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Everyone, good luck, especially searfoss6. You all make good points; just realize that, perhaps, less is more. (I am baby crazy myself; hoping to have my first!!)

Hi searfoss. There were too many answers to read right now, so I'll just add my thoughts: I had a neighbor in a similar situation as you, and I tried very very hard to not roll my eyes. It wasn't a bad thought I had; it was a jealous thought. I'd love to stay at home and raise my children and have more of them. Well, 2 out of 3... I'm raising them, ttc, and will work until I retire. So will dh. Ignore them, enjoy your life and your family, and if it's really awful, giggle at them and walk away - nothing like confusing them lol.

lol, just finished reading them... suze, I'll have to second your comment on the meds!

I guess my hormones are making me too sensitive again. Recently it seems every little thing gets under my skin. The weather is getting better so soon I can take the kids outside and then hopefully get back to normal. Thanks alot for the support everyone.

Wow. I just found this post and there are some really negative comments on here. I would like to say 'Congratulations!' to you and your family. The only time I have a problem with people having many children is if they aren't responsible in caring for their children. It sounds like you and your husband are providing an excellent environment for your family. I live in Pennsylvannia where I am surrounded by conservative Mennonite and Amish families. It's not uncommon for these families to have upwards of 8 children. My husband's grandmother was a conservative Mennonite who had 15 children. All these children were loved and raised to be hardworking and people of integrity. The world sure could use some more of that. I think that's worth spending some of the earth's resources. Anyway, I am 36 and am expecting my 3rd child in November, '07. My sons are Wyatt, 3 1/2 and Edison, 2. I always envisioned having a large family myself. But, I got started a little later in life than I anticipated. My husband and I married when I was almost 31. So, I'd still like to have at least 4 children. But, I don't think I feel comfortable continuing to have children after 40. Of course, you never know what God has in store. Children are blessings!!!

Another Pennsylvanian. I'm also from Pa., but am considered to me North eastern (coal region) territory. I see your sons are 3 1/2 and 2 and are due in November. Sounds like me with my little ones last year. My daughter was 3 1/2 and my son 2 when my last son was born (he just turned 1 last month). Now expecting one more in September. This will be my last for sure (even though I said that after each one), I also have that having kids over 40 thing going on. I don't know if it has as much to do with turning 40 as having 4 little ones to raise at the same time. It's alot of work, but it's nice to see them play together once in a great while, it's usually "he pulled my hair" " i want what he has" stuff. People ask how I do it without going crazy, but i think after two it all becomes routine, you just use to the chaotic life style of never being done or having time. At least it's not boring :) Plus my oldest two are pretty independent. My 19 year old lives in his own apartment and supports himself and his brother is about to get his first job at 16 and learn to drive. I think the real neat thing about having 2 older children is that I have hind-sight into what is going to happen. I already went thru the toddler, child, pre-teen and teenage years, so I have a good idea what's next, but of course, now with a daughter, who knows what i'm in for in the next 10 to 15 years. :)

Hi to Searfoss6. Yeah, I'm located in South Central PA. I hear what you are saying about getting used to the chaos. It was a huge adjustment for me when I went from 1 child to 2. But, I'm thinking that adding #3 into the mix is going to be a smoother transition (I hope). I've learned to let go of some of my expectations and not to compare myself to other moms so much. I went through a fairly long period of depression after my second son was born because I thought I should be able to do it all... have happy children, a clean house, energy for my husband. Hah! And, I was sure that every other mom had her stuff together and that I was the only one dealing with children who were whiny or otherwise very demanding, a messy house, and nothing left for my husband. Things are better now that my youngest is 2, but I still haven't achieved perfection or anywhere close to it and I don't feel as much pressure anymore to do so. My biggest hurdle I think with Baby #3 will be finding the needed energy for caring for 2 very active preschool boys and an infant. The older I get, the less energy I seem to have.

To WyattandEdisonsmommy: Yeah, it's the perfection thing that takes awhile to deal with, actually i still do. I clean my house every morning and by dinner time in looks like a tornado went through. I still do everything mostly myself. I guess I feel like since i'm home it's my responsiblity. I did finally however buy myself a dishwasher for the first time and that helps alot. As far as the perfect kids feeling I think alot of moms feel the same way. My daughter and year old son are very easy to deal with, very understanding and calm, well, my 3 year old is finallly outgrowing the terrible 2's that started at 18 months. He was into the kicking and biting thing. I couldn't take him anywhere because he would cause a scene. Other people's children would just sit there and mine would be a wild child. Luckily he is now outgrowing it and seems to be calming down, I think alot had to do with his speech delay. Anyway, energy is something I have little of, seems some days I have alot some very little. I'm about 3 1/2 months pregnant now so I can only imagine how I'll be in a couple of months. Maybe I'll hit the lottery and can hire a nanny :)

Hi again searfoss. It sounds like we have some stuff in common. I also pretty much do everything around the house. I have that 'I'm a stay at home mommy and my husband is working to support the family so I should handle everything in the house" feeling. And, I am very grateful that my husband has been VERY supportive of me staying home with our children. We both can't imagine doing it any other way. But, it would be nice if he'd do the basics of picking up after himself. Anyway, I keep reminding myself that dirty socks on the floor and dirty dishes left on the table are small potatoes compared to the issues in some marriages. I have a wonderful man who loves me and his children. I can also relate to having embarra__sing moments out with a 'wild child'. My youngest is rather dramatic and can be willful. He's especially prone to crying tantrums in the grocery store, trying to climb out of the cart, running away from me. So, there I am struggling through my errand and I always see other women with 4 or 5 small children in tow who are perfectly well-behaved. I'm glad to hear your little one is growing out of it. Hopefully mine will be soon too?