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i am 39, first pregnancy (for me and boyfriend) and we are very excited about this blessing.
i am just 13 weeks now, just heard heartbeat yesterday...and that really made this whole thing a reality for us. we have also been keeping this quiet between us but have now decided to start spreading the news since i made it through first trimester (amnio in September)
concern i have is many of our mutual friends (and some family) have had problems conceiving for years...we werent' even trying and i got pregnant...not to mention i'm considerably older than all of these couples who are trying to conceive.
i just wondered how to delicately go about telling these people...
it may seem as if i'm being too cautious, but i had a friend who struggled for years to have a child and everyt ime one of our friends got pregnant she would shut this person out of her life..it was too painful for her to see others having children.
so i'm afraid of the same i guess...that these people may shun us because seeing me pregnant is too painful for them.
any suggestions would be appreciated. this is a great site....so happy to have found it
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Sage, as long as you're happy, those who care about you should be happy too. I know it doesn't compare, but if you got a promotion or won a lottery or bought a beautiful new home, anyone who has your best interests at heart would be genuinely happy for you. I think that any person who shuts you out because you are granted a blessing in this life has a mental problem you can't do anything about. Take it from me, I've been raped, beaten and poor most of my life, and I have an autistic chiled, but I have friends who "have it all" as they say, and I'm happy about every one of their successes and acomplishments. Tell everyone and be proud!
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Congrats Sage - that is fantastic! Take it from someone who is 37 and has been trying for over two years to get pregnant. I've been through countless tests, had a miscarriage and also been informed that a sister-in-law is due the month our miscarried baby would have been due. Five friends in the last three months have announced their pregnancies and I seem to see pregnant women everyone! It is just so beautiful and wonderful to see a women's pregnant body and the happiness she feels seems to spread around her. Everyone should be SO HAPPY - how can others be jealous or upset? Allow yourself to be completely wrapt in the joy of this and do not let anyone get you down. If they appear sad or jealous, don't be too concerned as they may need time to accept that it has not happened for them as easily. Do not apologise for your preganancy. If someone decides to shut you out, let them be and perhaps they will feel differently if/when THEY get pregnant.
I wish you lots of luck and remember to enjoy every moment of this special time :)
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