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I know how you feel although I haven't had a tubal but I have a mother that feels the same way. I have 3 kids and had difficult pregnancies with each. I have had pretty severe preeclampsia and 3 sections. I have gotten the OK to have one final child before tying my tubes and my family thinks I'm nuts and can't believe we'd even consider it. I have been called selfish etc. My dr is a high risk specialist and each pregnacy has improved but I still need to be at a High Risk Clinic. I know how you feel when the desire is there. Keep praying about it and it will all come together, Good luck.

Thank you lovemy3. I too had difficult pregnancies, with 4 c-sections, diabetes and placenta previa, but that still didn't and won't deter me!! I really understand what you are saying, I am even nervous about telling anyone I would love another baby! I will pray and send positive thoughts to you. Best of luck..

Thanks lisafl, it is really hard, a lot of people don't understand that desire. How was your 4th section compared to your others? Did you have placenta previa with them all. I feel more fear and am struggling with the decision to try 1 more time because I do feel very blessed, all 3 are very healthy and I lived to tell about it and my sections went well and my bp returned to normal. I as well had gest diabetes last time and that is gone as well. My big downfall is I am 80 lbs overweight. Went we went to see my dr he told me to lose weight and he also cautioned us on the risks of placenta accrete and previa. he told us a bout severe bleeding and said the rate of need a transfusion is 1/10!? he also talked about the risk of my preeclampsia coming back again although with#3 it was non-existent. I do feel so blessed already but the desire is still there. Every time I try and convince myself this is great, what a great family, how blessed are we etc the thought is still there-- just not done. My mom and dad will not be receptive at all. They thought having baby 3 was just crazy, I know they won't even be able to grasp this concept at all. Now also I am worried as my 37 b-day is next month and the last time I delivereed I was barely 34. Just about Downs and diabilities. My kids are 10, 4 and 2.5. How have you made out with your pregancies? What complications and outcomes did you have with the previa? It was nice reading your post and knowing even after 4 sections you are still well. Thanks so much

dear lovemy3. My experience with my 4th c-section was truthfully much easier than my first three, I recovered quicker and the pain afterwards seemed less, it had been 6 years since I had my 3rd. I had placenta previa with all my pregnancies with the last one the worst as far as covering the cervix. My ob a__sured me that pp was nothing but unlucky and having one or more does not guarantee future pp (so I guess in that regard I was just unlucky!). I can understand your fear and desire, you really do think am I pushing my luck! I have felt it all too. I too am overweight but this didn't affect my health or pregnancy at all. I too was considered a high risk pregnancy but I was aware of the possibility of a major bleed and my ob stressed that if I was close to the hospital or in hospital it is rarely a problem, but I had no bleeding at all.. I was in hospital from abt 32 weeks but that was more to control my diabetes than the pp. I felt fantastic throughout my pregnancy, I had an amnio with my last pregnancy to check how things were with the baby, who was perfect. I guess all I can say is I knew all the risks but weighing that up with not having another child I thought I could handle it, I really put my faith in the experts considering they knew more than me and trusted their wisdom and experience. My family will be freaked out by my desire to have another but as I gently explained to my Mum she has had her turn to decide how many children she wanted and now it is my turn, whether she supported me or not, although deep down I wish she would be happy for me. I so know that desire and feeling that it just aint over yet, which is why we are trying for one more. My children are 13 (jemma), 9 (georgia), 7 (liam) and charlotte 10 months. I too am 37 next month. I really am an example of how a HR pregnancy can be managed....I dearly hope you reach a decision you will find peace with. For me if I hadn't had at least one more after my third I would have always wondered if I made the right decision, but in saying that it did take courage, love and faith to have another I like you never thought I could be this lucky, thought I was tempting fate or something, does that sound crazy. I really understand what you are going through. Thinking of you...Lisa

hi there, thats great to hear your 4th went well. So how are things going now? Are you ttc? Did you have problems in the past ttc? That is great that you conceived Charlotte after your reversal. Are reversals usually successful? Did your dr give you any advice about a 5th c-sectrion and what the risks were? We are going to go back to our dr on July 28 with some added questions about advanced maternal age issues and I think will ttc. I really want to work on the weight issue over the next few months. Did you need shots for your diabetes or did diet control it? I was lucky and although I had to test throughout the day, diet kept mine in check. I think my biggest fear is about the placenta issues and I have this fear about bleeding out. That is when I feel really guilty about taking any undo risks already being a mom ya know? but I guess I would never have had my last 2 if I didn't. What you said about tempting fate doesn't sound crazy, thats exactly how I feel too. For me I also feel like with my age, time is ticking onward. we will only ttc until the end of dec 2006 and then we will call it a day. With my first 3, I got pregnant the first try but then last nov,dec and jan we tried using an ovulation kit and nothing happened which really surprised me. I'm thinking it could be weight related and need to work on that. Also, I guess as you get older it is harder to conceive as well. I think I noticed in another posting i read you were from Australia, I live way over here in Canada! In any case have a great day!

I have a friend whol had two babies after her tubal reversal and she was at least 36 or so, maybe even 40. She now has 8 children altogether.

well there ya go, thats a great success!! Were they born v____ally or sections?