Daughter In Law S Deceased Mother
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There really really isn't a topic in this forum for my question but figured some women over 35 might be in my daughter-in-law's situation.
Her mother passed away several years ago when my d-i-l was quite young. I know she misses her terribly. She has asked me to help her with her late pregnancy and early motherhood days and I am thrilled and honored.
But, I would really like to figure out some way to bring her mother into the birth by somehow celebrating/honoring her when her first grandchild is born.
I would appreciate any ideas.
P.S. I was 34 when my miracle baby was born (ten years after our only other child) and have so enjoyed being an "older" mother. Much less stress!
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thats tough one....kudos to you for wanting to do this...my hubby and i gave our first daughter 2 middle names...both grandmother's first names are forever with her (both my hubby and my parents are still with us)...with this child, we are planning on giving him my hubby's middle name and use my last name as his 2nd middle name so i can honor my father too....i wish you good luck on finding something special!..xD
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Tori is right. I would help her come up with a way to name her child after her mom's side of the family. I am now 40 myself and expecting my first son...I do have a dd age 21 but being a female and being that I am not close to my mom..she was not given a family name. My son, however will have my father's middle name as his middle name..it is also my great grandmas maiden name. It's the only way I could honor him because like your DIL, he died when I was much younger....18. You are very wonderful to stand in like you are. It sounds like the two of you are very close. Good luck:)
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It's lovely you're doing this for your daughter inlaw. I was thinking that perhaps he mother put together a baby book when she was young. You could pull that out and see if you could somehow tie the pictures/comments to her pregnancy and birth. I think she would appreciate that gesture.
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you could get some pictures of her mom and have it made into iron-ons and make her a blanket for her baby.. A nurse did this for me when I had my daughter in the 3 days that I was in the hospital.. She actually made the whole blanket in 3 days!! It has my daughters name birthdate weight height. On the bottom of the blanket it said "To Melissa kisses and hugs sent from Heaven" If you can't make it.. find a seamstress and pay them!!
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I have no suggestions, but really just wanted to say what a wonderful MIL you are to do something like this. I'm 35 and my own mother who I was extremely close to, died just 3 years ago and it's a loss that has never gotten any better for me. Your daughter in law is SO lucky to have someone as caring and thoughtful as you. I'm sure it means the world to her. Some of the previous posters gave nice suggestions. Please let us know what you decide to do ~ and good luck. :-)
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pcarsey, can you give me more explanation about this blanket? It sounds like such a wonderful idea.
Her parents were divorced so it is hard to find information but I know she has some lovely pictures of her mother that my son might be able to sneak out of the house.
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I just saw a cute little stuffed bear wearing a t-shirt with a photo on it. Emailed my son and asked him to go through family photos, looking for a picture of mother and daughter-in-law.
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