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Lolosmoops: I just read your other thread today and first of all I want to tell you (even though there are no words to make it better) how very sorry I am for your loss. As to your question. . .I had a natural miscarriage in July 2005 (bleeding lasted the entire month) and was told by my doctor to wait 3 cycles (to allow uterine lining to build up and decrease my chances of another miscarriage) after August before ttc again. I was not emotionally ready to begin trying to conceive again until January 2006. We conceived on our 2nd attempt in February 2006 and I'm now in week 23 of pregnancy, I will be 38 when baby is born in November. I have an idea of what's going through your mind and you're worried about whether you can conceive and carry a baby to full term after a miscarriage. Yes, you can!! Naturally, you will probably worry more than you should. I think all of us who have lost a pregnancy tend to worry more than most mothers to be about every little thing that can go wrong. But despite our worries, staying positive as much as possible will help pull you through this difficult time and during a future pregnancy. I wish you comfort and peace in your time of grief and in the future.

Thanks Perl. That is good news to hear. My miscarriage was also natural. My bleeding has stopped today and I feel a little better. I'm not sure when I will ovulate next? I guess it will take a few months for my body to get back on track. I'm so glad to hear that you are in your 23rd week. How exciting! My sister had a miscarraiage and 1 month later was pregnant and now has a healthy 3 1/2 year old. So who's to say what the human body will do. Thanks for the news it helps to hear success stories. Lolo

Hi I'm sorry for your loss. I had a natural very early m/c in January. We were told to wait one cycle before trying again. We waited one cycle - which was hard for me, I wanted to get pg again right away. Then, the next cycle we tried I was pg again. The most amazing thing about this is that my first pg was acheived using IVF and I was told I would never get pg without IVF. Every woman is different in how long they need to heal emotionally and in what they need to do to heal. For me, trying again right away was the best thing, but for others its not. I did have alot of issues early on in this pg which were made harder by the m/c, but I am 22w now and hopeful that all will work out. Hang in there and take care of yourself. Carol Anne

In brief - I was advised to wait 3 cycles. It felt like an impossible amount of time at first and I worried constantly about how I'd feel if I came to the original due date without being pregnant. All I can say is, now that the 3 months are over and we are trying again (great fun!!) I feel much more confident and strong about pregnancy in general. I feel the "trial run" was meant to be and necessary for me to have a healthy pregnancy. Now both me and my husband feel very positive about the whole prospect and much more prepared for the ups and downs of pregnancy. I know it seems like ages now, but remember that your patience will benefit the child that you WILL have as soon as your body is ready again. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time. Don't rush your healing time. Your baby will love you for it. And remember, you have been pregnant - so you can do it again and you will.

Good advice from Hopeful. I know you are anxious to fill the emptiness and the hopefulness, but we were advised (each time, 2x) to wait 6 months before trying again - high risk OB actually said EVERY woman who m/c should wait that long for uterine lining to be in optimal condition - obviously there are those who don't wait and have successful pregnancies...we elected to wait the 6 mo each time. I thought it seemed forever however emotionally I was not ready to try again. In my experience, you need to grieve the loss you are going through as well as get in a positive frame of mind for the next time. A comfort I found when I got pg this time was joining a pg after m/c group on this forum.

Also are you seeing fertility specialist? If I recall correctly you guys had tried for 3 years...at our age they recommend you talk to someone if you have been trying for more than 6 mo and unable to conceive...hang in there!

Hello lolosmoops, I just want you to know I became pregnant 2 cycles after a missed miscarriage back in Dec 22'05. I was 13 weeks 6 days at the time. The heart just stopped beating. I had two long periods after the D&C..one which was 21 days and the other was 16 days. They determined I had retained fetal tissue left inside. I was scheduled for an additional ultrasound..but in the meantime I had a trip planned..so it would have to wait until my return. Eventhough my bleeding was irregular I a__sumed I was ovulating but my body was still trying to eliminate the retained fetal product..hence the long periods. I was always quite regular and even after the D&C the period started after 28 days. I wanted to get in touch with my body so I bought an ovulation prediction kit..I also did basal monitoring. Upon my return from my trip I was told I might need a repeat D&C..but instead I was pregnant again!! I am now in my 24th week..things couldn't be better. I am already talking about my next pregnancy after this one. I wish you all the best..and have faith that another pregnancy will be just around the corner. Miracles happen every day..as do tragedies and I thought I would never get pregnant again..but the good thing about getting pregnant after a miscarriage is that your chances of a repeat miscarriage are double that it will not happen second time around. Happy Baby Making!! Kristin

I am - 7w0d - I had 2 MCs, the first at 15 weeks last August, the 2nd in January. I did not try again until June (I needed an emotional break!) and we nailed it the first try.

Hi Lolosmoops,: Like so many others, I want to start by saying how sorry I am for your loss. I m/c's in October 2005 with twins. We were also told to wait 3 cycles (ideally) before we tried again but we waited a couple more months and got pregnant on our 1st attempt. We are now 21 weeks pregnant and things are going perfectly. Give yourself time to heal and hang in there. My prayers are with you and your family.

lolosmoops, I have been pregnant 3 times within 13 months. I got pregnant about 4-5 months after each miscarriage and we began trying about 1 month after each one. I have another post with more explanation of what has been going on. It can happen. Everyone is different for recovery. For some it's sooner. Good luck to you.