B Friend Called Me A Prostitute
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I am 3 1/2 months pregnant by accident. My bf is not happy about this and would prefer I get rid of it. I told him this is not going to happen and if he is not going to put a 100% in then he can leave. I gave him a choice to walk away now and he won't have to pay child support but he must sign away his rights forever, this is to prevent from coming back in my life when he decides to get the urge.. My bf would want to be involved if he didn't have to pay any support...the idea of child support doesn't sound good to him. Bf have known now for about two months that i am pregnant and he still have been coming around, but i believe this is because I am cooking for him and waiting on him like a child. I told him few weeks ago that i am tired and i don't want to be cooking every weekend, plus it is my money that is paying for the food and he is just taking, taking and taking and he don't give back much. This man does have money, but he is a cheap-ass and I feel like he is looking for freebies all the time while he is saving his own money. My Birthday is today, I am 39 and i feel good. I ended the relationship 2 nights ago. We were arguing about the fact that the night before he had called me stupit..he have called me names in the past and it is getting worst...he will often refer to me as SPUN in the head like is ex of eights years. I get many put downs from him that i don't deserve because i am a good person, and i have been kind to him. On Saturday night while we were arguing about things the pregnancy came up again and i told if you don't want it then just go away, but if you want to play the father then you have to pay me some child support. I have purchasing all the baby items such as crib, clothing etc and he doesn't offer a penny. In the end he said " You may as will be a prost_tute and go out working on the street. He told me "you tried to get pregnant to get my money" I told him that he really crossed the line this time..I also told him to F-off, get out of my place and don't ever call me again. I have noticed lately that when ever he comes around that he tends to cause me more stress that happiness, and he have been starting to boss my 10 year old son around..net picking all the time. I feel he wants total control when ever he visits. Does everyone believe that i made the correct decision. I don't feel say "yet" i actually feel like a weight have been lifted of my shoulders. Please offer me words of wisdom.
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I am so sorry you are in a stressful situation right now. Definately NOT what you need. I dont mean to offend but your boyfriend sounds like a real jerk and you are better off without him. You have given him a more than generous offer. Most women would demand child support (and rightfully so) no matter what the situation but you have given him the option of not paying. He sounds like just as you have described, a cheap, self-centered, immature man. I dont know your history with this man but if he is not willing to support you (emotional and finacially) with this pregnancy get rid of him for good. Although he has known for 2 months about the pregnancy it sounds as if he is only becoming more threatened by it (hence the horrible arguing and name calling), dont give out any more "freebies". If he comes around, insist he is no longer welcome in your home. YOu have to be firm because obviously he thinks he can have it both ways. I think in the long run you will be much better off and happier. You sound like a strong woman and you already know what it is like to be a single mom. He would probably be a dead beat dad anyways. I hope everything works out for you and please think of the precious life inside of you and do what is best for you and create a stress-free environment for your whole family.
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