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i'm 36 and this is my first baby and i don't feel old and i certainly don't feel embarra__sed by being pregnant.

HI I am 35 and preg. on first baby - and God help anyone who tries to burst my bubble! My husband (24 years old!!!!) and I are beyond delighted (we only got married 3 months ago) and I am exceptionally proud to be so lucky - that everything still works is a relief! Don't allow anyone to take away from your pleasure and pride and excitement - your baby must be due any time now - so best of luck and be happy.

I am 35 and 14wks pregnant with my 3rd it will be my current husbands first we are very happy and yeah I have had a few people ask me if I am crazy but oh well maybe I am but it was really important to my husband and I to have this baby I also had a m/c first try and was very scared at that point just don't let anyone get to you and good luck to the rest of you ladies 35 and older!!!

hi im 36 have six children ranging from 2years to 18 years.people are so rudewith their comments with my youngest if i said i was tired it was because of my age they said i t would take longer to bounce back after labour ,all that rubbish.i am now trying for baby number 7 i worry about what people will say if this happens ie NOT ANOTHER ONE,but its my right and my husbands my children are well behaved truly loved so no matter how many or at what age i decide i or anyone else wants kids it should be their choice.as long as that is they are over a certain age ,meaning not some young kid ready to throwtheir whole life away

Hi, i'm sorry, i shouldn't be posting here (i'm only 22) but i just wanted to say something. When i was pregnant with my first child, i was 19. I would see women in their 30's and 40's in the same position as me and i envyed them so much. I would never changed the way things happened for me, but at the time i wanted to be that age so i could have lived a little more, and have more patience and self discipline then i did. You will all be wonderful deserving mothers, so don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

When did 35 become old? I am 36 and this is my first. My husband is 42 and we are not even close to being old to have our first. I think that if your "friends" are not being supportive it is time to find new ones.

Hi Mom35, Think of yourself as part of the newest trend! I'm writing on this very issue! As a writer I'm privy to a lot of publications coming out soon focusing on this genre! It's hip these days to be 35 + and pregnant! Let your glow shine for all of those to see. Your friends comments "are so yesterday". LOL

Some days I feel old, some days just crazy, some days happer than I have ever been. I am 35 but will be 36 when our newest addition arrives. The hardest part of all of this is that this baby will be my second, and my son, who is 11, is not happy about it in the least. Anyone else in this situation? Good luck everyone!!

Hi Laura! I am 33, will be 34 when the baby comes but I too have an 11 year old and I too have many doubts about waiting until now to have another. So don't feel alone, I am there with you. I have good day when I think it will all work out and I have bad days where I think :what the heck am I doing? I have a sister who is 13 years older then me and it hasn't been until recently that we are forging a relationship. My dh is proud to be having this new little one and dosn't really see what I worry about. That only makes me feel that much more isolated. Well, just wanted you to know that you are not alone. I am here with you.

Dear Mom35- I totally agree with the other women posting here: your friends are being narrow-minded! I'm 36, pregnant for the first time, and I have FIVE friends who are my age and also pregnant for the first time. We are all academics who got our PhDs and have gone on to be professors- so we've established rewarding careers and now we are starting our families with great happiness. We don't feel (or look) old at all. (By the way, my mother was 34 when she had me, and my grandmother was 40 when she had her last child!) I made myself promise not to get married before I was 30 so I could have more freedom and life experiences before starting a family. So - to answer your question- you're clearly *not* the only one, and I think it's great that you're having a baby at 35. Don't let those tactless friends get you down. Congratulations. :-)

PS- I wanted to add something to what I just posted...I think that the average date of childbearing varies a lot from region to region. Apparently in Cambridge, Ma__sachusetts the average age of childbearing is mid-thirties- probably because there are so many women with careers who get married in their 30s. In other regions of the US where women have kids in their early to mid twenties, I can see that it would be a lot easier for a woman who has a baby in her mid thirties to feel isolated. Your environment will make a big difference to your perspective and maybe it will help to remember there really are places where no one would THINK to say that 35 is "old" to have a baby!

Thanks for the support!! I think that once the new baby gets here, my son will be much more recpetive (hopefully) I am glad that I am not the only one out there!! Thanks again!!!!

Julie-- Thanks for the support. Because I apparently can't read that well, the response that has your name on it is for you. Kills me being the new kid.....ha, ha

I turn 41 in 2 weeks. I spoke to my Doctor about fertility drugs after my miscarriage last month because I would LOVE to have twins, and she told me the following. 1) as a woman over 40 my chance of twins is naturally increased to 8%. Low dose fertility pills will increase that to 16%. She also told me that if I had trouble holding on to a single pregnancy it would be even harder to hold on to two. She said I would most likely have to leave work (I am an exec in a high stress office) in my 4th month. She told me I should think very very carefully about it, and if I still decided to go for it then she would put me on them. I still would not hesitate except for the higher risk of miscarriage. If my risk is 50% now, what would it be with twins. If you are like me, then go for it. As for multiples, well on lower doses it happens less. Good luck

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