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No way! Not even a sip or even a drop. I had to cancel a yearly wine tasting trip that my dh and I have gone to for several years now with family & friends because I didn't want to be tempted to have even one sip of wine. So what if you friend drank wine when she was pregnant--good for her. Some women do drugs while they are pregnant and a few are lucky that their babies turn out healthy anyway. Doesn't mean we should go take drugs or drink wine either. The truth is a lot of women do drink while they are pregnant. They made that choice for themselves and if we choose not to drink people should not try to convince us otherwise. Tell her it's up to you to decide what you're comfortable with and you don't need her advice. The point is, it's our choice to do what's best for our babies. Better to err on the side of caution--better safe than sorry.

she is crazy , back in the old days my mother and her era said that, but not now. I agree with you, you protect that baby and is one drink going to be worth it, sounds like to me she is the one who is messed up, sorry to say. You keep strong and stand your ground :) : ) :)

Hi lisa ... : ) I agree with Perl & miraclebaby, well said ladies. I've not heard of anyone who's has that occasional drink during their pregnancy. My opinion ... don't even go to a bar when you're pregnant. Alternatively, why not, suggest to your friends .... a "Alcohol & Smoke Free" place for your outings. Firstly, you can't order any alcoholic drinks on the menu cos there aren't any and no "2nd hand smoke" from cigarettes therefore no "dispute"so to speak. You're not paranoid, you're just being careful. Sounds like to me, you've got a "good" head on your shouders or would'nt be asking in the 1st place, right? Secondly, try getting your friends to understand/support your choice & respect it. I know good friends are hard to comeby but peers' pressure can be avoided. Last but not least, baby is yours not your friend's and you decide what's best for your baby. Best wishes & take care.

I saw a show on 20/20 that showed an ultrasound of a women having a gla__s of wine while pregnant. The fetus leterally went into convulsions on just one gla__s. This was seen live on the ultrasounds. Not even one gla__s of wine is reccomeneded. Sure our mothers may have drank when they were pregnant..but they had no idea the reprocussions of alcohol. You are not praranoid but anyone who does drink should be. They also said in the past an occasion gla__s of wine is ok..but on this tv special they said absolutely no alcohol at all...I think I'd rather be safe than sorry. Good luck Kristin

In my opinion, you are doing the right thing by not taking an in an ounce of any kind of alcohol. I have friends who swore up and down that research shows it causes no harm to the fetus. Look around... can't we all find "both sides" to just about anything? From chocolate to booze, people will always justify what they do. I had a friend who drank a bottle of wine with her husband every night after work. (with dinner, etc.) When she got pregnant, she fretted about not being able to drink anymore. Your friend called you "paranoid..." I have another word for drinking while pregnant- SELFISH! As for what our Mother's did "back when they had kids..." My Mom took diet pills because her doctor told her she was gaining too much weight! She also smoked at least 2 packs a day back then. Is it any wonder my older brother had severe colic for months and rejected 16 combinations of formula... including goat's milk!?

Lisa~As for everything like soda pop, chocolate, and yes alcohol and smoking, there is so much debate. Most reports will tell you only to do so if necessary and in moderation. But what is moderation to one may not be to another, so this is tricky. I don't drink or smoke, but I will tell you one thing. I'd be more concerned what is in the meat we eat everyday than a drink of alcohol. Unless you are on an extremely organic diet, there is so much harm in meat, chicken, and pork that I can't even start to list; this is what worries me more than anything. The only answer is to buy all organic which is something I am looking into. You do what feels right to yourself and don't listen to anyone else. Best of luck with your pregnancy!! :):) xo

I understand that there is debate over caffeine and how high levels of it can have an effect on the baby. However, there is no doubt that smoking and alcohol can have an affect. They have an affect on us as adults if we have too much, just like mind altering drugs. Now think of the size of the baby compared to you . If you're feeling it by the second or third drink and weigh approximately 120 pounds (just making it up for the example), how much of an effect do you think that has on a 5 pound or less baby whose system is still in the development stage. I love Pepsi, but for my baby's sake, it had to go. I can have some later, after I deliver. The same with alcohol. It's better safe than sorry. Do everything you can to bring that baby in this world healthy. Then we can all get drunk off our a$$es later.