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I was in a similar position. I had a son at 41 and had 2 consecutive miscarriages. My doctors also said they was not preventable. The 50% miscarraige rate was also what I was quoted. I did not take the baby aspirin. I had faith that my doctors knew what they were doing. It took another 18 months but I am now 29 weeks pregnant. I too am married to a younger man (10 years and 2nd marriage). My son was his first child and we really wanted a sibling for him. Good luck and I hope that you conceive shortly! P.S. I am sick of hearing "at your age". I went to the doctor last month and had gained 4 pounds bringing my total to 12. The doctor said that at "my age" that was too much in 1 month.

Wow. I'm in the same boat as you guys except that I'm 44. My husband is younger, and I've had 4 m/c since I was 40. The one thing I'm doing differently is taking aspirin, as I've had blood clots in my legs before. But I'm so nervous, because I'm wondering if I need progesterone too.

Thanks Tammy, your post gives me hope, but I also dont want to wait 18 months before conceiving again. that would make me almost 44. Hanna, are you pregnant now? How did you overcome the heartache of 4 m/c's? I am so afraid I will do just that. Have one after another after another. I have looked around but can't find much info on not feeling poorly and m/c and whether it is progesterone related or not. I trust my doctor, heck she is even willing to put me on fertility meds if I want even though she said that if I cant carry one what makes me think I can carry two?

P.S. I got you beat as my man is 15 years younger than I am

I am 35yrs old and 14wks pregnant I also had a mc at the begining of the year around my 7th week I did use the progesterone cream this time I just got the otc natural progesterone cream as I read really good things about it you just have to make sure that it does not have harmful additives in it just do a google search and you will find tons of web sites about it just do some research on it it is also helpful when trying to conceive and it is not very much money so you should give it a try alot of doctors don't recomend it cause they say that it won't help but the research says other wise as I said just do the research I did and I am glad I did there are also alot of benefits to using the natural progesterone cream during pregnancy even if you are not worried about mc it is worth a try and alot cheaper then getting tons of tests and prescriptions that don't work or have harmful side effects

Maidencanada, I had a similar situation in March. I am 38 years old. Yes, you will eventually get over the hurt. I was SOOO sad for about a month, a feeling just came over me "I can do this, its ok". My dr. told me similar things to yours. Nothing you can do if you're going to miscarry. He also suggested the baby aspirin to me. I have been trying for 4 months. We're not pg yet, but I am feeling pretty good about it. But, I hear you, in those first days after the m/c, I thought I wasn't going to make it............try to just get through each day. Good luck!!

I'm 42 and have suffered through 2 recent miscarriages. I'm now seeing a RE and would be happy to share my experience. Also have a m/c support forum starting for women who too often hear "at your age!" For an invite, request: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/stillhealing/message/1

To Maidencanada- I know 18 months is a long time to ttc. I guess that I did not seek out alternative choices because I was scared to get pregnant again. By the way, I am 45 and hubby is 10 years younger. Lots of perks with a younger husband. My friends envy me. Good luck everyone---

Thank you all very much for your posts. It is amazing that a tiny being you have known for such a short time can impact your life so dramatically. It is hard. And it hurts emotionally to the core. I am not afraid of trying again. I am more afraid of not concieving quickly. And of course I am now afraid of M/C again. And here I thought I would only have the genetics/down syndrome to worry about. Thank-you RL for your post. I spent the day (whenever the boss was out of the office) researching Progesterone and I have concluded my doctor is right and it not the problem. Thank-you T for the info on the group. I intend on signing up today. And yes Tammy, as soon as you get over the age gap, IMHO there is nothing like a younger hubby. I think that the men in the 25-35 age range have a sensitivity and understanding and need for home and hearth that many of their older counterparts lack. If it is ok, I would like to continue reading and posting on this board. I am not pregnant anymore, but hopefully, soon that will change.

Maidencanada- By all means, post away. Maybe you will have good news soon. I will keep my fingers crossed. My first miscarraige took me a long time to recover from. I didn't realize how much I wanted that baby until it was too late. You willbe in my prayers.

I'm so glad I found you all! I'm 44 and married to a younger man. I have 2 sons, 9 and 16 from my first marriage. I remarried at 40 and have gotten pregnant every year since. I've miscarried them all. The last one was lost at 17 weeks and it nearly killed me emotionally. I found out that I'm pregnant again - just barely - 4 weeks, 2 days. I would give just about anything for this one to come out ok. My doctor briefly mentioned progesterone a couple of miscarriages ago, but said that the likelihood of me carrying a child since I'd had so many miscarriages was nearly impossible. I am going to watch this site and see if I can gather some questions before my first doctor's appointment (with a new doctor) on August 29. Good luck to everyone who is trying. It's frustrating and heartbreaking, but I still hold out hope.

Hi Suellen. I will keep my fingers crossed for you. My Doctor said that as soon as I am pregnant again I will go on low dose aspirin (like baby aspirin). She said that her patients have had significant "luck" when taking the aspirin early in pregnancy, and she should know as she specializes in women 35+. Perhaps you should ask your doctor about it. I am glad you changed Doctors as miscarriages do not mean you cant carry one to term. Many of the women on this board have had 4 or more m/c and have gone on to have a healthy child. Oh and if you would like to meet other agegap couples give send me an email. I am a modorater ona great group.

Hi maidencanada, do you have any more news? I am about 7 weeks along with this baby, and the only people I've told are my family, and just this a.m. my boss. I'm hoping she can give me just a little less work for the next week or so, I've been working overtime and I'm exhausted. I'm debating whether to call the dr. or not. I feel like just waiting until the 8 week to be sure I won't miscarry again. By the way, my hubby is only 5 years younger than me, so I joke with him about contributing his "old" sperm:)

Hi Hannah, Congrats!! What I suggest is get to the Doctors as early as possible. In our 20's it is ok to wait awhile but my doctor said that as soon as I find out I am pregnant that I should get in right away. There are many reasons a woman miscarries and most of them are not preventable. However, a few of them are. Perhaps baby aspirin will help in your case, or maybe progesterone cream, or maybe nothing at all. But why chance it. A 50/50 chance to miscarry in the first 12 weeks are not great odds (I actually prefer a 50/50 chance to continue the pregnancy heehee), and anything that will help those odds are important. Get lots and lots of sleep. go to bed at 9 if you need to. Just pamper yourself like crazy. I am so happy for you Hannah, and can't wait to be in your position again. But my m/c only happened on July 22nd so I have a ways to go. Hugs to you and the peanut. :0)

From what I have read, declining progesterone is a symptom of miscarriage, not a cause of it. Meaning that there were other factors causing the miscarriage (chromosonal, etc) and the progesterone declines because the pregnancy is failing, not the other way around. That said, many women on here seem to swear by the progesterone supplements, so it might be worth consulting another doctor to get a second opinion.

Thanks for the hugs maidencanada . (long name:o) It's hard to want to go back to the dr. and hear "at your age".. and know that there is a 50/50 chance it will end as a m/c. But the funny thing is, I had a dream and the dream had a diaper bag and fifty thousand dollars in it! Boy do we want that dream to be true. We both feel this baby will make it. I'm sorry you lost your baby at 9 weeks. I've never made it that far with the ones that m/c. It was always in the 6 or 7th week. You said your m/c happened 22 july. Are you still bleeding? I got pregnant again before I even had a period... I'll send lots of baby dust your way okay?