends telling you you're too old to have a baby? Where do you live?? These don't sound like very good friends if you ask me! :)

Hey I am 36 and 6-7 weeks and I feel great. My daughter is 15 and I learned a lot over the years. She basically grew with me. When I had her I knew what I was going to do and I was focus'd. I also knew that more than one at that time would be to much. I had a very good support system. Now I am making the choice again. WHY? some fool may ask. Because I'M ready. This is not a FAD it is a life altering decision one that you as a woman make an YOU have to be comfortable with. As the old saying goes with friends like that who needs enemies.....LOl Keep your head up they are just jealous and probably have been for quite sometime. Remember for those that envy other SUCCESS hurts. So congrats girl and continue on with your SUCCESSFUL lifestyle.

Believe me, sweety, 35 is not old. I had my second child at 35 and now I'm 38 and still would like one more. We all take risks when we are pregnant. A 21 year old still has risks. When we are a bit older we are smarter and we are sometimes more ready to give things up for a child (speaking personally). That's how it was for me. You will be fine at 35 to have a child. Don't listen to people. Most people just don't have a clue. ENJOY your pregnancy and your baby and let us know how things go!

I'm 42 and 12 weeks pregnant. Alot of my friends have grandchildren now. I felt a little weird at first also, but now I am excited about having another baby. I have one daughter who is 18, and one daughter that is 5. I have not had the same types of obnoxious comments said to me like you have, but I've had my share of inappropriate comments made. I try to ignore those people who are stupid enough to say such things to me. Be happy! A baby is a blessing. Ignore ignorant people who make ignorant comments.

I am 39 years young and pregnant with my first. Where I live, no one even thinks about having kids until after 35! Both my sisters had their first babies when they were 39 and 40. Most of my friends are having their first in the ages of 38-40. Times have changed.

I feel sorry for your "friends" and their lack of respect for you and your feelings. I am 35 (hubby is soon to be 45) and i am pregnant with our first. Be thankful that your husband is proud and use this as a time to be even closer to him. Beyond my husband's opinion, most others don't matter to me. Also, my mother had me at 42, after 4 boys. I think that we are at a special place in our lives, and we have been blessed with a miracle. Thank goodness my friends and family feel the same. Good Luck!

Mom35, Remove the negativity from your surroundings! Tell your "friends" that what they are saying is hurtful and causes stress on you and the baby and if they continue that you will remove yourself from being around them and ask them not to come by. If they are truely your friends, then they will shut up, be your friend, and let you enjoy the moment of being pregnant!

I don't care what anyone says! I've waited a very long time for this and will NOT let anyone bring me down. I just turned 37 on July 19th, and found out I was pregnant on July 6th. I'm approx 7 weeks and this is my first. I will have u/s Thurs to know for sure. God bless all of you and keep the inspiring words coming, we all need them! Take care...

i'm 36 and this is my first baby and i don't feel old and i certainly don't feel embarra__sed by being pregnant.