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the same advice as I gave the mothers whose boyfriends did'nt want their babies,and that is I believe a child should be created from 2 people in love,and the baby is wanted.Obviously it is up to you,but you wanted advice.There is no doubt people will say when you hold the baby its all worth it,thats natural,but my question is,is it right?You do not know your boyfriend well enough to have started a new life with him,you are still learning about each other.A baby believe me,can put a strain on a relationship,especially one that has not developed.It is also not easy raising a child alone,it is not easy if you meet a new partner.There are many people in a loving relationship that for one reason oranother has not got children,usually its if the women does'nt want kids,thats it,just like if the women wants a child and gets pregnant,the man goes alone with it.You are already pregnant,I take it the baby was concieved by accident,after just 3 months.I can remember in the distant past having boyfriends,and it was a big step to even sleep with one,but to have a child no way,I'm glad they have faded and I've no ties.

It is ok, many women have gone through what you are going through right now. The first step as you know is to tell him. From there you can decide what you want to do. I disagree with Charlotte completely even though I am pro choice. I do not think that not having 2 parents is a reason to terminate a pregnancy. The bottom line is this. If you want this child keep it. If you choose to stay together try hard to work through it. Yes, it will strain your relationship. Every baby born strains a relationship because you go from being 2 to 3. If it does not work out the worst thing that can happen is you will be left with a child who loves you unconditionally and whom you love unconditionally in return. If you choose to go it alone then do so. I raised my kids alone without even childsupport when my husband got into booze then drugs and I had to end the marriage when my youngest was 2. My kids are now 18 and 14 and are well rounded smart loving kids. No booze, drugs or gangs, though my son is addicted to video games lol. I met a wonderful man (yes even with 2 kids) and we are now ttc his first and my 3rd child. I am 41. If you choose to terminate your pregnancy do it for the right reasons. Not because you are afraid of losing this relationship because you could try to do everything right and the relationship could still end. Do not do it because you are afraid of being a single parent, becuase that could happen to any one here. If you lose your husband you dont say ok, hubby is gone lets turf the kid. If you terminate the pregnancy do it because you honestly believe you are doing the right thing for you. If yo udecide to adopt also know that your world will still change, but that you are doing what you think is the best thing for the baby. Good luck and congratulations. It will be ok.

I think any woman, even one who is married, must know whether she wants the child or not. Be honest with your boyfriend. He may just surprise you. And even if you do not end up together in the long run, it does not mean he won't love his child and be the best father he can be. In the end, isn't that all that matters? A child with loving parents (1 or 2).

Not trying to be mean or anything but what were you doing sleeping with someone you don't know very well without any kind of birth control do you not think about aids or some of the other things you can get from that? You are lucky if all you get from him is a baby I really don't feel sorry for you or him you both should know what birthcontrol is they teach that in elementary schools these days so the one I feel bad for is this poor child!!

Fiona,i am in the same boat as you i have only known my bf for 3 months too . i am 6 weeks preg.. he is so happy to be able to be a daddy, he is 31.. I am 36.. I havent had unprotected s_x with anyone cept him. we made this choice together, maybe the only difference between us and u guys. People grow on each other, weither is 3 months or 3 ys..this way I guess we have no choice but to grow,hes not going anywhere and I am not aborting this baby. time will tell, one day at a time .. i was married for 14 yrs, had three beautiful children all planned.. my x turned out to be an physicaly and mentaly abusive . here i thought i made the right choice the first time. Whos to know... but I still have the kids they are mine and will be forever. husbands/boyfriends come and go.... kids are for life.. The choice is yours honey. and btw..(noname) condoms arnet 100% gaurenteed.. no birthcontrol is.. dont be so mean.